Jyl_Unit Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 Mind games are the worst. This girl sounds like she is having the time of her life playing with you. She knows that when she gets lonely, you will be there. You need to take a step back and look at this. I know love is love. I understand that wholeheartedly, but it doesn't seem that your love is returned. If she really loves you like she says she does, she wouldn't be playing this "I love you but get away from me" game. Be her friend but don't offer anything more. If she wants it, she will ask. Have some respect for yourself. She won't be your last love and this isn't the end of the world. Go out, have some fun. Realize there is life beyond her.
Author confused45 Posted August 19, 2005 Author Posted August 19, 2005 OK guys...I need more help.. Its been 2 days NC and I"m going insane...I talked to my cousin last night who is one of my ex's best friends. I told her the situation and she said "what the ****...is she bi-polar? She is retared..you can do better jason. YOu don't need that.....you need somone better ...etc......." I DO believe this..but its just so hard...to accept it. My ex hasn't said one thing to me . The last thing I heard from her was a text saying that if I could look up a number up for her for her work ....**** THAT! I just ignored it! Why should I talk to her...when I say all this stuff but she doesnt' say nothing back...ugh....IF SHE ONLY KNEW SHE IS A FOOL FOR WHAT SHE IS DOING...I KNOW SHE WILL REGRET IT IN TIME.... sigh......so hard...so hard..........................so hard!
samski3409 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 i know! it's soo tough to do what you are doing. you've got to just keep it up and remember that you're doing the right thing for yourself. it gets easier,i swear! it may not seem like it now but it does.
Author confused45 Posted August 19, 2005 Author Posted August 19, 2005 GET THIS... You know how I told you I ignored her message yesterday...that she wanted some info about me for her work... Well I ignored it all day yesterday and I haven't texted her once..she texted me today and said "Thanks for the info" I ignored it... She comes back with another text just now and says "Well I can see you are ignoring me these days which is fine. Your probably busy with slut bag or that other girl. good luck in school" I texted back saying "Sorry, I've been busy" HA!!!!! TAke that bi tch! Then she texted back saying "ok. I guess I will stop trying to talk to you" I havent' said nothing...I am thinking that I will tell her that she can talk whenever or should I just ignore it?
samski3409 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 i can't tell you what to do.i can only say that i would just leave it for now. the weekend is here,man. hang out with some positive friends a bit and try to have a little fun. if by monday you REALLY feel like you should say something,then maybe you can then.but who knows you just might have a good weekend and not want to say anything to her.
Mr.positive Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 The humanmind works ina way in which if that people areattracted to you and other people see it they will be attracted to you to you as well. For some reason she has lost interest in you. Not working as much not getting **** done telling her you want to be with you. These are all a sign of weakness that they don't want. just suck it up and don't tell her how you feel that will mess stuff up. And don't evan talk about the relationship that will just cause further damage. Just play it cool and get the stuff in your day that you need done. This will turn her on.
Author confused45 Posted August 19, 2005 Author Posted August 19, 2005 Thanks Mr. Positive. Now I know why they call you Mr. "Positive" Well I texted back after she said she won't try talking to me..and I said, "ok. u can talk whenever" for the love of god this woman knows the ball is in her freakin court!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If she doesnt' want to be with me then why in the hell does she want to talk to me? I already told her no friends....ugh. Well she texted me back saying, "Naw its cool.....you don't respond anyway" LOL!!!!! I was laughing at this so hard.... So I was like **** it....all I said back was, "ok. I tryied" ....that was it. I know I am playing it cool..i'm tired of telling her how I feel...I"m done. Unless she is ready to pick up the relationship again...and that's only if I let her =) I hope she is with someone else so it will make me now want her no more, in a way, ...=)
J dub Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Originally posted by confused45 Thanks Mr. Positive. Now I know why they call you Mr. "Positive" Well I texted back after she said she won't try talking to me..and I said, "ok. u can talk whenever" for the love of god this woman knows the ball is in her freakin court!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If she doesnt' want to be with me then why in the hell does she want to talk to me? I already told her no friends....ugh. Well she texted me back saying, "Naw its cool.....you don't respond anyway" LOL!!!!! I was laughing at this so hard.... So I was like **** it....all I said back was, "ok. I tryied" ....that was it. I know I am playing it cool..i'm tired of telling her how I feel...I"m done. Unless she is ready to pick up the relationship again...and that's only if I let her =) I hope she is with someone else so it will make me now want her no more, in a way, ...=) Ugh -- firstly, WHO CARES IF SHE GETS PISSED IF YOU DONT RESPOND?! I dont mean to yell but DUDE Seriously!!! She doesnt want to be with you, get it thru your head! Secondly, shes saying stuff like "whatever" and whatever the hell else she said to you to instigate a response from you because she obviously knows exactly how to press ur buttons. Drop this girl for gods sake, I told you this before and I will say it again, you will NEVER get over her by allowing the conversation to continue. shes manipulating you, even her damn cousin or friend or whoever said shes bipolar. Hint hint!!!! Or maybe not so much a hint but a direct SIGN to run! I played these games with a guy I liked but not enough to see exclusively. I kept him around with silly sh*t like shes doing so that if the dude I was with didnt work out, I didnt feel so bad because I still had the other fella. Must be comforting to know you are #2, huh? Or maybe even #3 or 4. Good luck dude, you are totally being a sucker for her ways.
samski3409 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 J DUB is telling you the real deal. it may sound harsh but it's the freaking truth. but if you're anything like me you won't listen right away and the same crap will continue.but you'll get fed up with it sooner or later.hopefully it will be sooner and you'll save yourself a lot of wasted time and heartache. THIS GIRL IS BAD NEWS!!
Author confused45 Posted August 19, 2005 Author Posted August 19, 2005 J DUB... I understand what you are saying. And I don't talk to her. That is I don't intiaionate it. It seems like she is getting up set almost point to the she is being mad at me for not begging to her no more. Its alsmot like she is starting to see that I gave up. She knows that I care. But In realtiy its driving her crazy knowing that I am doing things and she is not knowing about it. I know she wants to know that I am still crazy about her, she wants to feel like she is the one and only one for me. I know it makes her think that she is god's gift to men. HA! I'm responding just the way I should. Driving her crazy. And INFACT, this is all helping me out a bunch. I tend to respond back, saying I tried, you know how I feel. And I never talk to her unless she talkes to me. Aand I am even starting to ignore more messages going days with NC. Its getting better guys....in a good way of me healing...and if it turns around. She will relize...either way I won't loose and I will feel better. I think..
WhatShldIDo Posted August 20, 2005 Posted August 20, 2005 Hey man. Im in the same situation with a girl and she has left me 4 times for the same guy. Shes gone for a while then comes back saying shes sorry and loves and mises me so much. She left me last week and had that bastard pick her up at the supermarket near my house, MY HOUSE!!!! There comes a time (and I should heed my own advise) that what you see is what you get, actions are louder than words, and the only question is: why am I doing this to myself. Sick and twisted as it is, we go back for more and it ****in sucks. Im sorry to hear your in the same situation. Good luck.
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