I really lost it today, got so upset with her!

[kendahke]

You seem to love toxic women, from the co-worker from hell, Rene and Lisa. Co-worker and Lisa sound like the same person.

 

They do, don't they?

 

You all have valid points, I want to see where this goes.

 

Then quit being surprised at what you find when you get there. All actions have consequences.

 

No I am not okay with this.

 

Actually, you are; otherwise you wouldn't be saying you want to "see where this goes".

 

I just don't want to get too upset where I can't control myself.

 

If that's the case, then you stop putting yourself in close proximity to them. Problem solved.

 

It sounds more like you are being a control freak with women who do not want your type of control.

Edited October 23, 2017 by kendahke

[BaileyB]

I didn't realize that this is the same poster as the "female coworker from hell." That explains a lot... Last I read, you had decided to ignore everyone's warnings and move in with the woman because you wanted to see where that relationship went...

 

Boundaries, my friend. Healthy relationships require healthy boundaries... Of which, you have none.

Edited October 23, 2017 by BaileyB

[Williamjacob]

Found out I can't get my money back for the ticket. Only ticket credit for travel for the person name on that ticket. Oh well.. Good for Oct 2018 after that it's a bust! What prompted me to cancel the ticket.

 

I had received a call at 6:47 pm, but I was outside talking to my neighbor. When I came inside and had checked my cell there she was called and text. Yes will go into a panic mode if I don't answer the cell when she calls.

 

It was after 7 pm when I learn that the death was coming sooner than later the doctor told the family there wasn't anything more that couldn't be done. 3 weeks that would cut into the time she would be flying.. I felt so said for her loss I am very understanding man, not like other men who are selfish and uncaring. She was crying so much I started to weep myself, yes a man can weep too.

 

I feel the death will be sooner as family member as fallen and was on the bathroom floor she was so weak. I told her I would be there for her. You me there I will fly up to you to be supportive to you in this time.

 

This was the first call. I couldn't get her on the phone 1 hr later. She called me after 8 pm she was calm down and appreciated that I was so understanding and caring.. Yes I told her she was wonderful person yet very easy to get upset and swearing. I use some of you words and reflect in a way so she could understand what she was doing to us. This isn't the a good time to discus this but the opportunity is present plus her mind doesn't have to think about what's going to happen, which is a death in the family going to pull her downward. I've been to many family wakes and such. Acting like the mediator I do at work also but with families who just don't get along with each other. I told her she needs to be the woman I really like to be with she has to be strong and not take any BS from anyone.

 

This is going to be a challenge on her like this. I had felt in a way closer to her helping to to coop. After the funeral I will know the next course of action to take?

 

For now I will leave this be, it's not about me or her it's about the family and death is really sink in and hit them all in the face. Once you dead you dead. Your not coming back.

Edited October 24, 2017 by Williamjacob

[spiderowl]

Are you sure she has a family member who is so ill? You mention flying - does she have to fly to be with this person? If so, how can you be sure she is telling you the truth and not just trying to get money out of you? Her behaviour was not good; it was rude and manipulative. She might have a compassionate side, but she can also be demanding and abusive.

 

While there are lots of people out there who have been abused as children, there seem to be an awful lot of people with very poor behaviour who claim to have been abused. They might have been but not everyone who has been abused starts being rude to people who are trying to help them. Honestly, if she treats you badly, do not let anything be an excuse, just look at the way she is behaving because that is real and present.

 

This woman might be genuine, but the fact that she has behaved so badly is a big red flag. It doesn't matter how genuine she is, she has a nasty side. Guess who is going to be on the receiving end of it? Do you think you should start a relationship with someone on the basis of having to set firm boundaries? She should know how to treat you well not need controlling.

[phineas]

Why would that matter? that's the problem with a lot of guys, they remain in dysfunctional relationships that damage their essence because the sex is good..

 

if he's paying top dollar he should be getting something out of it.