Author Back_Again Posted November 9, 2017 Author Posted November 9, 2017 It does sound like you have been drawn to his "bad boy" qualities (though he's too old to be a boy ). It's probably a challenge to get someone like him to have a serious relationship with you, and that's perhaps why you're hooked? Yes, that's a big part of my fascination with him i guess. He's not a "bad boy" per se, but he is emotionally unavailable and relatively upfront about it, but I assume most women think they can change that, given the chance. Unlike the other women, I didn't think I could change him because I've known him for many years, enough to know he would never change. But when we got close emotionally (or so I thought), I truly hoped he would at the very least appreciate me enough not to let me go. I hoped he cared, even if I knew he didn't love me and never would. I hoped he was emotionally attached to me. But unfortunately, he is unable to get attached to anyone. People are just pawns, that he uses as long as he needs them and how he needs them, only to discard them when they become no longer useful. This is just the way he is. You would never guess it at first sight, as he seems very pleasant and kind and warm...but give him a few months and oh boy, are you in for a surprise!
Author Back_Again Posted November 9, 2017 Author Posted November 9, 2017 I think he's using that as an excuse. People will make the time for you no matter what the situation if they want to see you or talk to you. For sure... This is how I knew him being distant had nothing to do with his kid, and that it wasn't a matter of "can't" but one of "won't". He lost interest, decided to be with the other woman, tried to keep me on the back burner but when he realized I wasn't going to just let him, he gave me the boot since I was too much work.
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