Broken183 Posted October 27, 2017 Posted October 27, 2017 So I met this guy at a bar a few weeks ago and were texting and I had asked if I was going to get to see him again the following weekend. He ended up hanging out with his housemates but expressed that he had wanted to see me. Then we didn't talk for a few days and then he sent me a snapchat and I responded. So we've been messaging through snapchat. I really want to be upfront and ask him if he actually wants to see each other again because I personally would like to see him again. But I also don't want to sound desperate and I don't know how blunt I can really be. Any advice on how to approach it? I want to assume that he has no obligation to speak to me so if he didn't want to talk to me he wouldn't be.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted October 27, 2017 Posted October 27, 2017 You have already asked him, and made your interest clear. The next step has to come from him, otherwise you will look desperate. Give him a chance to pursue you. 1
Gaeta Posted October 27, 2017 Posted October 27, 2017 Like Scarlett said, you already asked to see him and you got nothing. It's your answer. Block him and move to next. He's not that interested and he's just keeping you as a chat buddy till someone else comes along.
Ieris Posted October 28, 2017 Posted October 28, 2017 If he was interested he would have invited you out already so stop paying this guy anymore attention... 1
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2017 Posted October 28, 2017 If you don't want to outright ask a guy out, in advance make sure you tell him where you are going to be & see if he shows up. For example if you & your BFFs are going to a Halloween party at a particular bar tonight, make sure he knows that. Don't ask him to come. Just say something like Hey my friends & I are going to Blah Blah bar tonight. They're having a costume party. First prize is $x.00 Are you dressing up? What are you going as? See if he pops into the bar. This works with any occasion & any public venue.
smackie9 Posted October 28, 2017 Posted October 28, 2017 He chose to hang with his buddies...that's your answer. 1
act00 Posted October 28, 2017 Posted October 28, 2017 You already extended yourself and expressed your interest in seeing him the next weekend, and he hung out with his friends instead. The ball is in his court right now, and he hasn't been forthcoming in seeing you on the following weekend or even a week day. I offer forgiveness on the first weekend due to timing and plans that may have already been established, but we have a full week, if not two weeks, to plan the next Friday or Saturday, and there are week nights, even though time might be limited...it's time. You've expressed your interest. He's not biting. Don't bother with another attempt.
kendahke Posted October 28, 2017 Posted October 28, 2017 If you are messaging through snapchat, what are you messaging about? Is any of it about his interest in seeing you again and making that happen? If not, then he's just contacting you for something to do, not because he wants to hang with you. Seems he's had more than enough opportunity to use snapchat to firm up plans and he hasn't done it. I'd stop chatting with him unless all you want is an electronic pen pal.
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