Ex gf broke up with me 3 months ago, haven't spoken since and can't get over it

[jl179]

Hey guys,

 

Quick summary. My ex and I dated for a good 5 months. We were best friends before in hs for a good 2 years before, so we knew each other real well before the relationship. Our relationship was nearly perfect, we loved each other a lot, and I treated her well in every way. Summer came and she needed to go off to her home country for a month, she told me how much she would miss me a lot. We were both going to the same uni once the summer ended.

 

Time zone differences made communication a little difficult during her trip. Halfway through she decided to ask for a break in the relationship; I wasn't sure what happened, she told me she loved me the day before. I was a little worried so I asked her friends if she was okay. Apparently she found out that I asked her friends, and got really **** off. 2 weeks passed, and she finally came back. She then broke up with me via a video call. She told me the reasons for the breakup wasn't me, but her parents, who didn't approve of it. I waited a week before asking if she wanted to try again in secrecy during university, she declined, and after a bit of talk I got her to tell me the truth.

 

She lied to me about the whole excuse, it wasn't her parents. But she told me to move on and to never talk to her again. I was lost, I didn't know what was going on. She proceeded to block me afterwards. Found out from my from my friend she had a one night stand with some guy she met at a party a week later. It really hurt. We're in the same uni now, but we never talk. I feel like a stranger.

 

Anyways, I'm past the point of wanting to fix things, I know it's not going to happen. I'm just wondering how someone who was your best friend of 2 years and gf could just cut me off like that. We had something special. I never did or said anything mean, I treated her like a queen. It's been 2 months and I'm still having trouble managing it. I just don't get it.

 

Any advice or thoughts would help

[Downanddown]

Go easy on yourself. People grieve differently.

I'm 3 months post by from a 6 year relationship. I'm right there with you. Healing is just starting to begin.

 

Spend time with family. Best support group

 

Good luck

[d0nnivain]

For whatever reason she fell out of love with you. It happens.

 

It's not about one person doing anything right or wrong. It's just one of those things.

 

Give yourself a break. Throw yourself into your school work to keep busy. Join a club or organization. Make new friends. Lick your wounds. By Spring semester, I think you will be all sorted & feeling like your old self again.

[jl179]

You think I'll ever hear from her again? I just don't get how someone could cut their partner let alone their best friend so easily. She seems pretty happy

[Highndry]

You think I'll ever hear from her again? I just don't get how someone could cut their partner let alone their best friend so easily. She seems pretty happy

 

To be honest, 5 months is not much of a relationship. That's the very early stages and for whatever reason she wasn't feeling it. It's best to move on.

[Marc878]

Quit projecting your feelings onto her. She doesn't feel that way about you.

 

I hear this all the time. Everything was perfect. Sorry man. But it wasn't at least for her.

 

She dumped you for someone else. Very typical and nothing special. Happens every day.

 

She's not the only woman in the world and your life won't end because of this.

 

Stay dark. You'll find it'll make you stronger.

 

Being needy, clingy is not attractive at all

[dumbass2]

You think I'll ever hear from her again? I just don't get how someone could cut their partner let alone their best friend so easily. She seems pretty happy

 

You may hear from hear again when she gets lonely and needs attention. After she told you how she feels and broke upon with you, you just need to move forward and try not to respond to any breadcrumbs. The fact she got with someone so quickly after she left for the summer tells you that she thought differently about you and the relationship. You may have been friends, but once that turns to romantic, then you rarely if ever can just go back to that. Your time with her was just a chapter in both your lives and you had some good times. Accept it for that and look forward to your next relationship.

[jl179]

Yeah, I get what you guys are saying. I'm actually doing my best to move on but occasional memories sparks and it brings me back again. I'm also stuck in a university where I don't really know anyone since I closed myself off ever since. I really hate it here. Everyone has their friend groups already, while I'm by myself, making it harder. I also have to see her every day during lecture. Do you guys have any tips?

[dumbass2]

Force yourself to get out there and meet people. You can't shut yourself off. Stop making excuses that you can't meet people and go make a new friend. If not, you'll have to find a new hobby that takes your mind away from it. If you don't have anything else to occupy your time it's gonna be painful for a while. This is something only you cash make happen. Friends or finding things to do aren't just gonna come if you don't put yourself out there.

[jl179]

Thanks guys I'll definitely open myself more and focus on my studies and other activities to get myself busy. I guess it just takes time