Pacman Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 I decided to move in with her because looks wise, although she is cute.. wasn't my type. I thought to myself I could never like this girl so it was a perfect match. We got along very well and had no issues. Over the past couple of months I noticed that I'm really starting to like her personality and it's really starting to shine. I've dated plenty of girls but her personality is very unique to me and it's a breath of fresh air. She's always teases me, busts my chops, it irritates the crap out of me but in a positive way. We've gotten close and have become good friends. I don't want anything more than just friends, but I am starting to develop feelings for this girl. I need it to stop. It's distracting me. When she mentions other guys I do get a little jealous. We did end up cuddling once, but never spoke of it again lol. I was wondering if it's because I was just lonely but I have 2 females hitting me up but I find myself comparing their personalities to my roomies and it doesn't even compare. They might be cuter but I'm just not interested So please members of loveshack.org Help me stop these feelings. How do I do it?! What should I do?! I am desperate.
Ieris Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 She sounds like a cool girl.. whats wrong with falling for her?
vanhalenfan Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 Why don't you just let things happen naturally? Doesn't sound like you are with anyone and I am assuming she isn't either...and you seem to like her...so, why not see where it goes? 2
Author Pacman Posted October 29, 2017 Author Posted October 29, 2017 She sounds like a cool girl.. whats wrong with falling for her? Nothing is wrong with falling for her, but I really enjoy us being friends more. I enjoyed it a lot more when I wasn't crushing on her. Plus I hate feeling jealous when she talks about other guys and I hate this feeling of being extra happy around her! Yuck. Why don't you just let things happen naturally? Doesn't sound like you are with anyone and I am assuming she isn't either...and you seem to like her...so, why not see where it goes? Prior to my feelings we had a great thing going on. I don't know if I want to ruin it. All I know is I enjoy her company, and when I'm out with other girls I get bored. Ugh. Please stop these feelings. What do i do!!!!!!
OnlyHonesty Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 Get to know her a bit more...there is a reason why people who move in together before being married have more failures. At the moment, you are still not seeing the real her. Give it more time and it will work itself out. 1
Sara1989 Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 I think this is sweet, you are developing feelings for her...if it does grow into something then what is the harm? you are both single. Just see how things go... 3
ExpatInItaly Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 I don't really get why you're so convinced this is a terrible idea, as it seems you two get along and enjoy each other's company. Perhaps there is something more between you. Are you primarily worried she'll reject you? In any event, if you don't want to go there, make yourself scarce. Don't have long convos with her, don't cuddle, be polite when at home but don't go out of your way to spend time with her. 2
PogoStick Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 Just remember she poops, probably daily, and it stinks too. Problem solved. Also, how about you ask her to be your wingwoman? She can help you get in with another cool chick. Then you'll have a different girl to be distracted by. 1
Author Pacman Posted October 29, 2017 Author Posted October 29, 2017 Just remember she poops, probably daily, and it stinks too. Problem solved. Also, how about you ask her to be your wingwoman? She can help you get in with another cool chick. Then you'll have a different girl to be distracted by. She doesn't like going to the clubs/bars. She would rather stay at home watch a movie or spend time with her family. And I dunno, I've never wanted a wing woman....seems desperate no? I have 2 other girls hitting me up, but like I said I am uninterested because their kinda dry personality wise I don't really get why you're so convinced this is a terrible idea, as it seems you two get along and enjoy each other's company. Perhaps there is something more between you. Are you primarily worried she'll reject you? In any event, if you don't want to go there, make yourself scarce. Don't have long convos with her, don't cuddle, be polite when at home but don't go out of your way to spend time with her. Yes, worried about rejection. But even if she were interested, we're from 2 different cultures. Think of it as a muslim and a christian getting married. Families would not approve and she is very very close to her family. Yes no more cuddling. I'll do all the above that you posted. Now how do I get rid of these feelings ?! I think this is sweet, you are developing feelings for her...if it does grow into something then what is the harm? you are both single. Just see how things go... I've ruined friendships before with dating. I really enjoy her as a person and her company a lot. I don't think I've ever met someone as honest and as genuine. Her awkwardness just does something to me. My goodness, I haven't felt like this for a while. It's like it wants to be set free but I must supress it and have it go away.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted October 29, 2017 Posted October 29, 2017 I must supress it and have it go away. Well, if you must.....ask if you can smell her morning breath. Maybe that will take some of your attraction away .
Author Pacman Posted October 30, 2017 Author Posted October 30, 2017 Well, if you must.....ask if you can smell her morning breath. Maybe that will take some of your attraction away . After smelling gangrene, nothing can deter my nose lol 1
Cobra_X Posted October 30, 2017 Posted October 30, 2017 I decided to move in with her because looks wise, although she is cute.. wasn't my type. Help me stop these feelings. How do I do it?! What should I do?! I am desperate. Mentally focus on all of her flaws, both physical and personality. Try to tie negative feelings towards her.
Author Pacman Posted November 2, 2017 Author Posted November 2, 2017 Well that was short lived. I actually tried to focus on the negatives instead of the positives. Negative. Very impatient. Not very grateful. The constant banter is getting annoying I don't know why I never noticed these things before. Honestly I'm a little disappointed. I thought that MAYBE I found a girl I can truly like. Back to being lonely Maybe I was just lonely after all.
StephenV Posted November 2, 2017 Posted November 2, 2017 Well that was short lived. I actually tried to focus on the negatives instead of the positives. Negative. Very impatient. Not very grateful. The constant banter is getting annoying I don't know why I never noticed these things before. Honestly I'm a little disappointed. I thought that MAYBE I found a girl I can truly like. Back to being lonely Maybe I was just lonely after all. I'm confused. You didn't want to feel anything, anyway. Thought this would be what you wanted?
Author Pacman Posted November 3, 2017 Author Posted November 3, 2017 I'm confused. You didn't want to feel anything, anyway. Thought this would be what you wanted? You're right. I didn't want to like her, BUT I did enjoy crushing on someone I mean it's been a while since I've actually had a crush on someone, so the butterflies felt nice. Guess it's back to being a single and lonely with no future prospects. I don't do online dating because I hate the hook up culture, now that I'm older
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