What do you do when you just came out of a bad relationship and meet a new guy.....

[Vanity1]

....you meet a new guy and he's really nice.

Boyfriend material , job, car, doesn't do drugs.

 

But you're just not attracted to him !!!

[basil67]

For starters, you don't date him.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

Huh? What is the question here?

[Vanity1]

For starters, you don't date him.

 

It's common sense right. But if you've read my posts common sense isn't too common here.

 

I guess what I'm asking is should I go on a couple more dates and wait it out ?

[GuitarGuy7]

OP, how long have you know this guy? A week? A month? More than a couple of months? Have you only met him once?

 

Sometimes, we can fall for people who are not our physical ideal when we get to know them as a person and we find out they actually have a lot in common with us. That doesn't mean that they're ugly, it just means that they're not the type we are usually looking for.

 

For instance, let's just say your ideal guy is a man who's 5 ft 10 or taller and you meet a guy who's just 5 ft 6. Now you may not have that initial attraction towards him but you two start talking and get to know him a little bit and it turns out you two have some things in common. And that's when you start to realize "Hey, I would have never noticed this guy beforehand but now that iv'e gotten to know him, iv'e realized that he's actually kind of cute"

 

Now don't get me wrong, there's some people you will never be physically attracted to. But sometimes, we can fall for people who may not be our physical ideal if we get to know and that's when we start to realize that we are actually attracted to them.

 

 

 

 

But this also depends on how long you've known the guy. If you've only been on 1 date with him and have only seen him face-to-face for less than a week, then you should just continue to talk to him and get to know him and see if the physical attraction builds overtime.

 

If you've known him for a couple months or longer and you're still not feeling it, then I would say just let it go. You're never going to be attracted to the man.

[Blanco]

You were just posting earlier this week about once again bothering your ex who you can't seem to leave alone. You need to focus on yourself for a while, figure out why you stayed with an abusive addict, and not worry about finding a distraction for these things in the form of another man.

[dichotomy]

You have wild sex with a bunch of guys you do find hot (but not nice BF material) then when your ready to settle down you circle back and marry the nice guy and have some kids. Then you loose interest in him sexually, but stay with him because he is a nice guy. Then he gets very sad because he knows you settled - and you or he cheats, you divorce, and deal with all the money and custody of the kids issues and....

 

Of wait thats another gal I know... sorry:lmao:

 

Look.... take a few months break from dating. Focus on you - and maybe understand what would be some healthy relationship needs in a man. Then try and find some nice guys who are both reasonably attractive to you and reasonably nice. They are out there. I know your probably just looking for someone to treat you well - and you need to treat them well.

[d0nnivain]

If you are not attracted to him, there is nothing for you to do. I suppose you could introduce him to your friends if he's all that & see if one of them thinks he's cute.

[road]

Everyone wants the most attractive person that they

can get for a spouse. So everyone is equal in that they

settle.

 

The inequality is that a 10 will settle for a 9 and the

5 settles for a 4 and the 5 wanted a 9 but he does not

get his 9.

 

There are many women (I do not speak for women about men)

that are never going to be a model or actress because their looks

are not there. Yet they are very attractive.

 

So what is it about this new man?

 

Is he ok looking, average looking?

 

Is that a bad thing?

 

Is it he does not send of the "bad boy" vibe?

 

Do you know how many relationships and marriages to a

bad boy were awful and did not last?

[Imajerk17]

I skimmed through your other threads OP. It really sounds like you are not at all over your abusive ex, so you just shouldn't be dating, period.

 

I'd end it w the new guy.

[Vanity1]

OP, how long have you know this guy? A week? A month? More than a couple of months? Have you only met him once?

 

Sometimes, we can fall for people who are not our physical ideal when we get to know them as a person and we find out they actually have a lot in common with us. That doesn't mean that they're ugly, it just means that they're not the type we are usually looking for.

 

For instance, let's just say your ideal guy is a man who's 5 ft 10 or taller and you meet a guy who's just 5 ft 6. Now you may not have that initial attraction towards him but you two start talking and get to know him a little bit and it turns out you two have some things in common. And that's when you start to realize "Hey, I would have never noticed this guy beforehand but now that iv'e gotten to know him, iv'e realized that he's actually kind of cute"

 

Now don't get me wrong, there's some people you will never be physically attracted to. But sometimes, we can fall for people who may not be our physical ideal if we get to know and that's when we start to realize that we are actually attracted to them.

 

 

 

 

But this also depends on how long you've known the guy. If you've only been on 1 date with him and have only seen him face-to-face for less than a week, then you should just continue to talk to him and get to know him and see if the physical attraction builds overtime.

 

If you've known him for a couple months or longer and you're still not feeling it, then I would say just let it go. You're never going to be attracted to the man.

 

I've known him for years , since highschool . It's always been a friend thing but we never really hung out till recent. Just kept in contact through Facebook.