My boyfriend/fiance proposed a threesome, but I’m not sure I should go there

[bpb2017]

Move on, don't make the same mistake with the next guy.

 

You can't expect to cheat (what you did was cheating, I mean c'mon) and have a happy relationship. You start trouble and you will have it, you light a fire and it'll burn down the house.

[WolfofStreets]

All I'll add to this is bringing another into the bedroom takes NSA Top Secret level trust in a relationship. Your relationship needs to be as strong as a brick wall to even venture into this territory. If it isn't it won't end well.

 

Wife and I have been with another girl (her friend), we're 30ish. She was 26. Gorgeous. My wife is also bisexual, girl showed interest in her for awhile she said, we went out and met her for drinks and went back to her apartment for some amazing sex. Her on her, me on friend, It really felt like a spiritual experience for me personally, wife as well. We are closer than we ever were.

 

It takes certain people to be able to make stuff like this work.

[snowbird7]

Yes, I know. We've already begun experimenting (2 times so far) and it hasn't went particularly well. I never thought it would be a good idea, but my bf insisted. We're still experimenting tho, so the verdict is still out.

 

The main problem seemed to be that my bf and his partner were just not that into each other, and I don't feel comfortable doing a "foursome" if it's going to come down to basically me having sex while my bf and his gf just sit there and watch. That's not really a foursome to me, and I didn't sign up for that.

 

However, the girl dropped out, so now we're going to just try a threesome next. She just wasn't that into it, and imho I think it was a mistake to get her involved. That was my bad. I knew she wasn't that interested, but I wanted my bf to have a partner too. But she was waaay too jealous, and I think she even intentionally tried to screw it up. She even actually hates me now and will not speak to me. But I'm hoping that now that she's out of the picture, that my bf will able to get more involved.

 

As far as my bf is concerned, he's definitely more jealous now than ever, but he says he can handle it. He thinks that after some experimenting we will be able to move forward in our relationship. I myself am not so sure, but I love him and I feel like I have to trust him on this. Plus, we've already started, so there's really no going back now. I feel at this point we have no choice but to keep going and see where it leads. I hope my bf turns out to be right, but if he isn't, and we end up breaking up over this, as far as I'm concerned it will be mostly his fault, not mine. I was never going to cheat on him, and this whole thing was his idea.

[Cobra_X]

As far as my bf is concerned, he's definitely more jealous now than ever, but he says he can handle it. He thinks that after some experimenting we will be able to move forward in our relationship. I myself am not so sure, but I love him and I feel like I have to trust him on this. Plus, we've already started, so there's really no going back now. I feel at this point we have no choice but to keep going and see where it leads. I hope my bf turns out to be right, but if he isn't, and we end up breaking up over this, as far as I'm concerned it will be mostly his fault, not mine. I was never going to cheat on him, and this whole thing was his idea.

 

*facepalm*

 

I think you know that you already cheated, and that the whole disaster is on you. I think we call this hamstering.

[stillafool]

Ok... I have lots of experience with this, so pay close attention.

 

First everyone gets into a comfortable position.

Then you stand and take off any hats, place your right hand over your heart.

Someone should then sing the national anthem.

Then the names of the people involved should be read aloud along with what positions they plan to play and with some excitement. I suggest you BF does this part.

You should then flip a coin to see who goes first.

 

If you follow that template this should start smoothly.

 

Now... this stuff usually ends in a fiery ball of jealousy and gunpowder. Enjoy your trolling.

 

:lmao::lmao::laugh::love:

[heavenonearth]

As far as my bf is concerned, he's definitely more jealous now than ever, but he says he can handle it. He thinks that after some experimenting we will be able to move forward in our relationship. I myself am not so sure, but I love him and I feel like I have to trust him on this. Plus, we've already started, so there's really no going back now. I feel at this point we have no choice but to keep going and see where it leads. I hope my bf turns out to be right, but if he isn't, and we end up breaking up over this, as far as I'm concerned it will be mostly his fault, not mine. I was never going to cheat on him, and this whole thing was his idea.

 

You ALREADY CHEATED on him!!!

How can you still be in denial about this?

Are you really this dense?

 

Wow....

[stillafool]

Yes, I know. We've already begun experimenting (2 times so far) and it hasn't went particularly well. I never thought it would be a good idea, but my bf insisted. We're still experimenting tho, so the verdict is still out.

 

The main problem seemed to be that my bf and his partner were just not that into each other, and I don't feel comfortable doing a "foursome" if it's going to come down to basically me having sex while my bf and his gf just sit there and watch. That's not really a foursome to me, and I didn't sign up for that.

 

However, the girl dropped out, so now we're going to just try a threesome next. She just wasn't that into it, and imho I think it was a mistake to get her involved. That was my bad. I knew she wasn't that interested, but I wanted my bf to have a partner too. But she was waaay too jealous, and I think she even intentionally tried to screw it up. She even actually hates me now and will not speak to me. But I'm hoping that now that she's out of the picture, that my bf will able to get more involved.

 

As far as my bf is concerned, he's definitely more jealous now than ever, but he says he can handle it. He thinks that after some experimenting we will be able to move forward in our relationship. I myself am not so sure, but I love him and I feel like I have to trust him on this. Plus, we've already started, so there's really no going back now. I feel at this point we have no choice but to keep going and see where it leads. I hope my bf turns out to be right, but if he isn't, and we end up breaking up over this, as far as I'm concerned it will be mostly his fault, not mine. I was never going to cheat on him, and this whole thing was his idea.

 

Maybe it would be best if your bf picked his own girl to have sex with as that way he will know he wants her sexually.

[Zahara]

I hope my bf turns out to be right, but if he isn't, and we end up breaking up over this, as far as I'm concerned it will be mostly his fault, not mine. I was never going to cheat on him, and this whole thing was his idea.

 

You're either dense or incredibly entitled.

 

You already cheated. Remember the time when you got to the point of a lap dance and sex toys but couldn't go all the way because you weren't drunk enough?

[rightondude]

I sense a plot twist coming. it's gonna be funny when your baby daddy and his "friend" start going at it and you're sitting there alone with your vesper.

[BaileyB]

I sense a plot twist coming.

 

I know. I'm making some popcorn because I can't wait to see what happens next...

[elaine567]

This would all be very entertaining if there wasn't a child in the centre of this.

[Cobra_X]

This would all be very entertaining if there wasn't a child in the centre of this.

 

I wouldn't worry. I am fairly sure this is just a troll thread.

[xUnknown]

I never thought it would be a good idea, but my bf insisted. We're still experimenting tho, so the verdict is still out.

 

I was never going to cheat on him, and this whole thing was his idea.

 

 

 

Keep telling yourself that. But you know it wasn't HIM that wanted it to happen. You wanted to screw the friend. I can guarantee that he said it to see if you would turn it down (not a very smart idea, imo), but now that you agreed to it, he feels like he has to.

 

Would you be OK with him screwing your best friend? Be honest, do you think you'd be jealous?

 

You said the girl is WAYY too jealous... She has every right to. You two basically talked her into this. She'll end up breaking up with her bf, and she'll blame it on you. Just giving you some warning about it. Also, your bf will break up with you. Because there is no way a guy would want his best friend to screw his girlfriend, especially with how uncomfortable you mentioned he was in one of your original posts. This will not end well. Please realize this.

Edited October 30, 2017 by xUnknown

[xUnknown]

OP is trying to manipulate everyone here into thinking its OK to screw her boyfriends best friend. I love how she is saying it was her bf's idea...and how we might as well keep going since we got this far. And how its his fault that he is jealous (which it is, sort of, since he brought up the idea - but I bet he wouldn't think she would agree to it).

 

Just dump your boyfriend already. Screw his friend. You've already ruined the relationship between him and his friend, his friend and the friend's girlfriend, friendship between you and the friends girlfriend...

 

I hope your boyfriend is wise enough to dump you and raise the child without you

[RecentChange]

Snowbird.

 

So how does your BF feel now after discovering his friend F's you so much better than he ever did?

 

All those piv orgasms his friend gave you while he can't give you any had to be a blow to his ego.

 

So what are you all doing now? Are you going to F the friend regularly?

[Miss Spider]

Her BF's a cuck so he will undoubtedly love it

[Sammichmaker]

As far as my bf is concerned, he's definitely more jealous now than ever, but he says he can handle it.

 

I love this thread.

Please, keep the updates going.

[RecentChange]

Snowbird - why are you posting everywhere else about how great sex was with boyfriend's friend.... And not updating your own thread?

 

So what now?

[snowbird7]

I quit posting updates here because I consider the thread closed. We already decided to go ahead with it. But thx to everyone who didn't flame and who offered me real insight. It really did help me to consider different perspectives.

 

As far as "what now", well, I'm not sure what you mean by that. We're still experimenting, so I'm not sure what's next. However, if I feel like sharing anything, I'll probably just start another thread.