Kics Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 I broke up with my ex 3 months ago. It was super painful but I feel like I am finally making progress to get over it. He added my co-worker on Facebook and has started to make comments on her post. She just broke up with her boyfriend, so she is going through a hard time. I told her to delete him and block him but she hasn't. I am afraid they will date, and I will have to see them together. What bother me is that she is like a friend to me. I told he everything about the breakup, so it would be supper crappy for them to date. I think he is trying to hurt me by dating her, because he doesn't live in the same town we do. He is going to school somewhere else. How do I deal with my feelings? I don't see my therapist in another 2 weeks! Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 (edited) I've seen this before. I'm sorry, but you thought this girl was your friend, but she is not. This is how you will learn that. If you want to you can speed the process up by speaking up and tell her that it hurts you that they interact on FB and ask if she could stop. She will not abide and you will be shut out. PS -he's not trying to hurt you on purpose, he's just going after a girl he's attracted to. He's not thinking about your feelings. Edited November 2, 2017 by Popsicle 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kics Posted November 2, 2017 Author Share Posted November 2, 2017 I just thought she was a friend, I will be more careful opening up to people. I close my Facebook, she is the one that told me it was funny he added her when she had a bf. She also told me he was making a comment on her post, and I said delete him. She said she would. I feel like I can't stop thinking about it. I don't even love him anymore. But I wouldn't want to see them together, would sting a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 you all sound quite young, so they will not last any longer than you did, keep hold of yourself, but also wait for the last laugh Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kics Posted November 2, 2017 Author Share Posted November 2, 2017 I am 26 but he was my first love. He is 24 but super immature. That's why we broke up. She is 18. I am actually embarrassed how much I let this affect me, because I was doing super good! Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 Understand she is not your friend. They are free to date each other. While he is probably taking advantage of this younger girl, don't automatically assume he's only after her as a way to rub it in your face. There is no reason for you to have to see them. He doesn't need to come to your / her work. If they date you stop socializing with her. Problem solved. It will all probably end when he goes away for school Link to post Share on other sites
Author Kics Posted November 2, 2017 Author Share Posted November 2, 2017 He actually already moved to school like 2 weeks after we broke up. He lives in a whole different town. I mean he is going to college can't he try to date girls there? There are plenty specially on his school field. It just seemed strange how he added her even though they were never friends or talked. He knows she works with me, because he met her but they never talked. Anyways I really won't do anything if they date, besides stop talking to her. I actually plan on leaving my job, so hopefully if they date I will miss it. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 He more than likely was attracted to her while he was dating you and after you two broke up he couldn't help himself and contacted her. Like dOnnivain said; if they do start dating you won't know anything about it so just move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 He actually already moved to school like 2 weeks after we broke up. He lives in a whole different town. I mean he is going to college can't he try to date girls there? There are plenty specially on his school field. It just seemed strange how he added her even though they were never friends or talked. He knows she works with me, because he met her but they never talked. Anyways I really won't do anything if they date, besides stop talking to her. I actually plan on leaving my job, so hopefully if they date I will miss it. Some guys like to have a naive hook-up in another town. This is especially enticing if a college guy shows interest in a teen-ager whose prospects are probably not so broad. This 18-year old is not your friend. He is looking out for herself and to tell you the truth, she doesn't haven't justify or explain anything in regards to dating your ex. He is your EX. Just get past this, change jobs and find better. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 So far all they have done is become "friends" on social media. You need to block him so you can't see what he's doing or who he is friends with. For all you know he's dating somebody at college. Do ramp up your job search. The change will do you good. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 First off you can't tell someone what to do, but you can take care of your own actions. Delete them both off FB and stop lurking at their activity. If they want to date, they are going to date, they are adults and you have no say in it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 (edited) YOu're going to have to get to the place where you're fine with them dating because they don't need your permission to date one another. Yeah, you may run into them together, but all you need to do is maintain your dignity and remember they're both each other's rebound, so it's not going to last; recall what he put you through and how she decided to go get him after you talked to her about him, and remember that those two miserable creatures deserve one another. Edited November 2, 2017 by kendahke Link to post Share on other sites
harrybrown Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 You stated that you broke up with him. Should be moving on and you did not want him. hope you find some peace, but if you did not want him, he should be able to date others. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 I broke up with my ex 3 months ago. It was super painful but I feel like I am finally making progress to get over it. He added my co-worker on Facebook and has started to make comments on her post. She just broke up with her boyfriend, so she is going through a hard time. I told her to delete him and block him but she hasn't. I am afraid they will date, and I will have to see them together. What bother me is that she is like a friend to me. I told he everything about the breakup, so it would be supper crappy for them to date. I think he is trying to hurt me by dating her, because he doesn't live in the same town we do. He is going to school somewhere else. How do I deal with my feelings? I don't see my therapist in another 2 weeks! They are both free adults and can date whoever they want. You don't get to tell them how to live. Just ignore it and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
chicagogem Posted November 3, 2017 Share Posted November 3, 2017 I’m so sorry that you’re going through this! It’s so hard to be hurt by people you trusted and had a close relationship with. No matter what happens between you, your ex, and your coworker, you are on the path to the next best thing for you, so keep pursuing that whether they’re part of that journey or not. I would say take it a day at a time and see how it plays out. Wishing you all the best~ Link to post Share on other sites
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