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Is he losing interest in me or am i just paranoid?


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It might seem REALLY stupid...but, I need help. There is this guy in my class who proposed me on 22nd October, this year. I was having a huge crush on him and I was really surprised to see him propose me. The way he proposed to me was too romantic to be a joke so we both started dating. Things were going smooth when suddenly in the evening of 25th October, his messages seemed like he is disinterested (but he continued replying to my texts). Next day, i find him being a LITTLE distant from me. He also started spending a lot of time with a guy and two girls who usually sit behind us. On first day, he was persistent on sitting beside me but all of a sudden he didn't care. Another information I would like to disclose is that when he proposed me, he told me that our relationship should be a secret. Even though it was a secret, he teased me in the class....but he didn't do it today. He used to do the same thing before he proposed me too (like he used to be with me, crack jokes and tease me...but then the other he used to not).

 

We BOTH were rejected by our 'former' crushes before we came close. I kNow it is REALLY stupid thing to ask (i feel stupid while typing this out)...but i just need someone to hear it out and tell me what to do. Should I worry or not?

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Did he give a reason for why it should be secret?

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It's hard to say. It could be that after your date, he didn't see this going anywhere. He can't flirt and play anymore like he used to because that would encourage you and give you the wrong idea, and he's just not interested in you that way after all. Sorry.

 

Another line of thinking is that due to the fact he's really into you, and he wants to keep this dating under wraps, he feels like any flirting with you makes it obvious that you two have a "thing," so he's backed off in public.

 

The secrecy issue bothers me. Yes, there are times when secrecy is prudent until the situation is more solid, but is the secrecy due to the fact he wants to keep the door open for other women in the class or dating prospects or he has a girlfriend (dating one of the classmates) and he clearly wouldn't want them to know? People talk.

 

He asked you out on the 22nd and by the 25th, he was running cold. I think just call this one a bust. It's not worth it. He isn't communicating outside of class and partially ignoring you in person, and I think it's just not worth your time and emotion. He doesn't know what he wants, and you're the one that's going to be bouncing around emotionally over all this. Be cordial in class, don't expect anything more. You can call him out and ask him what he's doing and wants, or just let it go.

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I think he was just marking time.

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