jessiann Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 I've posted about this guy before.. here's the story.. I've known him since 1998 but we did not get along until about a month and a half ago when we started talking through messenger and text messages. We talk everyday and I feel there's a strong connection between us, although we haven't seen each other in a while, we've both mentioned the "connection" thing and have decided to "see what happens" in time, we've had long conversations and emails about this topic. We get along great and we talk everyday by phone or messenger or text message, I also have a blog/journal and I know he reads it at least 6 times a day, I know his IP address. So yesterday we were talking on the phone and were both kidding around and he started laughing and I said "aww how gay you sound" (only KIDDING obviously) and then I sensed maybe I said the wrong thing so I said I was kidding. We kept talking after that but I noticed that maybe he did get offended by that, so after we hung up I send him a text message saying that maybe he hated me now. After that I sent him an email clearing things up, and I went on talking about other things, like how I looked forward to talking to him during the day and that maybe we should see each other soon (he's at college 2 hours away from here but his family lives in my area so he goes home sometimes) and stuff that maybe I shouldn't have said (silly stuff, like how he put a smile on my face when we talk and things like that), maybe it sounded too strong. So I texted him that he had new email from me and I know he saw it cuz I saw his IP in my blog tracker a little while after that. Like 2 hours later I saw that he read my blog again so I called him but he didn't pick up. I don't know what to think.. the "gay" comment wasn't such a big deal cuz I was obviously kidding and I think he knew that, and he's not the kind of person to get offended by jokes like that. So maybe it was the email thing? I don't know. any thoughts? thanks.
RecordProducer Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 You don't get it? He is gay! Or at least bi-sexual. No guy would get offended by a joke about sounding gay. It was the fact that you actually joked about it. You implied that it's bad to be gay. And you just added to it when you tried to excuse yourself for such a big insult as calling him gay.
agnf666 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Recordproducer is totally right with this one. If he was very distant after you made that remark then he just maybe gay or bisexual. I would reside from making further remarks like that. I think he is probably scared to tell you because he doesn't want to lose you as a friend. You need to apologize and tell him your sorry about the little joke you made and that you weren't sure that that offended him.
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