CurvyGurl Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Just wondering... No one in my family knows about Fred except my mom and my cousin. Very few friends know. NONE of his family and NONE of his friends know about me. We've been dating a little over 2 months. Normal? Or are we being overly cautious?
LittleMiss Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Well, I usually let my friends and family know about my bf right away. Not purposely, but I just get all excited and can't stop talking about them. I think if you two really like each other then go ahead and let people know. Introduce him to the important people in your life. I think it's kinda strange that None of his friends and family know about you. Is he hiding something?
Art_Critic Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 I'm real close to my family and even work with my brother and one of my sisters. Since my family is a big part of my life the women I date normally get introduced within a week or two. A lot of times it will be a birthday party of one of my nieces or nephews. I know a lot of people think that meeting the family is a big step but with me it is part of everyday life.
Pendawn Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 My friends nad family knew about my bf almost immediatly. bf's friends and family it took a few months. I was concerned at first but it was because he said he'd made a bit of an idiot in the past introducing girlfriends that lasted 2 months round as the next big thing, then feeling an idiot when they split up, he was being cautious. His friends knew about me from about 2 months, i met them all about 4 months. His family knew about me about 3-4 months and I haven't met them yet (6 months) though I know he talks about me a lot and his family know me by name. I think it depends on your relationship with your family and your dating history.
Author CurvyGurl Posted August 17, 2005 Author Posted August 17, 2005 He is a really private person and most of his friends are either his cousins or people he works with. When I ask him if he's told anyone, he says 'I keep my business to myself.' He's not ever going to be a 'shout it from the rooftops' kind of person... and meeting the family is a very VERY big deal to him. My immediate family all live across the country and his family lives about 4 hours away, so it's not like we're going to run into them in town or anything. He doesn't do much with his friends, and we live about 40 mins from each. I'm 31 and never seriously dated so when I meet someone my family jumps to talking about marriage so quickly and it makes me uncomfortable for one thing, and for another it makes me focusion that and getting impatient with our relationship.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 The relationship with the last guy I dated seriously, after my marriage separation, was very discreet. After a couple of months of being separated I wanted to "come out" and he panicked. He was afraid of my exH's reaction if the kids went telling him about mom's new boyfriend. He liked to keep his business HIS business too. He was afraid that if I met his familyand friends, and things wouldn't work out that they'd all be asking "where's the gf?" and he'd feel liek crap And rightly so, cuz he f**ked it up and would be explaining alot to his family if I had met them. I tend to tell everyone everything too soon. As soon as I tell them about a new guy, (like 3 dates) then after the next 3 dates I'm telling them about the next new guy! I have to be more cautious too and keep my business MY business. Don't worry, NOT telling the kids or the ex, just my mom and some close friends and coworkers.
Pendawn Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Originally posted by CurvyGurl I'm 31 and never seriously dated so when I meet someone my family jumps to talking about marriage so quickly and it makes me uncomfortable for one thing, and for another it makes me focusion that and getting impatient with our relationship. Ah that's another good reason not to tell if you know you're going to get unneccesary pressure from folks. My bf happened to mention last night that his mum is a bit impatient for him or his sis to get married, so I'm thinking there's another reason right there why he's holding back on thw actual "let's have tea together" situation. Sounds like you are both being sensible and cautious as would come with your age/experience.
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