peacemonger Posted October 31, 2017 Posted October 31, 2017 Around mid last year, I ended a 6 years relationship with an ex fiancé due to him cheating with one of my close friend. It was a heartbreaking period as he was my first bf. Few months after that, I moved to another country for work. Due to loneliness in a new place and trying to get over a breakup, I signed up on an online dating website. There, I met a nice guy which we will call A. We texted almost everyday. However, a day before new year, I ghosted him. This is because my ex fiancé flied here in hope of getting back together. I rejected him and sworn off all men at that time. Life goes on as usual till in February, where A texted me back again. We really hit it off. The first date was wonderful, although it wasn’t a love at first sight for me. A lived 2 hours train away from me, so we were mostly only texting. In fact, for this whole 7 months on and off relationship, we had met less than 10times. The problem now is I’m starting to get impatient and frustrated. I want things to progress to either a bf/gf relationship or move on. I had talk to him about this and he told me that he’s unsure and he’s terrible on making big decision. He’d also questioned why I want a bf/gf relationship, since we’re already being exclusive and the fact that I’m moving out of the country early next year. Do you guys think I should stick around? Or just move on?
caveman621 Posted October 31, 2017 Posted October 31, 2017 He currently lives two hours away and you're moving out of the country soon? Time to move on! 2
PegNosePete Posted October 31, 2017 Posted October 31, 2017 You should move on. A long distance relationship is clearly not working for you. The only solution would be for one of you to move closer to the other, which isn't going to happen. And you're moving out of the country in a couple of months so what future could this relationship possibly have? So yeah, I would just end it now. Especially since he doesn't want a bf/gf relationship anyway. 2
Erik30 Posted October 31, 2017 Posted October 31, 2017 He’d also questioned why I want a bf/gf relationship, since we’re already being exclusive and the fact that I’m moving out of the country early next year. Do you guys think I should stick around? Or just move on? I think he already assumes your "relationship" will end once you leave the country, so there's no point really in making it official... He probably just wants to casually date you until you're gone. It's up to you if you're okay with that 2
kendahke Posted October 31, 2017 Posted October 31, 2017 Since you're moving out soon, you've already ghosted on him once, you're really not head over heels for him, what exactly is it that you're getting out of this or want to get out of this? I'm not seeing where it's in his best interests to invest on the level of being boyfriend/girlfriend when you really have never been all in at any point in this. 1
Miss Spider Posted October 31, 2017 Posted October 31, 2017 (edited) He doesn't see the long term potential in this and to be honest I don't blame him Edited October 31, 2017 by Cookiesandough 1
Author peacemonger Posted October 31, 2017 Author Posted October 31, 2017 Thank you for all the replies everyone. I guess deep down I know that this isn’t working and there’s no future for us. I, myself have been feeling ambivalent and indecisive on what to do next. Which I would say the same for him as well. All the replies, really opened up my eyes and gave me courage to move on. It is really for the best interest for both of us. Thank you and have a nice day everyone! 1
Chilli Posted October 31, 2017 Posted October 31, 2017 He's not even into it enough anyway , whatever else is going on. 7mths, if it isn't taking off on it's own by now there's just not enough feelings in it anyway. Move on. 1
4EverHisPrincess Posted October 31, 2017 Posted October 31, 2017 It sounds like it's time to move on. Keep your head up and keep everything in prayer...allow God to write your love story! Blessings to you! 1
coolheadal Posted October 31, 2017 Posted October 31, 2017 Your just friends with some extras at most? Your moving away right he should move with you if he was serious about you that way. I have too say bravo on how you handle your Ex-Fiance you did the right thing. Once they cheat you can't never trust them again. 1
Versacehottie Posted November 1, 2017 Posted November 1, 2017 your wording indicates that it is just a filler relationship or settling. Not a big time love. Move on. 1
Author peacemonger Posted November 1, 2017 Author Posted November 1, 2017 Just want to give an update everyone. So, A and I had a really long talk last night. We were very honest and upfront with what we want. He told me he wants to see me up till I move, and then let that move made the decision for us. I, however feel like there’s nothing would come out of this and feel ready to move on. We agreed that the situations weren’t ideal for us, with us living in different cities and me moving out soon and finally, decided to stay as friends. Looking back, I do agree that this has been a filler/settling relationship. I honestly do care about him though and really wish him all the best in life. I just hope things will turn out alright for me too one day. 1
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