youjustconfuseme Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Okay a cute 21 year old came over for a movie and some wine at my place the other night, there wasn't any kissing but there was a lot of 'accidental' touching and some playfulness and flirting and some looks here and there, I did try and be subtle and go for the kiss a the end of the night, but got the cheek and a nice cuddle. She did say I'll call you or txt you and let's do this again...the thing is though she has a boyfriend so what the hell is she up too? I'm confused, do females do this when a dude is in the friend zone?. I'm not going to contact her for a while and see what happens, but does anyone else find it odd that she has a man but is spending time alone with me?. We talk a bit on the phone and txt each other a lot and it certainly seems like she is trying to suss me out. any thoughts please?.
LittleMiss Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Stay away! This girl has a man and she's trying to get some attention on the side. Don't let her play games with you. If she really likes you and not her current bf then wait till that relationship is over before you start seeing her in a romantic way. Trust me just stay away it will save you a lot of heart ache.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 1. She did say I'll call you or txt you and let's do this again...the thing is though she has a boyfriend so what the hell is she up too? 2. I'm confused, do females do this when a dude is in the friend zone?. 3. I'm not going to contact her for a while and see what happens, but does anyone else find it odd that she has a man but is spending time alone with me?. 1. She is enjoying your attention, the thrill of flirting, the 'newness' of it, the enjoyable sensation of being found attractive by someone else other than her boyfriend, etc. 2. Not if he is genuinely in the friend zone. Guys in my 'friend zone' are ones that I would not ever flirt with, or even encourage it in any way because I have ZERO sexual attraction for them. 3. Good idea. But if you do talk to her, let her know that you'll be happy to see her again: as soon as she is single and free to do so and ask her not to contact you if she plans to stay with her boyfriend. Odd? Nope. Sadly typical? Yes.
lvgrly Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 I have a question..How does making out with someone who is in a relationship make you any better than her? It doesnt..How would you feel to be the guy that is at home waiting on this bitch only to know shes cheating on him.. Yeah thats fair...
room101 Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Ok i agree with lvgrly - lets face it, no-one wants their relationship to end because their partner is cheating on them so y is it any different the other way round? i think that makes sense! if u didnt know she was in a relationship then fair enough but now u do i would suggest staying away for a bit. see how things go between her and her current bf and who knows, maybe there wont be someone else to worry about for long
J dub Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Dude run for your damn life, dont be a homewrecker. Karma is a b*tch and all shes lookin for is some attention on the side. I cant believe you tried to kiss her -- she has a boyfriend. SHE...hassss.....a...BOYFRIEND! There's plenty of other gorgeous femmes out there who are completely 100% single. WHY ON GODS GREEN EARTH do people mess around with those who are already involved? Hello, heartbreak, party of one?
OverProtective Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 I don't cheat, never have, never will. I just hate dishonesty and betrayal! Cheating should be against the law. If you have the balls to cheat then have the balls to tell the other person it's over, stop being greedy and insensitive.
Author youjustconfuseme Posted August 17, 2005 Author Posted August 17, 2005 Originally posted by J dub Dude run for your damn life, dont be a homewrecker. Karma is a b*tch and all shes lookin for is some attention on the side. I cant believe you tried to kiss her -- she has a boyfriend. SHE...hassss.....a...BOYFRIEND! There's plenty of other gorgeous femmes out there who are completely 100% single. WHY ON GODS GREEN EARTH do people mess around with those who are already involved? Hello, heartbreak, party of one? again, she could have always said No and she didn't bring up the boyfriend thing until after our first movie date...I think it might be best to not hang out with her anymore although I really do enjoy her company and oh well...yeah it's time to move on...the odd thing for me is ever since the ****ed up **** with the room mate I seemed to have gained confidence and have a lot more female friends now and even though some of them are just friends, things could lead to other things you know...and another thing there is chemistry between me and this girl and the kiss wasn't like a lunge at her one, it was more of a look into each others eyes and a kind of akward moment and then she turned her face and i kissed her cheek.
Markyboy Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 i can relate to this.... i met a girl whos friend with my girl mates, and she gota bf of over a year which i didnt know at first when i first met her, i knew she liked me straight away, little touches, smiling.....and telling her friend that i was fit right infront of me, so we xchanged numbers, and she told me please text me.....so we text every day for ages i saw her a second time, again over my girl mates house...she was always hugging me, smiling......lying with her head on my lap....kisses on the cheek, saying that "i want what i cant have".....and she said that she wanted to sleep in the same bed as me.....so at 4 in the moring she comes into the room and sleeps right next to me i said to myself, that im not going to do anything as shes gota bf, and i havnt done anything with her, even though i quite like her we still text and stuff, and have arranged to meet up....but we havnt yet now she denys that she ever did fancy me!, which is rubbish cos my friend says that she did anyway shes invited me along to her and her bf's joint birthday bash......which im going to go to.......so see what she says
Author youjustconfuseme Posted August 18, 2005 Author Posted August 18, 2005 Originally posted by Markyboy i can relate to this.... i met a girl whos friend with my girl mates, and she gota bf of over a year which i didnt know at first when i first met her, i knew she liked me straight away, little touches, smiling.....and telling her friend that i was fit right infront of me, so we xchanged numbers, and she told me please text me.....so we text every day for ages i saw her a second time, again over my girl mates house...she was always hugging me, smiling......lying with her head on my lap....kisses on the cheek, saying that "i want what i cant have".....and she said that she wanted to sleep in the same bed as me.....so at 4 in the moring she comes into the room and sleeps right next to me i said to myself, that im not going to do anything as shes gota bf, and i havnt done anything with her, even though i quite like her we still text and stuff, and have arranged to meet up....but we havnt yet now she denys that she ever did fancy me!, which is rubbish cos my friend says that she did anyway shes invited me along to her and her bf's joint birthday bash......which im going to go to.......so see what she says well good luck with that man, and be very careful around the boyfriend, DO NOT flirt with her or show any interest in her, watch her as well, just play it cool...with the denying that she ever did fancy you, it seems to me that she enjoyed the attention you gave her and she may very well enjoy games...
J dub Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Originally posted by youjustconfuseme again, she could have always said No and she didn't bring up the boyfriend thing until after our first movie date. She is confused and wants the best of both worlds, the security of her b/f along with the excitement and attention of a new fella. Dont waste your time on someone who won't give you their full attention, because youre kidding yourself. If she liked you THAT much, she'd leave her b/f plain and simple.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 She may have been doubting her relationship with her bf, or if it's a new relationship then she wanted to see if she could upgrade before it got too serious.
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