kortz Posted October 23, 2017 Posted October 23, 2017 So met this girl at a social event, she initiated a conversation with me and we got chatting and clicked a bit. Got her number and setup a date. Went for a drink and it went well we stayed an hour longer than intended and the conversation was good and fun. However since our first meet I've noticed she's not very chatty over text at all which is ok but I'm used to girls who engage a lot more. But I put it down to she's just not a texter and that's fine. After the first date we agreed we'd meet up again. But she hasn't initiated any texts or calls to me at all (during the very few times we've spoken). I message her and we agree a day for the second date but it's me asking her and finding out when she's free etc so it all feels like one way traffic at the moment. So im having a hard time reading her, shes given nothing away apart from the fact shes agreed to go on two dates with me. I do like her and I've tried to be friendly and funny when we have texted but she doesn't engage much and I'm starting to feel like this is a one way thing I.e she doesn't seem that keen! I'll see how she is on the second date but any thoughts on this from any of you? Is there any way to subtly broach the subject with her to try figure out her thinking? Like I say I do like her so I'm persisting for now otherwise I'd have written it off pretty quickly.
Coffeeguy Posted October 23, 2017 Posted October 23, 2017 No by all means keep going. You'll be back in a month and the topic will be about how she is unresponsive to a bunch of other stuff and now you're confused and on the path to misery. I'm learning this stuff the very hard way now. Anyone like that is enjoying being chased and getting attention and the very second you want some in return, you'll be standing there with your thumb up your a$$. Don't try anymore. Move on. 2
alphamale Posted October 23, 2017 Posted October 23, 2017 you'll know after the 2nd date what to do 1
smackie9 Posted October 23, 2017 Posted October 23, 2017 If the texts drop off, that's a pretty good indication of hoping you will get the hint, she isn't all that interested. It's not hard to read, it's just that there are no more positive signals to read. 1
Author kortz Posted October 23, 2017 Author Posted October 23, 2017 Yea I'm probably clutching at straws here. Well we've agreed on dinner tomorrow so I'll see how it goes and how she is after. If she doesn't show any signs of engaging more then that's that. Thanks for the advice you're all right. She's on strike two so she'll have to hit a home run to turn this around 1
kassy Posted October 24, 2017 Posted October 24, 2017 I I find personally when I've met a guy in person but don't really know him I don't text much as I want to get to know him in real life. So if we have the next date arranged I'm not really going to be initiating much text, except maybe a confirmation text the day before/of the next date. I didn't communicate with my current boyfriend after our first date for 5 days before our second date 6 days after the first. Now were dating we text a fair amount, definitely daily and have a lovely relationship. I would say just go on date 2, don't read into the texting for now and just see how things progress. She's either a bit weird like me, or she is not that into you. It should become quite clear which it is very soon
JEG88 Posted October 24, 2017 Posted October 24, 2017 I actually think this is being blown a little out of proportion. You've barely been on one date and don't really know each other. Although I do agree it seems like there is some level of this girl liking the feeling she's being chased. See how Date 2 goes. 1
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