Vyliss Posted November 7, 2017 Posted November 7, 2017 I'm in my 30s but honestly, even in the late 90s I was chatting to guys online. Doesn't anyone remember ICQ, Yahoo Chat (the HTML/Java version), AIM and MSN? Sure they were not "mainstream" but for someone who was very shy in my late teens, the internet really was a blessing for meeting people. I met nearly every one of my boyfriends online (from the age of 17). Having said that I've met men the traditional way too (nightclubs, parks etc). The benefit of meeting men in real life is you know instantly if you have chemistry or not. You could easily "avoid" the weird socially awkward ones. It took a bit longer to figure that out online - but I just make sure I meet up as soon as possible. Personally I don't see too much of a difference meeting online vs offline. OLD is more convenient and you go through more men, but that just means you need to filter 90% more often than you need to offline. If you really want to meet someone compatible, do both at the same time.
Miss Spider Posted November 7, 2017 Posted November 7, 2017 (edited) Not everyone meets online. I know a lot of couples in their 20s and 30s and only one so far that met online. School, friends, work, social events. Reminds me of the thread asking where to see women IRL. I think this forum is a scewed representation because people who post here are avid internet users/communicate more online so it's not weird that extends to dating. Very rarely you get the person who is just too afraid to talk to their friends about it Edited November 7, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
Mkn1010 Posted November 7, 2017 Posted November 7, 2017 When I was dating in my early 20's pre dating apps, I went on maybe 5 dates TOTAL before meeting my LTR guy at 23. That relationship ended when I was 28, just when the rise of Tinder was happening and man was it weird! Over the course of maybe 6 months, I probably went on 25 dates (so much much easier to get dates). 5 dates over a few years back in the day vs 25 dates in 6 months via Tinder! And yes, it completely skewed my perception of 'standards' in that if I wasn't feeling all this instant connection cr*p, I'd simple keep swiping away and select another date like ordering food (as Cookies put it). I believe my generation suffer from commitment phobia because of far too many options at their fingertips! Yet it's ironic as the so-called 'options' are a fallacy because 99% of these matches lead to nowhere!! Yes, we've lost the capacity to work with someone, compromise and take the good with the bad! This is the rise of instant gratification, selfishness to extreme levels and narcissism! I've posted about this before lol .... in fact all social media platforms perpetuate self-absorbed behaviour! I no longer participate in any of it aside from this board (if that counts). 2
Echo74 Posted November 7, 2017 Posted November 7, 2017 I remember we had a personals section in our newspaper. You'd put a three word title then some description of what you were looking for. And if I recall correctly, respondents could call and leave a message using an assigned phone number. It was quite successful for me. I'd just weed out who I liked and called them, no caller ID back then so my number was safe. I went out with maybe 3 guys and ended up marrying one of them. Now 23 years later it's so much harder because with OLD you have to put your age and a lot guys seem to want women their daughters age. Maybe I should just go bar hopping instead, lol.
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