CryForNoOne Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 I just did it tonight. Technically she had a pic, but it was a silhouette of her at the beach at sunset, and nothing could be discerned other than her approximate height and weight. She messaged me first but my intuition had a really good feeling so I said what the h3ll. I asked her for a pic about an hour before we met and she replied "lol! too late we already agreed to meet..." Just curious if anyone else has decided to meet someone without a pic and how it worked out...
Miss Spider Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 Soooo. What'd you think? Ive never done it 1
No_Go Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 I just did it tonight. Technically she had a pic, but it was a silhouette of her at the beach at sunset, and nothing could be discerned other than her approximate height and weight. She messaged me first but my intuition had a really good feeling so I said what the h3ll. I asked her for a pic about an hour before we met and she replied "lol! too late we already agreed to meet..." Just curious if anyone else has decided to meet someone without a pic and how it worked out... I did, few years ago. I had a massive crush on him ... it was unreal. But we emailed many many pages before meeting up. 1
Sammichmaker Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 No. I'd prefer not to waste each other's time.
coolheadal Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 I just did it tonight. Technically she had a pic, but it was a silhouette of her at the beach at sunset, and nothing could be discerned other than her approximate height and weight. She messaged me first but my intuition had a really good feeling so I said what the h3ll. I asked her for a pic about an hour before we met and she replied "lol! too late we already agreed to meet..." Just curious if anyone else has decided to meet someone without a pic and how it worked out... Yes I did but soon before that encounter she had sent me over a picture of her in her truck smiling. When she came to my house one Friday evening she turned out to be shorter than I was expecting. Mine didn't last she come up with an excuse saying her daughter was in trouble she was a lie. After that we text a few times i just ended it blocked her. Don't need her. You just be careful. 1
TheTraveler Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 I just did it tonight. Technically she had a pic, but it was a silhouette of her at the beach at sunset, and nothing could be discerned other than her approximate height and weight. She messaged me first but my intuition had a really good feeling so I said what the h3ll. I asked her for a pic about an hour before we met and she replied "lol! too late we already agreed to meet..." Just curious if anyone else has decided to meet someone without a pic and how it worked out... Not that desperate to meet someone
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 I did once. My EHarmony subscription ran out and I didn't want to pay to renew it. This guy messaged me and wrote really long, thoughtful emails. I found him intelligent and interesting but didn't want to admit that I can't view his photo because I am not a paying member. We met up and he wasn't my type at all. He looked much older than his stated age and had a big gut. Lesson learned :/ 3
salparadise Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 Nope. I've made mistakes, but that ain't one of them. If they're not at least willing to send a pic via email then something is not on the up and up. I've engaged in conversation, but if they still refuse to reveal themselves... next. They almost certainly have issues. The notion that they should be able to see mine without reciprocating is annoying as heck. I had one go as far as describing herself at length and saying which movie start she resembles, yet still refusing. At that point you have to realize there is more going on than a bit of reticence about showing pics. 1
Erik30 Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 No, I kind of automatically assume the person is probably not that (physically) attractive, but they're hoping they can charm people with their personality so their looks won't matter. To me, it just seems they have something to hide. Like it might even be a guy, or someone who's already in a relationship. So how was it? I could be completely wrong, and this could be one of those rare cases where it's actually a beautiful girl who's tired of guys chasing her just because of the way she looks... but I have my doubts 3
central Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 Yes, I met a few women who didn't have any photos, as long as their stats indicated that they weren't significantly overweight. Most were quite attractive. One became a FWB. And one of them became my wife! 1
clia Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 Back in the day of Yahoo Personals, when you couldn't upload a photo and cell phones with photos were not prolific, I did all the time. However, I also learned that there are a million and one versions of 6ft tall with brown hair and brown eyes. If I were OLD now, there is no way I would bother meeting a person without a photo. I would assume they are either trying to hide something or are playing games. 2
StephenV Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 I met my last girlfriend on OLD. She didn't have a picture up and I was purely going by the physical statistics she had put up (height, weight, etc) - we exchanged numbers before I'd seen her. Once I'd seen her I don't think I would have necessarily messaged her based on her photos alone (she wasn't ugly, but not 100% my 'type'), but by this point obviously we'd talked so attraction had been built based on that. 1
rightondude Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 nope. never. normally you can't even trust the picture they DO post is indicative of how they actually look. 1
kendahke Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 No. I pass on profiles that do not have clear pictures.
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 Met someone from online without EVER receiving a picture? Nope. Never. I have chatted with some men without pics initially but every one of them ended up sending me pics at some point particularly if we were to meet up.
Author CryForNoOne Posted November 3, 2017 Author Posted November 3, 2017 Soooo. What'd you think? Ive never done it Definitely first time for me. It started badly as I got stuck in traffic and she got there way before me. When I arrived, there was only one person at the bar that was definitely was not her. I was hoping the place would have been busier in case things went awkwardly. The layout was so open and it was so dead quiet, that the bartender and one lady at the bar would hear every word of our conversation. Anyway, I didn't see her so I texted her that I had arrived, followed a few minutes later by "???". I was starting to worry when she finally replied "At CVS. One sec." Anyway, she was definitely much better looking than I expected. All I had to work with was black, 5'7, thin, 34 and the best what I hoped/imagined the rest to be was basically what I got. Thankfully the awkwardness of having no privacy disappeared pretty quickly as we had great conversation. I literally knew nothing about her other than she was easy going with some witty banter by text. That's exactly the way she was in real life. She's a freelance graphic designer and also substitute teacher. She just returned from 6 months travelling abroad in New Zealand and Asia. She didn't post any pics because she liked the idea of a blind date (though I could help but think it wasn't blind for her). She said she went into it with zero expectations and found it comical that so many people took OLD so seriously. Several times during our conversation, we alluded to meeting again. I had a prior engagement so I had to cut things off prematurely. When we hugged goodbye I went for a kiss, but she said it was too early. It didn't feel like rejection but obviously not what I hoped for. I'll text her today and see where it goes... 2
Ieris Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 I have once and never again... he was nothing like he described. He lied about his age, height, race... I just walked off. 2
d0nnivain Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 Sort of. The guy had no pics so I correctly assumed he was insecure about his looks. I was at a point in my life when I was trying to convince myself looks don't matter & that I was being superficial. Anyway I agreed to the date but then got skittish about meeting a stranger in public when I had no idea who to look for so the day before I said send a pic or I'm not coming. Of course when I got the pic I wanted to cancel because while he wasn't ugly, he wasn't my type (he had a mustache & long hair). Still I tried to convince myself not to be superficial & I reminded myself that the guy had no pics because he was insecure so I went on the date. He sort of blitzed me with a kiss at the end but I was so not into it. As I pulled back & he looked confused I had to say thanks but no thanks I don't think we're compatible. It was tough because he was a nice guy & the dinner conversation had been pleasant but I couldn't get past the lack of chemistry. In all honesty had I met him IRL rather than on OLD I never would have agreed to a date. 1
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 I have once and never again... he was nothing like he described. He lied about his age, height, race... I just walked off. Never, never want to experience this. It's bad enough that people with pics of themselves are often times off, to risk meeting someone w/o pics is out of the question. 1
Fair Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 I find people treat first meets as something so serious it borders on the promise of commitment if they agree to meet for coffee!! It's ridiculous. So what if there's no pic... go meet her. Stop treating it like a life altering decision... if you don't find her attractive, say you don't feel any chemistry and move on. It's that simple. Besides, some people are very attractive but are so un-photogenic it's unreal. Pics can make you look fatter, older, and the major part of attraction is personality which a pic can't convey. That's why we often always hate our own pics... So go meet... it's not a big deal. 4
TheTraveler Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 This also reminds me of women on dating apps who upload pictures of the beach, a random cat, etc If you can upload that, you can upload a picture of yourself
Fair Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 I have once and never again... he was nothing like he described. He lied about his age, height, race... I just walked off. No need to think it'll happen every time just because it happened once. I did meet one guy who had no pic and he was attractive enough and a real nice guy. Your post goes to show how we limit ourselves so badly in life because of even one bad experience! Not good. 2
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 I find people treat first meets as something so serious it borders on the promise of commitment if they agree to meet for coffee!! It's ridiculous. So what if there's no pic... go meet her. Stop treating it like a life altering decision... if you don't find her attractive, say you don't feel any chemistry and move on. It's that simple. Besides, some people are very attractive but are so un-photogenic it's unreal. Pics can make you look fatter, older, and the major part of attraction is personality which a pic can't convey. That's why we often always hate our own pics... So go meet... it's not a big deal. This all sounds good on the surface, but in this day and age, or via OLD, I believe safety is something that must be considered. Being able to ID the person you are dating is very important as you are approaching them, the venue, etc. Some people may place excessive amounts of importance to that first date, but I would be a little concerned if you one did not place some importance. MOST relationships succeed or fail during that first date/meet. Putting your best foot forward and making a notable, first impression is VERY important. Sure, do your best not to stress over it, but first impressions are very important. Meeting someone w/o pics and discovering that they do not fit your needs/desires after having investing time, perhaps money and other possible investments, is simply a waste. Pictures go a long way to helping one decide if he/she wants to make such a commitment to meet in the first place. Pictures are important. 1
Fair Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 Meeting for a half hour for coffee isn't investing anything. You don't have to take them to Jamaica first class or worry about whether or not they're going to meet all your physical/emotional needs before you even see them. If you're worried about whether the as yet non existent relationship is going to succeed or fail before you even meet you're taking it way too seriously. As for safety I suppose they could turn out to be a killer with or without a pic anyway. 3
TheTraveler Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 Meeting for a half hour for coffee isn't investing anything. You don't have to take them to Jamaica first class or worry about whether or not they're going to meet all your physical/emotional needs before you even see them. If you're worried about whether the as yet non existent relationship is going to succeed or fail before you even meet you're taking it way too seriously. As for safety I suppose they could turn out to be a killer with or without a pic anyway. Not sure why you're defending no picture In this day and age, there's absolutely no excuse not to have one. I will never meet up with someone without a picture. I'm not investing any of my time meeting up or getting to know someone who doesn't have a picture 1
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