lastonestanding Posted November 4, 2017 Posted November 4, 2017 Matched with a guy online, we messaged a few times and then made a plan to go out for drinks. It went well, good conversation. At the end of the night he told me we should do it again and I should send him a message. I did a couple days later and asked him what his week looked like. We picked a day to go out again a couple of days later. Again, fun. I think we both had a good time. Again, when I left he told me to text him. I went out of town. He texted me a few days later, just kind of a how's it going message, I replied and asked him how his day was, and heard nothing more from him. He texted me 4 days later and asked me how my trip was. I again replied, and nothing more from him. That was 3 days ago. I texted him today and said I was back. He replied quickly and asked me a few questions. I replied (with something easy to reply to). And again, nothing more from him. Is there any point to all this? It's weird that he initiates, but puts so little into it. Why even initiate in the first place? I also haven't dated in quite awhile, so... pretty sure it's time to quit this one, but not totally sure. Should I just ask him if he wants to get together again?
Peachland Posted November 4, 2017 Posted November 4, 2017 It sounds like he may be busy with life and dating others. I wouldn’t reach out again. Let him do it and actually ask you out on a date. If you’re interested continue to go out otherwise move on. I’ve learned over the years interested men act interested. You don’t have to guess if they’re interested. 1
Miss Spider Posted November 4, 2017 Posted November 4, 2017 Matched with a guy online, we messaged a few times and then made a plan to go out for drinks. It went well, good conversation. At the end of the night he told me we should do it again and I should send him a message. I did a couple days later and asked him what his week looked like. We picked a day to go out again a couple of days later. Again, fun. I think we both had a good time. Again, when I left he told me to text him. I went out of town. He texted me a few days later, just kind of a how's it going message, I replied and asked him how his day was, and heard nothing more from him. He texted me 4 days later and asked me how my trip was. I again replied, and nothing more from him. That was 3 days ago. I texted him today and said I was back. He replied quickly and asked me a few questions. I replied (with something easy to reply to). And again, nothing more from him. Is there any point to all this? It's weird that he initiates, but puts so little into it. Why even initiate in the first place? I also haven't dated in quite awhile, so... pretty sure it's time to quit this one, but not totally sure. Should I just ask him if he wants to get together again? Absolutely not. He has lukewarm interest. I dont think you should continue
Author lastonestanding Posted November 4, 2017 Author Posted November 4, 2017 It sounds like he may be busy with life and dating others. I wouldn’t reach out again. Let him do it and actually ask you out on a date. If you’re interested continue to go out otherwise move on. I’ve learned over the years interested men act interested. You don’t have to guess if they’re interested. And I guess I should be clear that I'm not exactly pining after him. I just got out of a long relationship and he'd be fun enough to go out with for the short term, but I'm not necessarily into this because I think he could be the one or anything. Maybe that changes things and I can be more assertive in pursuing, or maybe not.
act00 Posted November 4, 2017 Posted November 4, 2017 It sounds like you wait for him to text. If you like him, why aren't you initiating a couple of these? I don't know that you're really demonstrating a desire to really see him, and your later post expresses that, so you're just waiting for days to go by and finally he texts, at least up until now. While you're on a trip, it wouldn't surprise me he didn't, but the rest of the time, you're both just doing nothing. You could have texted when you got home from your dates that you had a great time, or texted the following morning. You could have maintained some contact during your trip. It doesn't seem either of you are into it, and perhaps that momentum was lost just due to this sporadic texting and then going out of town. The fact he didn't attempt another date when you texted him when you got back isn't good, but you haven't exactly been the shining beacon of interest, it seems to me. If you're interested enough to see this go a little further, send one more, see where it goes. It might go nowhere, but you reached out one last time. If you have initiated texts with slow response, it's time to let this one go. 2
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