habibting Posted October 24, 2017 Posted October 24, 2017 Hey guys. I'm new to this, but here goes. Last semester I would always notice a guy at this cafe on campus, never with friends, just quietly doing work. He's cute, shy, and very much my type, so he caught my eye the moment I saw him. But I never approached him. This semester, I walked into one of my classes, and turns out he's my TA! And I go to a pretty big university, so I was shocked, but excited. (I know what you're thinking - TA and student? Bad move, and I know. I'm willing to wait until he's no longer my TA. I just want to know if he's showing subtle interest or just being friendly.) So let's call my TA Dan. Dan's a grad student, who I'm assuming is around 23. And turns out, he moved here from Europe for school. He's got the hot accent, too. I'm an undergrad, age 20, btw. Last month, I scheduled an appointment with him to assist me with our first paper because I missed class a few days (I was out of town.) We spent an hour in his office alone and he pretty much told me what to write for the first part of the paper and was super helpful. We both also go to the same library on campus. It's huge but there's this one section called the quiet room that I go to, and I always see him there. (Lucky me, right?) One time I was in line for coffee (in the library) with my friend and I was acting like a total fool (as usual) and I was standing sideways so I noticed through peripheral vision the guy in line behind me was staring at me. It was Dan. Embarrassed, I just said hi. He smiled and said hi back. Two weeks ago, I emailed him and made another appointment to help me for our upcoming exam, there were some material I was confused about. This time we spent 1 1/2 hr in his office, and got more personal. Somehow Europe came up during conversation and I mentioned having traveled there last summer. He asked where I've been and got excited when I named his home city. Also, when he was explaining the material to me, he was sitting VERY close to me. Our feet were touching, and I got so nervous. I couldn't even make eye contact when he was talking to me cause he was so close. I just stared at my laptop screen (I'm an idiot.) At another point, his accent got so strong that I couldn't understand what he was explaining and started laughing really hard. Then he laughed and I just asked to move on to the next topic or I (and I quote) "would've died of laughter." He smiled and we moved on. At one point though, I asked to take a picture of the example on his laptop notes and he said that's not allowed, but that I could copy it down. Last week, I was studying in the quiet room and he walked in, saw me, then sat at my table. He looked at me, smiled and whispered hi. And I've noticed he usually never sits at my table, but rather a few tables down. Over the past week we've encountered each other in the quiet room numerous times and every time we've looked at each other, exchanged smiles and hi's. Now, having shared all this, is he just very friendly? Or is he attracted, but wouldn't go further? I'm waiting for the next assignment to be assigned so I can visit his office again, anything I should do/say next time? Simply seeing him excites me so much smh. Everything about him is my type - introverted, smart, messy brown hair, somewhat cryptic hahaha. Even his major!!! I minor in it.
d0nnivain Posted October 24, 2017 Posted October 24, 2017 He may like you but you are both smart enough to realize nothing can come of this while he's your TA. Make a final appointment with him before exams. Ask if he will still be on campus next semester. Either reach out in January or "jump him" (I'm kidding) when you see him in the quiet room of the library. 1
4EverHisPrincess Posted October 24, 2017 Posted October 24, 2017 It could be that he's a very friendly type of person or possibly attracted to you. If he's not pursuing you, it sounds like he's making a good choice so there won't be any possible arising issues while he's a TA. If he's interested in you and would like to pursue you at a later date, then I'm sure he'll do so. In the meantime, continue to be yourself and focus on your studies. If it's meant to be then things between the two of you can grow. In everything, pray about it and don't be sad if nothing happens...blessings and love to you sweetie! 1
olivetree Posted October 24, 2017 Posted October 24, 2017 He might like you or he might just enjoy the attention. Most TA's do. You can't do anything about it while you're his student, but go for it after the semester is over. My friend was a TA and had students hit on him all the time, and he dated/slept with some of them too. Pretty sure he only seriously dated the ones that he pursued though. So you might like to let him come after you. 1
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