SunnySide0418 Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 I broke up with my bf of almost 2yrs a couple months ago because we live 45 minutes apart and in order for us to have a future I'd have to move my kids out of their school district. My boys are 7 and 9. His kids wouldn't have to move as their mom is in their school district. I realized I wasnt willing to move them and figured there was no longer a point to the relationship since I'd like to get married again at some point. Problem is I miss him a lot and still think about him daily. I think I did the right thing but why does it still hurt after 2 months?
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 45 minutes??? Sorry, but that is what most people commute to work everyday. I would be over the moon to have had only 45 minutes between me and my past LDRs. Why can't you have a future with him? If you're not getting married any time soon why break up with him now? Seems a bit dramatic to break up over a 45 minute car ride. 2
basil67 Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 If I understand correctly, you broke it off because to take the relationship further (move in/marry), you'd have to uproot your children. Is this correct? It still hurts because you care for him. You ended it due to circumstance and not due to the fact that you didn't get on well with him.
Art Vandelay Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 Yeah it seems a bit drastic to breakup over a 45 minute commute. Were there other issues?
d0nnivain Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 Especially if the school districts are comparable, I don't see the problem. The kids are little, not entrenched HS Students. Can you move to the farthest edge of the district, closest to him?
Art Vandelay Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 And I'm not surprised you still miss him since it's only been a couple of months out of a two year relationship. It'll likely be a while longer before you don't miss him anymore, especially if the commute was the only problem.
Author SunnySide0418 Posted October 30, 2017 Author Posted October 30, 2017 It wasn't the 45 minute distance actually. It was the fact that I'd have to uproot my kids. My older son is in a special Ed program and I just felt it wasn't the right thing to do for them. Yes, there were other issues such as his hard time communicating but if he lived closer I would have worked on it. If I didn't have kids I wouldn't have ended it. Moving half way was 25 miles from where I'm at now. He also said he didn't think it was a big deal to move my kids which I think it is. He wasn't very sensitive about it. Anyway, it's over and I miss him. I just want it to stop.
d0nnivain Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 If you simply want to stop missing him, keep yourself busy & remind yourself that you did this for your kids.
sharkbite0 Posted October 31, 2017 Posted October 31, 2017 A couple of months of grieving for a 2 year relationship is completely normal. We all go at our own pace. Some call me crazy but I was with a girl for under a year and it took me a year to get over her......healing happens on it's own, relax, it will heal in time. Also, 45 min and moving children around for someone that you feel could be the one is worth it. In my opinion. The kids will make new friends,and you have the opportunity to be truly happy. I feel like if any of us had that chance and we saw it in front of us......distance and few small, unfortunate circumstances wouldn't stop us. Don't let it stop you if you really see a future with him. Good luck! I wish you all the best! stay strong in whatever you decide to do.
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