can anybody give me some swift advice regarding sending a final email?

[newbby]

Single is good, keep that up!

whoooohooooo!

[starreyes]

Originally posted by newbby

that i was great and interesting to talk to and really smart and good looking,

 

OF COURSE YOU ARE!!! This is just what you needed at this time....with no rudeness (lol).

 

P.S. You still got it Newbby!!! Yayyy for you!!

[anon67]

Here is the email i stupidly sent yesterday. I have broken my own heart and didn't get a response, and am obsessively chcking email and voicemail like an idiot waiting for a response or plea from him. FYI both he and I are married to other people (me one year, him 2 years and he has a 10 month old baby). We've been having an emotional affair for 16 months and a physical affair for 9 months and work together yet he is on the road 4 days a week.

 

Take everyone's advice and don't send an email it will make you even nuttier. Go shopping instead!

 

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we need to make a clean break. that whole "work wife" game is feeling pretty accurate lately. i'm now actually pissed that you aren't here and feel like laying a guilt trip on you -- like a real wife would! i thought i knew what i was getting into (just the sex), but i didn't realize the extent of any emotional results. i didn't realize i would want you as much as i do. And now, though "all or nothing" is not a practical argument, i think cutting away from each other is most logical given your response of "you are crazy" when I said again that I love you yesterday. the worst for me is that i want you to care how i feel, but i know that you don't. i was right when i told you that you'd break my heart, even if you didn't intend to. i should have known.

 

i'm not trying to have a baby with my husband anymore. i think we are probably going to be separated before the end of this year. part of me wanted a baby with him so i could have a serious reason to forget you. it wasn't for the right reasons at all. this all came to light when chip and i decided that he'd name the boy, and i'd name the girl -- and one name he wrote down was yours. i just about vomited.

 

yeah, i'm crazy. but it's definitely your fault for making me feel so good around you, for making me miss you, and for reminding me that i'm still a woman.

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[newbby]

OF COURSE YOU ARE!!! This is just what you needed at this time....with no rudeness (lol).

 

P.S. You still got it Newbby!!! Yayyy for you!!

 

thanks starreyes!! yes the single guy wasnt rude at all, and yup, i still got it.

feel totally positive today, and i am not taking it personally. the guy is a moron, he knows dammwell that he had absolutely no reason to behave like that. he should be the one feeling bad about himself, not me, i didnt do anything wrong!!!

[newbby]

mm is online again so has unblocked me, but i am never gonna let him get away with treating me like that again. i have blocked him and i am enjoying myself with it, he drove past me today and waved and i just looked blank. i think this may have been intended to be a game to challenge me, but it didnt work.

either that or he really was just being rude and did not want to speak to me, if thats the case then the fact that he has unblocked me shows that he doesnt want to be the one that looks bad, so i still win.

[Art_Critic]

Originally posted by newbby

mm is online again so has unblocked me, but i am never gonna let him get away with treating me like that again. i have blocked him and i am enjoying myself with it, he drove past me today and waved and i just looked blank. i think this may have been intended to be a game to challenge me, but it didnt work.

either that or he really was just being rude and did not want to speak to me, if thats the case then the fact that he has unblocked me shows that he doesnt want to be the one that looks bad, so i still win.

 

You don't look like a winner to me

 

these are just games ... DELETE him and move on...

[newbby]

You don't look like a winner to me

 

 

i'm quite sure i dont.

look i get what youre saying, but if it helps me to think that i am winning then i will do so. it is okay to bow out with an ego boost you know.

[Art_Critic]

Originally posted by newbby

i'm quite sure i dont.

look i get what youre saying, but if it helps me to think that i am winning then i will do so. it is okay to bow out with an ego boost you know.

 

Ya got a point .. Thanks for straightening me out ..

[newbby]

anon, your reply only just turned up, that is the problem with being a guest!

i havent sent him anything, and i dont intend to, i am over him.

dont worry about the email, i have sent them in the past.

however, take his resonses and lack of them to you, that he doesnt feel as you want him to and really try and get over it. i know its easier said than done.

once you have said the L word, theres no kidding yourself that feelings might be reciprocated.

give him time, he knows where to find you. you must take this attitude about it. laying yourself open like that makes you vunerable but at least it lets you know where you stand. i never told mm that i loved him, not in any real way anyway, in that way i did not feel (quite) as vunerable, but i could also convince myself that because i wasnt laying my feelings out, then how could he be sure enough about me to come out with his. looking at his actions though, he doesnt and that is that, i have to get over it, and surprisingly, once you really decide to, you can.

all my nc in the past, has been with the intent of getting a reaction out of him, or it has not but i have convinced myself he will miss me. now i know that even if he misses me, it wont change anything for long.

one thing, do you really have no love left for hubby? did this come about before or during the a?

[newbby]

you can probably tell i am really tired today, my posts are making no sense now.

what i meant to say was, he knows where to find you, if he wants to he will.

i realised today, that it was always me who spoke first to xmm when we had a friendship and had not spoken, although during the actual affair it was always him.

i am not going to speak to him anymore and if he wishes to apologise for his behaviour then he knows where to find me.

i think you should also take this approach, he knows where you are, he has means to contact you. leave it alone and really given a bit of time, i am sure you will see that he is not right at all for you.