Tinder Experiences

[LoverOfDance]

@rightondude Sorry your date didn't go as expected. Maybe give her one more shot? If she flakes again I'd definitely move on. All the best.

[CryForNoOne]

SCINTILLATING UPDATE: she called it off an hour beforehand: "Is it possible for me to get a raincheck? it's been a bad afternoon and I have a stress headache."

 

Oh well. FWIW I prefer Bumble anyway. Since women get bombarded with choices, if one actually does choose you, you can have some level of confidence in them actually moving forward.

 

It means she's hooking up with a hot guy who replied back to her after you...

[rightondude]

It means she's hooking up with a hot guy who replied back to her after you...

 

good for her; she probably made the right choice.

[TheTraveler]

I rather go to a party than be waiting around for some women to like me!

 

You can go to a party and swipe at the same time

[Logo]

What's not to love of about how consumerism has finally reached it's logical consequence of allowing us to shop for human beings online? A dating platform that caters human narccissism, superficiality, irrational emotions, insecurities, desire for instant gratification? Now we have a perfectly acceptable way to be shallow, knowing we are among like-minded people.

 

Also, interacting in the 'real' world is not really the most efficient thing these days. If you're feeling a little hungry, you go to GrubHub. If you want some red bottoms you go to Tradesy. You decide you want a human being? You go to Tinder.

 

You go on there and start shopping for your 'goods'. You might have an idea of what you want or you might just be browsing hoping something catches your eye. The most important part is that it looks good. Doesn't mean it has to be what 'society' says you need, because you're so above that kind of superficiality. But it has to look desirable in a way practical to you.

 

Then you can read the couple sentence description and if that checks out. Sometimes, similarly to how if it's packaged nicely, the description can augment your desire to choose it. If it doesn't come with any description or label, it's a little buyer beware. However, if it looks how we want it to, it's probably worth the cheap cost.

 

The goods (people, of course, in the case of Tinder) here are so cheap that we can afford to buy it even if it comes a little damaged or not as great as we hoped. We can always decide to not to use it or or use briefly and discard without much cost to us.

 

 

I'm not only going to like your post, I'm going to quote it again and write that I feel as though you have been reading my thoughts.

 

Online dating has either brought out the worst in people or has turned people into the worst generation. I'm still undecided what came first.

 

And you've used all the key words to describe how I feel about this entire online ruse: Narcissistic, shallow, disposable, temporary. I would add flaky and selfish and rude.

[Logo]

I tindered for almost three years and had a blast, met several people that I care about a lot. I dated the first guy I met on Tinder for a year and a half. I think its great.

 

 

You had a blast by meeting several people you "cared" about? Doesn't sound like long-term relationships. I care about the old lady that works the checkout lane at the grocery store, too.

 

I suppose a year and a half is an accomplishment given that online dating is so fickle.

[greymatter]

I ended up in a 14-month relationship with a tinder date and had a few dates with others following that relationship which usually resulted in several dates and no pressure to hook up. It's easy to tell which men are looking to hook up and which are using it as a way to meet women. For me, tinder resulted in a relationship with a guy I really cared about.

[rightondude]

Online dating has either brought out the worst in people or has turned people into the worst generation. I'm still undecided what came first.

 

Definitely people were the worst long before OD. It's pretty much my understanding of the disco era (hey baby what's your sign) that sex was cheap and people were used. People used to stone heretics. People used to own slaves for pete's sake. People were trash long before Jerry Springer, that just gave them a larger public forum.

[kassy]

Tinder is like walking into a bar, there's the creepy guys in the corner, they guys just out to get laid and the guys looking for a relationship (and the married guys looking for an affair). I think on tinder it's generally easier to know which is which. Most people are happy to tell you what they are looking for and if they are single or not.

 

Go have fun, it's a great way to meet potential people who you wouldn't usually meet. My current boyfriend I met on Bumble. We are so well suited it's rediculous, but our paths would never have crossed in real life even though we have many of the same interests as we live just far enough away from each other to do them in different circles. It's been fantastic and so easy to integrate our lives.

 

I've also been on literally hundreds of other online dates, mainly good but not necessarily leading to anything romantic. Some have but for various durations. I've met a lot of very cool guys and learnt a lot about all kinds of things from them. Ive also done a lot of great things in my city I've never done before which has been a bonus. I even discovered a love of rock climbing from a guy I dated off tinder. So just go have fun, don't take it too seriously. Also if someone says they aren't looking for a relationship then Believe them!

 

Best of luck! Have lots of fun!

[TheTraveler]

Tinder is like walking into a bar, there's the creepy guys in the corner, they guys just out to get laid and the guys looking for a relationship (and the married guys looking for an affair). I think on tinder it's generally easier to know which is which. Most people are happy to tell you what they are looking for and if they are single or not.

 

Go have fun, it's a great way to meet potential people who you wouldn't usually meet. My current boyfriend I met on Bumble. We are so well suited it's rediculous, but our paths would never have crossed in real life even though we have many of the same interests as we live just far enough away from each other to do them in different circles. It's been fantastic and so easy to integrate our lives.

 

I've also been on literally hundreds of other online dates, mainly good but not necessarily leading to anything romantic. Some have but for various durations. I've met a lot of very cool guys and learnt a lot about all kinds of things from them. Ive also done a lot of great things in my city I've never done before which has been a bonus. I even discovered a love of rock climbing from a guy I dated off tinder. So just go have fun, don't take it too seriously. Also if someone says they aren't looking for a relationship then Believe them!

 

Best of luck! Have lots of fun!

 

I like the positive attitude of this post. Pretty much my thoughts as well

[LoverOfDance]

Hi guys, thanks for sharing your experiences !

 

So just an update - I've gotten like 20 matches on Tinder till date. Not one has said a word to me. I find that strange. I messaged a few and got a reply from two ppl. One of them unmatched with me after a few messages and I unmatched with the other because he didn't seem very interested in the conversation.

 

Very interesting site to be honest. I find it strange that ppl match with ppl they have no interest in talking to. Doesn't make much sense to me.

Edited November 11, 2017 by LoverOfDance

[Justanaverageguy]

What's not to love of about how consumerism has finally reached it's logical consequence of allowing us to shop for human beings online? A dating platform that caters human narccissism, superficiality, irrational emotions, insecurities, desire for instant gratification? Now we have a perfectly acceptable way to be shallow, knowing we are among like-minded people.

 

As with all things in life ..... it is whatever you make of it. If that's the mindset you have then sure absolutely that's the experience you will have.

 

Tinder is a tool to meet people nothing more. How you use that tool is entirely up to the individual. Modern technology can be either a blessing or a curse - your own actions decide which it becomes.