HumanMachine Posted November 13, 2017 Posted November 13, 2017 my question was more in that why did they say or do that made you change your mind? The usual really, how’d they change and do anything to be with you, how’d they’d eliminate one of the main issues in our rship (social media), how they would go to the doctors for mental help. I believed it at the time however nothing changed.
Author maestrok Posted November 13, 2017 Author Posted November 13, 2017 The usual really, how’d they change and do anything to be with you, how’d they’d eliminate one of the main issues in our rship (social media), how they would go to the doctors for mental help. I believed it at the time however nothing changed. well "we" didn't have issues like that between us. just issues stemming from him and his ex (or so I thought). ah i dont know.... im inclined to send him a follow up (last) message now though. is it such a bad idea?
Zahara Posted November 13, 2017 Posted November 13, 2017 well "we" didn't have issues like that between us. just issues stemming from him and his ex (or so I thought). ah i dont know.... im inclined to send him a follow up (last) message now though. is it such a bad idea? Stop chasing. It's unattractive. You sent him a message. He ignored it. A non-response is a response. 1
1fish2fish Posted November 14, 2017 Posted November 14, 2017 (edited) well "we" didn't have issues like that between us. just issues stemming from him and his ex (or so I thought). ah i dont know.... im inclined to send him a follow up (last) message now though. is it such a bad idea? Yes. Now would be a good time to work on speaking up when things bother you. Did you ever tell him while you were dating it bothered you when he brought up his ex? And no, your issues were not about him and his ex. Your issues were about poor communication. Edited November 14, 2017 by 1fish2fish
PegNosePete Posted November 14, 2017 Posted November 14, 2017 im inclined to send him a follow up (last) message now though. is it such a bad idea? Yes. Look how twisted up in knots you're getting because he didn't reply to your last message. How twisted will you get when he doesn't reply to the next one either? Look he's received your message and decided not to reply. If he wanted to talk to you then he would have. Sending another message will not change his mind, it will just annoy him.
Author maestrok Posted November 14, 2017 Author Posted November 14, 2017 Yes. Look how twisted up in knots you're getting because he didn't reply to your last message. How twisted will you get when he doesn't reply to the next one either? Look he's received your message and decided not to reply. If he wanted to talk to you then he would have. Sending another message will not change his mind, it will just annoy him. Not understanding what you meant "twisted"? I just wanted him to see that im serious and didnt just send that one message out of whim
HumanMachine Posted November 14, 2017 Posted November 14, 2017 Not understanding what you meant "twisted"? I just wanted him to see that im serious and didnt just send that one message out of whim He doesn’t care. 1
Captivating Posted November 16, 2017 Posted November 16, 2017 He did constantly/crazy for couple days right after. Then stopped. Several red flags mostly stemming from different values/principles. The last blow that really pushed was that he still talks to his most recent-ex (who he broke up earlier this year) because he needs to make sure she's ok. I am not okay with a guy caring for the well-being of another woman (especially his ex). I didn't say much more but broke up with him soon after. Reaching out to his ex asking whether she is ok ... this is called COMPASSION for a person you were close with. Maestrok, you need to address your own insecurity and lack of self-esteem. Perhaps you jumped the gun early ?
PegNosePete Posted November 16, 2017 Posted November 16, 2017 Not understanding what you meant "twisted"? I mean you're analysing every detail, doing mental gymnastics, posting on forums asking what people think, if there is a chance, what will happen etc. Whereas your EX is just out having a good time and not spending even 2 seconds of his life thinking about you.
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