She seems happier without me

[hgriffin17]

I decided to listen to you all and stay silent. I am happy for her but I know being friends with her is something I do not want so for that reason there's no point in reaching out.

 

Thank you all for responding. I really do appreciate it.

[Miss Spider]

Just move on with your life

[hgriffin17]

It's been 9 weeks since we finally went NC and I still grieve over the breakup from time to time.

 

She seems to be a lot happier. Unlike when we were together, she posts more photos of them together. She believes that they were "meant to be together." Her family & friends seem to be more involved with this person.

 

Don't get me wrong, I am glad she's doing well. I love her, I wish the best for her, but I also want myself to be happy as well. But as of now, i'm not. Quite the opposite.

 

Not sure what i'm trying to ask here but i'm just trying to move on. I think we all are honestly.

[Gaeta]

When I was in you place I got over it by repeating to myself my own happiness was around the corner and I would do anything possible to get it.

 

And I got it.

[Trust666]

//But I have been moving on, I just wanted to know more stories similar to mine. How long did it take you to "move on". Do you ever move on from your first love? When did you start dating afterwards? Etc etc//

 

I lost my first love at 19, beautiful woman, she loved me very much. I felt smothered by her and was just finding myself so I ended it and moved on, or so I thought.

 

I didn't date for about another year, I tend to not date for the sake of dating but instead wait for someone I want to date.

 

Recently I had my heart broken, suddenly and harshly, a beautiful woman who I thought loved me very much left me for another man. Who was this woman? The same woman I lost at 19....my first love came back for about 6 months. 24 years later she came back.

 

Life is weird, even when we move on sometimes people come back and you realize maybe you haven't moved on and never will. Then again maybe you will.

[Highndry]

After a break up you don't need a window into your EX's life & they shouldn't be given one into yours.

 

You will better off if you unfollow all of these people.

 

This is so true. It is best to rip the band-aid off and go no contact, with no social media stalking or any of that nonsense. I am confounded by how many people torture themselves in front of the computer screen.

[Trust666]

This is so true. It is best to rip the band-aid off and go no contact, with no social media stalking or any of that nonsense. I am confounded by how many people torture themselves in front of the computer screen.

 

Yep. It never ends well. I went full NC, deleted everything pics, texts, emails, etc. But once she posted pics of her and a new guy right away some of our mutual friends contacted me and boy did I feel not only rejected by a woman who was up my butt and seemed to totally love me but now the feeling of being replaced surfaced. Broken heart and now a crushed ego = pain.

 

I did everything I could to avoid seeing things, but I heard about them from folks who were curious and or thinking their "eww he's fat pasty and ugly" PMs would cheer me up. They didn't lol.

 

I never saw any pics of them, and I have not seen her or an image of her since we broke up and it helps immensely.

[Been]

You have to act like they are dead to you in order to move on. People get stuck in the past and by allowing her in your life in any way is a mistake.

I don't know why people want to be friends with their ex's right when they break up. Its too fresh and nothing good ever comes from it.

In order to move on you have to let go. ALL forms that could lead to contact have to be severed.

Remember also that when your in the honeymoon phase of your relationship everything seems so awesome and people seem on cloud 9 to you. Its when you get past that phase that really counts. Its then you see the real behaviour.

[PegNosePete]

It's been 9 weeks since we finally went NC and I still grieve over the breakup from time to time.

 

She seems to be a lot happier. Unlike when we were together, she posts more photos of them together.

I thought you said you were NC?

 

You seem to be doing a lot of cyber stalking of someone you are supposedly having NO CONTACT with?

 

Do you know what NO CONTACT means?

 

You're shooting yourself in the foot by cyber stalking her.

[hgriffin17]

Lol Jesus Christ, looking at myself back then is kind of embarrasing. But yeah, sometime around the beginning of february I finally blocked her on all social media platforms. Like you guys said, you just gotta do it. It took a while to get to that point, but my own happiness should be prioritized more! Who knows what she's up to, and honestly who cares

[preraph]

Your girlfriend is at that age when she is just discovering herself. Unfortunately for you, she has discovered that she probably prefers girls. So I'm not saying you have to be friends with her, but she can't help that she is undergoing this change, so you should wish her well and forgive her but explain that it would hurt too much to hang around. Sorry for your heartache.

 

Yes, she's happier now because she's finding herself.

[ikoro0003]

bro, grieve, cry and let it all out. Take time off from whatever that stresses u mentally. Pamper urself even if that includes staying indoors for awhile. Then get ur center again and live ur life. Ur 20, and God on ur side u will have another 60yrs plus to live on earth. Do u think someone who showed up for just a couple of months out of those years will matter ina couple of years. No they wont. Just remember, a few years u will get married toan amazing woman u re yet to meet, but u cant meet them if u hvent moved on.