Hurtingguy Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 Hey LS So I'm back again everyone in this site was helpful with my last break up. And helped me get through it but again a short time later I need some advice. I met this new woman aug 31 and it's been amazing I've had some issues though. We fell in love quick and I feel that she is an amazing woman. She hasn't broke up with me but feel like it's coming. I slept with one of my exs oct 2 cause I felt like I needed someone when she wasn't around. She pulled away from me that day and I made the dumb mistake of cheating. My ex decided to contact my new gf and tell her so I admitted that I did cheat and apologized. ( I know it doesn't make it ok) since then my last that just broke up with me also messaged my new girl on fb and told her a lot of bad things about me. Told her I was abusive (which I was emotionally after we broke up) She has lost trust in me now and says it's hard for her to be vulnerable awirh me but does love me and is willing to take things day by day now: We went and saw a therapist together on Sunday to try and help us get past this. I do want to gain her trust back and have a good strong relationship with her. I know I messed up big time and want to fix this I just don't know what to do. we still have been spending time together but now she questions everything I do when we're not together which I can understand. I guess what I'm asking for is how do I rebuild that trust. How to make her take down the walls she put up She's willing to let me fix this but I need to know how l. Any advice will help! Please LS help me I don't want to lose her care for this woman a lot. I know there's prolly more info you guys may need My heads just all over the place right now so It more info is needed just ask thanks everyone 1
Spartakooty Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 Wow. How old are you? So let's see here. You met a woman less than 2 months ago and you're already seeking therapy over your personal insecure ****? You shouldn't be in a relationship. You need to work on yourself.
Author Hurtingguy Posted October 25, 2017 Author Posted October 25, 2017 I'm not insecure I made a mistake I'm human and just looking for advice in what to do here
Zahara Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 (edited) In a relationship with a woman for about two months and there's cheating involved and already in need of a couples therapist. Just as you were dysfunctional in your past relationship, the patterns continues. I don't think you invested any time healing or even self-reflecting in order to come out emotionally stronger and wiser from your past. The best thing to do is let this woman go and focus on yourself. It's very clear you are not ready for any sort of relationship. It wasn't a mistake. It was a choice. And yes, you are insecure when you have to sleep with an ex because you can't stand being alone/don't have your girlfriend around. Edited October 25, 2017 by Zahara 3
Maldives Posted October 25, 2017 Posted October 25, 2017 Hey LS So I'm back again everyone in this site was helpful with my last break up. And helped me get through it but again a short time later I need some advice. I met this new woman aug 31 and it's been amazing I've had some issues though. We fell in love quick and I feel that she is an amazing woman. She hasn't broke up with me but feel like it's coming. I slept with one of my exs oct 2 cause I felt like I needed someone when she wasn't around. She pulled away from me that day and I made the dumb mistake of cheating. My ex decided to contact my new gf and tell her so I admitted that I did cheat and apologized. ( I know it doesn't make it ok) since then my last that just broke up with me also messaged my new girl on fb and told her a lot of bad things about me. Told her I was abusive (which I was emotionally after we broke up) She has lost trust in me now and says it's hard for her to be vulnerable awirh me but does love me and is willing to take things day by day now: We went and saw a therapist together on Sunday to try and help us get past this. I do want to gain her trust back and have a good strong relationship with her. I know I messed up big time and want to fix this I just don't know what to do. we still have been spending time together but now she questions everything I do when we're not together which I can understand. I guess what I'm asking for is how do I rebuild that trust. How to make her take down the walls she put up She's willing to let me fix this but I need to know how l. Any advice will help! Please LS help me I don't want to lose her care for this woman a lot. I know there's prolly more info you guys may need My heads just all over the place right now so It more info is needed just ask thanks everyone Mate not much u can do only time will tell trust is fragile.
Blanco Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 Dude, you're in your mid thirties. Act like it.
HumanMachine Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 In a relationship for 2 months.. slept with your ex.. counselling?! Sorry but this woman should run a mile! Sort yourself out!!
CaliBabe Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 It will never be the same for her. Even if she says she will work it out now later down the line it will haunt her. She will most likely leave in the future anyway. When cheating is involved it can never be the same after. The fact that you are two months into this relationship and cheated already is bothersome. Let her go. Do not hold onto this, it will not end well.
marky00 Posted October 26, 2017 Posted October 26, 2017 surprised no one has mentioned what a complete B**** his Ex must be. I am assuming she was the dumper since it's mainly dumpees who come to LS. What dumper would go and rat on a dumpee after they slept together? She must be a real piece of work.
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