Bikekid360 Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 I meet this girl last night at a free museum meet up for Christian folks in the 20/30s. We had some good conversations, spent most of the time in the general vicinity, but didn't crowd her and follow her. It seemed she was interested in me but she then left early, but not before saying it was nice to meet me and say good bye. It happened unexpectedly and I didn't react fast enough to get her number. Would it be weird to message her through the meetup app to get her number? Or do I just hope she comes to another meet up?
LadybugLucy Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 I don’t think it’s weird. After all, the whole purpose of Meet Up is to meet and get to know new people. If she doesn’t respond, then it will save the awkwardness of her rejecting your request in person. Also if you don’t ask, and don’t see her at a future meet up, you’ll play the “what if” game in your head - such as “what if I would have asked, etc.”. So go for it.
LadybugLucy Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 Perhaps the OP should read any rules on meet up boards to see if asking for a number is appropriate. 1
darkmoon Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 (edited) tell the meet-up group or her what you told us, specially the "nice meeting you" look, she said you were nice, but just to make sure feminists do not object, also add that there will be no hard feelings if there is a non-response "nice meeting you" is hardly w*nking into a pot-plant publicly, or demanding sex for fame etc haha, she was hinting she liked you too, a Christian would not lie Edited November 5, 2017 by darkmoon
smackie9 Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 Be bold and ask her for a date and her number on the app. Women love confidence, so you may as well be forward about it. If she doesn't want to she can say no or not answer, no big deal. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 I'm all for the direct approach but I'd be weirded out by a guy who reached out through the App. I don't know who else could see such a message & would be quite leery of sharing personal contact info that way. Look through the events; find one or two that interest you & message her that you hope to see her at the next thing. Then ask for the # in person.
smackie9 Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 I'm all for the direct approach but I'd be weirded out by a guy who reached out through the App. I don't know who else could see such a message & would be quite leery of sharing personal contact info that way. Look through the events; find one or two that interest you & message her that you hope to see her at the next thing. Then ask for the # in person. Normally I would agree with this BUT someone in their 20's wouldn't bat an eye because everything is done through social media, etc. anyways. She did make a point of saying goodbye before she left, and he did get the impression she was interested so what the hay. She has already made up her mind whether she wants to date him or not, so how he asks her out isn't going to change that. 1
alphamale Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 Normally I would agree with this BUT someone in their 20's wouldn't bat an eye because everything is done through social media, etc. anyways. She did make a point of saying goodbye before she left, and he did get the impression she was interested so what the hay. She has already made up her mind whether she wants to date him or not, so how he asks her out isn't going to change that. I agree smackie9
chinadiary Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 Some meet up groups ban 'soliciting' members through their messaging service. Double check, because I've heard of members losing their memberships because they've done that.
alphamale Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 Some meet up groups ban 'soliciting' members through their messaging service. Double check, because I've heard of members losing their memberships because they've done that. by "soliciting" they mean trying to sell things or advertising, not asking for a date.
chinadiary Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 by "soliciting" they mean trying to sell things or advertising, not asking for a date. Nope. One of the groups I've been in explicitly forbids messaging other members, with a view to romance/dating. They have cancelled memberships for those that have been caught doing it.
alphamale Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 Nope. One of the groups I've been in explicitly forbids messaging other members, with a view to romance/dating. They have cancelled memberships for those that have been caught doing it. so? then just join a singles group or a group that allows fraternization
chinadiary Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 so? then just join a singles group or a group that allows fraternization Yes. But he wants a date with a girl from a NON dating group. One he's already met. He's trying to find an acceptable way to ask her out.
mortensorchid Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 I would simply go back to the MeetUp website/app and find her there, say something simple like "It was nice to meet you last Saturday" (or whenever it was). If she responds with "Thanks I enjoyed it as well" then that means she is at least acknowledging you. Check first with the webmaster or the administrator of the group to see if it's okay to ask someone for a date through their group (some do not like that for whatever reason). If you get the green light from them, then by all means is it okay to ask her if she would like to get together again. Yes, for some the purpose of MeetUp is not just to meet people to be friends with but for something more, this may not be one of those "something more" groups.
alphamale Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 I would simply go back to the MeetUp website/app and find her there, say something simple like "It was nice to meet you last Saturday" (or whenever it was). If she responds with "Thanks I enjoyed it as well" then that means she is at least acknowledging you. Check first with the webmaster or the administrator of the group to see if it's okay to ask someone for a date through their group (some do not like that for whatever reason). If you get the green light from them, then by all means is it okay to ask her if she would like to get together again. Yes, for some the purpose of MeetUp is not just to meet people to be friends with but for something more, this may not be one of those "something more" groups. I run a meetup group in Detroit with 1200 people in it. trust me everyone is sleeping with everyone (or at least wants to)
chinadiary Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 Check first with the webmaster or the administrator of the group to see if it's okay to ask someone for a date through their group (some do not like that for whatever reason). If you get the green light from them, then by all means is it okay to ask her if she would like to get together again. Yes, for some the purpose of MeetUp is not just to meet people to be friends with but for something more, this may not be one of those "something more" groups. Exactly. Can't go wrong this way.
Miss Spider Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 I have had guys do this after a couple unisex meetups I went to. It wasn't interested but I guess it wasn't weird.
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