Sister wants me to buy expensive gifts for nephew. Am I wrong for saying no?

[basil67]

No one can dictate us about what we really want. Our sister can suggest but still its our own decision whether to go for it or not. I'm not also in favor of buying expensive gifts. Maybe just tell your sister honestly about it:)

 

You're correct that we can't dictate what people want. However we can dictate what they ask us for. This is done by setting up strong boundaries so that the person stops asking.

[chinadiary]

My sister in law is a bit like this. Her kids (2are adult) get expensive gifts. I don't spend that much on anyone, including myself. I'm not doing it. She has a gift cupboard and a gift only comes out for me or my adult daughter after her family has received gifts. Even tho there are 5 of them, and only 2 of us (myself and daughter). The really stupid thing is, I have to take the reciprocal gifts she gives me even though I don't want, like or use them because to do otherwise would be offensive.

 

Argh.