lust4life Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 MM OR MW OR OP questions... Why do people continue to lie and or carry on an if after dday the spouse or spouses involved have said they ended the affair. Why continue to lie and manipulate other people lives by making them live within your lies? If the affair was so important why not just end the marriages, as marriages are ended everyday and then continue seeing that other person?
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Because they are too afraid of someone getting hurt.....not realizing that everyone will get hurt no matter what.
ww Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Bc they cannot face the truth.Pluse they are too week to confront and solve their problems.
Art_Critic Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Why is it a shock ? The affair alone was dishonest then throw the coverup in.. At the stage the affair is in now there is no reason for them to tell the truth
Author lust4life Posted August 17, 2005 Author Posted August 17, 2005 It isn't a shock, just voicing a perplexion. Why after an affair is found out, continue to lie and deceive? It seems so very heartless to make somebody continue to live within a lie, of in some cases an entire family(s) live within a lie. There has got to be nothing worse than finding out that your spouse wsa cheating, but then catching them cheating a second time! It seems that there should be a point where the cheaters realize they are it is just horrible to make people live in their own fake lives.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Because at the time, the person has their own best interests in mind and making sure those best interests continue to be met - they lie. Its a matter of prioritizing their own best interests over the best interests of others, and doing whatever it takes to keep it that way.
Mz. Pixie Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 "Because they are too afraid of someone getting hurt.....not realizing that everyone will get hurt no matter what" BINGO- this was it for me. The thought of someone else getting hurt. Actually, if I'd been concerned about this in the beginning I wouldn't have done it I guess but hindsight is 20/20.
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