primer Posted November 2, 2017 Posted November 2, 2017 What do you dislike the most about being single? For me, it's people thinking I need someone. Right away people are trying to figure out who I should date. Ummm . . . I don't want to date anyone right now. I am perfectly fine being alone and I need time to process things. Even worse, is when people think I need sex. Ugh!! Don't even go there.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 2, 2017 Posted November 2, 2017 Not having someone to split the bills with! 5
d0nnivain Posted November 2, 2017 Posted November 2, 2017 I miss having a built in play mate when I'm single.
carhill Posted November 2, 2017 Posted November 2, 2017 I don't mind being alone but it is odd, especially after being married, to not have someone around to love. Some of us are wired that way, others not. Overall though, no complaints. By single I presume you meant alone and not in an intimate relationship. 1
Buriall Posted November 2, 2017 Posted November 2, 2017 Nothing.. Being single has brought me into a state of nirvana and I want to keep this as long as possible. 4
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 2, 2017 Posted November 2, 2017 Honestly, at this point, it's the intimacy/sex! 3
springy Posted November 2, 2017 Posted November 2, 2017 The people who look upon you with great concern/pity and let you know that it's alright, you'll find the right person at the right time and/or ask you every time they see you if you've met anyone yet. As if your life has no meaning because you are not "boo'd up." This happened to me (again) last weekend. A couple asked if I was married and I simply said "no." Then came the 'oh you poor thing look/it's never too late' speech. I was like wth? Stop. Please. I just want to eat my burger. 1
Darkchan Posted November 2, 2017 Posted November 2, 2017 I miss sharing moments, both special and everyday ones. To have someone waiting for you at home or you waiting for them, and just ask how your day been. I miss saying good night and good morning and have your special someone next to you in bed, being the last you see in the night and first you see in the morning. 3
dumbass2 Posted November 2, 2017 Posted November 2, 2017 Wanting to go on a cruise where I have to pay for two because there is no discounted single supplement. It can be expensive for a single person to travel alone and no, never liked having an unknown roommate on a vacation.
whatnot Posted November 2, 2017 Posted November 2, 2017 Honestly, at this point, it's the intimacy/sex!years without physical contact from another human being is just downright unhealthy .. I don't need studies 1
RocketQueen Posted November 2, 2017 Posted November 2, 2017 I miss having my back tickled or my hair played with, but he used to moan half of the time anyway! I miss having someone to do things for, I loved cooking nice meals etc. But that is about it. I am very content on my own. I have amazing friends and am in no rush to be in a relationship. I think at my age (41) there are more people I know who are unhappy in their relationship than truly happy so that probably makes me see things differently and I really value the peace of mind and freedom my singleness allows. #teamsingleandcontent 3
todreaminblue Posted November 2, 2017 Posted November 2, 2017 maybe guys who dont give up ...being harassed...rainy nights not being with someone listening together to the beat of the rain outside my window.... sorta sucks... i guess i miss all the wonderful things about being in a relationship and not that i hate being single..because there is also sacrifices in being in a relationship..i love the security...the safety..the sharing everything..and the way i can give someone special pleasure and have reciprocated pleasure from them........deb....
toomanyquestions123 Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 I miss being taken care of, every end of October i have a seasonal flue, last year my ex made me a soup, this year i felt how single i am while taking care of my self. I miss laughing uncontrollably & feeling loved. I miss feeling safe & planning for an exciting future, i miss roadtrips with this one & holding hands. I miss picking our favorite cuisine and get drunk together.
kortz Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 As a guy, and as mushy as it sounds, having that one special person you can talk to about anything and everything and put all your trust in. Not that I can't get by on my own, but good news or bad it's nice being able to share and bounce things off someone who you know really cares. Sure my guy friends are great and supportive but it's not the same. That and the regular sex Now back to being a stone cold emotionless steely man Being single does have its many perks too though. I look better than I ever have done and have a great fun social life, something that gets neglected while in a relationship after a while.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 As a guy, and as mushy as it sounds, having that one special person you can talk to about anything and everything and put all your trust in. Not that I can't get by on my own, but good news or bad it's nice being able to share and bounce things off someone who you know really cares. Sure my guy friends are great and supportive but it's not the same. That and the regular sex Now back to being a stone cold emotionless steely man Being single does have its many perks too though. I look better than I ever have done and have a great fun social life, something that gets neglected while in a relationship after a while. Yesterday on Good Morning America they talked to four teenage boys about the most difficult things about being a teen. One of them said that boys, unlike girls, "can't" really connect with each other the way they want to, and the way girls can. He gave the example of it being perfectly ok and expected for girls to have sleep overs, but it's "weird" if boys do because people will assume they are gay (and if they are not gay, they don't want people to think that). I see this in my own son, who really misses a couple of friends who left his school for another one. He recently got to see one of them and when I said that was great, he said it only made him sad . Even as a mom, I have failed to see his desire for connection with his male friends. We all too often just see boys as "aloof" and non-emotional, but maybe it's not because they want to be, but more because they "have" to be. This must be very frustrating. I was talking about this last night with a male friend of mine. He is in his late forties and single and very much desires to have close male friends, but says it's just very difficult to do that as a man. He's a very popular person, so it's not that he lacks friends, but developing emotional connections is difficult. Maybe this is why after divorce men often jump back into relationships quicker than women. Women typically already have deep emotional connections (with other women) that can at least temporarily meet that need. Men usually don't.
carhill Posted November 3, 2017 Posted November 3, 2017 Good synopsis, thanks. I have noticed, with older friends, once the specter of mortality has hit them, they generally get more open and loving. Too bad that that it takes death to bring that out. Anyway, very true, none of my long-term male friends were ever really single for long. Either they had affairs and got with those people or found a new partner as soon as their marriage was in the tank and they split. Older generation stuff perhaps. Most guys I've known in life who are my age, save one glaring exception, got married in their teens or early 20's and have been with a woman of some sort their entire lives. In some cases they've suffered a lot of pain, the little they've talked about, in bad marriages to keep that status quo. The pain in the marriage is apparently a healthier choice than the pain of being alone. IDK, can't identify with that. Different strokes.
OutKast100 Posted November 5, 2017 Posted November 5, 2017 When my ex broke up with me I not only lost my gf but I also lost my best friend. It sucks not having someone to talk to everyday and to say goodnight to. You feel like you have built so much together but then it's all torn down and you're left with nothing but memories of what used to be there and you have to start all over from scratch. I liked the feeling that there was always someone else who was there and I had a responsibility to keep in touch with them and check up on their day and their problems. I used to have a lot to look forward to with her but now there is a lot of loneliness and uncertainty. Of course it sucks that you can't be intimate with them anymore either, I also used to take showers with her and she would rub my back with soap which was nice. You can't do the things which you have done together anymore. It also bothers me when things remind me of her. I would go to places where I used to take her and the memories would come flooding back and I would realize that it is nothing but history now. Anytime I hear someone speaking her language then it just reminds me of her again. I can't even listen to some songs because of the memories which i had with her. On the other hand, there is now more free time to enjoy other things in my life without having to worry about neglecting her. It'll just take some more time until I am over it.
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