I really lost it today, got so upset with her!

October 9, 2017

Lisa had reached out to me Saturday morning she was in a good mood! She was cooking breakfast. Then all of sudden she said I'll call you right back. She Never did!

Last night I over slept so I didn't send a text message saying Gn Lisa. But she didn't response say the same back. Today not a word from her no calls, and no text. I hope all is well. Either she didn't pay the cell bill or the cell died on her. This can get really frustrating, as I can't call her when she's taking care of her mother as those were her wishes. I look forward to her calls or text. Next week she's suppose to take one-way flight to me, I have a sneaking feeling that's not going to happen. Fair is low on Tuesday/Wednesday, tickets are limited.

She will only fly on her favorite airlines. That makes the cost of the ticket higher. She's not working and as taken time off. She suppose to come back her work with after doing another transfer. I might have jump the gun about her playing games but this is dragging out and there are a few things that need her attention. Last week I had to close out Public Storage for her. She called and said they had raise the monthly fee again. I had to make two trips to get everything out. Then the main gate to exit out after punching in the code wouldn't open. I had felt stuck. Lucky the clerk came out and told me she would open the gate manually. Once she did I drove through and away..

One thing I had to do was to help her with her ticket she got her last pay check from our company. So she was putting down 1/2. I had matched her half. You see my worry now if she doesn't come then what happens to the $150 for the ticket. My close friends told me she's going to spend it. I am not sending her anymore money. She's with family they can help her. Who's paying the cell phone bill?

I hope all this goes well next week when she's suppose to fly out. I have to confirm this with her. I just feel like she dragging her feet at time. I can understand the need to help her mother.

I know if anything happens to the mother health she will not leave, and she's going to loose her position at our job if she doesn't act on it. I can't hold her position so long. Her tags on the car will expire on her birthday this week. They will start charging her delinquency fees on top of that.

She said she would pay me back, but we all know how that goes. I was looking forward to her riding in the early morning to work together. She had a problem with us being seen together but she told me now she doesn't care. There are other couples at work as well. Frankly they only care if I held a higher title I couldn't work on the same shift that she did. One of the OPA he has his gf there she got special treatment because of him. I don't want that to happen to me and Lisa.

Edited October 9, 2017 by Williamjacob

October 9, 2017

I feel like you're leaving out huge chunks of the story. You say you've dated a "few" times. Yet you're paying her bills and tickets, clearing out her storage locker and moving her into your place already. Why are you doing this?

...especially when you're so fixated on whether she's sincere or playing games, using you, and about to abandon you?

You say she's not working, but later in the same post you mention you're both working for the same employer. Which is it?

How long have you dated? Why is she moving in with you? How old are you both?

October 9, 2017

I feel like you're leaving out huge chunks of the story. You say you've dated a "few" times. Yet you're paying her bills and tickets, clearing out her storage locker and moving her into your place already. Why are you doing this?
...especially when you're so fixated on whether she's sincere or playing games, using you, and about to abandon you?

You say she's not working, but later in the same post you mention you're both working for the same employer. Which is it?

How long have you dated? Why is she moving in with you? How old are you both?

She asked for a transfer, but it was never approved. It's not her fault management didn't know how to do one. I am not paying her bills. I just helped her move things out Public Storage, they would just take away her deposit. I am not leaving out anything in this. The employer is huge so that's not the issue. She needs to put in transfer papers back to Florida location. I can't do that she and I are not married, just seeing each other. 2 months if you need to know. I moved her in makes it easier to visit and spend time with her. She wants the relationship. Mom needed her so she had flown to be with Mom. I don't think she's going to abandon me. All her stuff is here. I know she didn't want to leave me but she had too. It's her Mom. I don't want this to drag into Thanksgiving! Going to miss her birthday this week I was going to surprise her? Age we're about the same. I am older by 5 years. Let me see what happen this week. I have her car on my property as well she gave me the keys too it. We work at the same company she just transfer to another State where we have a location there. I just know she had a fight with the management there. So she told them she quits. I told her don't say that. Just ask for a transfer back to Florida that's it. No problem with her she doesn't like to text or talk on the phone too long. I don't like to text on cell phone. I can text on computer which I am on now. Our schedule at work changes by Thanksgiving she'll need to get back before that time. I told her on Saturday we all got a raise in pay she too. As long as she is in the system she can get one. I am up for promotion as well. My hours will change. I sharing this with all of you sometimes hard to figure out things. Maybe I should fly out to her on the weekend to be with her. I don't want to crowd her space with her mom.

Edited October 9, 2017 by Williamjacob

October 9, 2017

How many dates have you actually had in the two months you've been dating?

October 9, 2017

Now she has done it! She told me the money I gave her half for her ticket is gone a few days ago. $150 was taken by her younger daughter boy friend he's out of work. She said she left her purse bag out on the kitchen table. Lisa said she didn't know he was coming over.

October 9, 2017

I was on the phone with back and forth about this. I wanted to know where her head was at and if she going to get the money back from her daughter. Fat chance that's going to happen. Again all fingers point to me to buy the ticket, because I am not sending any more money to her. I found a ticket for $39 one-way she doesn't want to fly on that plane because she only flies Southwest. I guess they don't charge for her carry on and luggage in the hole. My close friends said don't buy her any tickets? If I don't she won't come. Now the departure date is set for Nov instead of Oct. I can't get anything cheaper because it's too late. I was concern about a few things with her.

If her mom dies I would go with her back, she told me no you don't have to do that we're not married. I was going for support. She said I would get in her way? Really I won't but I not going to push this with her then. She does need to get back to the job though. If she doesn't she going to loose her role in the company. So a month from now she'll be here. I have book the ticket yet. I trying to pay off my 7 bills I have to pay off. I am really at my wits end now! $75 gone or did she really use it? Friends said sure she did? I am say I am not sure she did?

October 9, 2017

Reading through this thread, my thoughts went from:

"How sad, this needy guy is bugging Lisa when her mom is sick (caretaking is a full-time job)"

to

"Get rid of Lisa!"

October 14, 2017

I had got this woman nonstop airline ticket this week, after she had $75 I had sent to her stolen. Now ticket have been purchased so there is no excuse not to leave first week of next month right? Guess again? Her family saying she's shouldn't leave or be with me. Come on now this nuts! When I had asked her if she was still coming. It's like a huge bomb just exploded! F-word came out and was so shocked. Was it necessary to say the F-word! Told me her family came first. I said but I pay for your ticket that made it even worst. Like each day she calls me some days good some other days not so good. I told her I was looking forward to have a life with her. Then she had yelled saying it's not all about you and you know why I am her right. Family mean so much to her. Yet her mom wasn't there for her when she was little. Now adult I am getting accuse for things I haven't done yet. Her tags on her car have expired, Told me her Mom will give her the money. I tried to look-up the cost and I can't get into her account with the infor she had. Our relationship is very new so I am sure there will be bumps but if she turns out to be angry woman, then I am not gong to be with her. She had blurs out this too, saying there are 2 other men who want me to live with them too. I was so shocked to hear that. So I said well do you want to live with them instead? She said no way, but they had more money that me. So I said it shouldn't be about the money. She agreed and wanted to be with me instead.

October 14, 2017

Do you love her Will ?

Was she really pissed the way she swore or just swore , it's just there's a difference you know , everyone swears but if she was really angry when she did well. Mind you that's when even saints will swear but it just sounds like she lost it too easily.

Anyway , if it was me l'd be getting to know her a bit better before living with her if you do love her.

You know , and throwing 2 other guys in your face is very suspicious of the type of person she might be. And if she's with you and supposedly moving in what is she even doing knowing two other guys anyway let alone being on those sorta terms where they want her to move in.

Good luck anyway.

October 14, 2017

why do you feel you have to pay for her she is not your responsibility .relationships should be mutual give and take....and to me...money isnt part of that at all......even if she becomes your live in partner it is not your responsibility to support her.....and if it wasnt about money why does she take money from you.....and let you know about two other guys who have MORE money than you..how does she know that...

if money didnt matter why bring it up in the first place......she seems to be taking notice of money .........can you explain to me how you met and how long this relationship has been going on for.....have you met her family?..i feel that she may be taking advantage of your good will...i really also feel you need to know her much much better before living together.......deb

October 14, 2017

exactly, forgot to even get into the money thing but again , not a nice quality throwing that at you will , and how does she even know that .

Edited October 14, 2017 by Chilli

October 14, 2017

How long have you known this woman? How many times have you met in person?

My assumption based in the little that you have shared is that it is far to early to be sayin that you want to make a life with this woman. This isn't going to work - money, and f-bombs, and family, regardless...

Edited to add, I've looked at your previous post. It's a new relationship, definitely too early to say that you want to be with this woman. She is not invested in the relationship in the same way that you are invested. You become very angry and accusatory whenever this woman doesn't return your texts. This is not a healthy relationship for you.

Edited October 14, 2017 by BaileyB

October 14, 2017

Have you met her in person? How much can you trust her? Please stop sending her money.

October 14, 2017

Have you met in person?! Please stop sending her money. You realize this could be a scam

October 15, 2017

why do you feel you have to pay for her she is not your responsibility .relationships should be mutual give and take....and to me...money isnt part of that at all......even if she becomes your live in partner it is not your responsibility to support her.....and if it wasnt about money why does she take money from you.....and let you know about two other guys who have MORE money than you..how does she know that...

if money didnt matter why bring it up in the first place......she seems to be taking notice of money .........can you explain to me how you met and how long this relationship has been going on for.....have you met her family?..i feel that she may be taking advantage of your good will...i really also feel you need to know her much much better before living together.......deb

Last month I drove up to where she is staying and spend about 4 days with her. She spend those for days with me every night we're together watching TV on the hotel suite sofa and in king size bed. She made the effort gave me her nights and morning. Doing those 4 days a lot has happen, Met her younger daughter, her two small kids (girls too) must run in the family. They live poor, I don't care about that. Her mom lives in assisted living for senior she has her apartment in new building. They were having party got free home cook. I met also one of her brothers the younger he was excited to me. Met her older sister and her older kids an grand kids. Met two of her very close girl friends as well one best one. She had shown me around her home town all the different houses she had live.

That was good part, then the money request came in first for public storage, second for pms stuff I don't mine, she doesn't have the money. She was suppose to be working for our company they are global. She did work after I left and ran into problems. She's there for her family that's it. Plain and simple I have to wait on her return, her mom needs her. Seem like the younger daughter needs her too to baby sit her less than a year old baby girl who I met she had taken a liking to me. It's really the daughter doesn't want her to return to Florida and then the mom is doing the same.

I didn't hear a peep from her today, so I text a her message. Short ones. Only one did she answer.

First one:

Are you okay?

Nothing

Second one:

What's going on

You know where I am, I am with my F....family stop texting me. Goodbye

Very cold and rude response.. Well I am not covering up the fact one person in this family house hold is dying I've send my best and prays she's still has anger issue with men

I wanted to make it clear that I wasn't asked to get the ticket, I did it because she wants to come back and wanted to stay until end of this moth was over. Okay there was only one nonstop ticket really cheap. I had booked it. That' flight was gone the next day.

She told me that the $75 from her last pay check and my $75 was stolen by her daughter baby father who was out of work and had came over one evening. Her purse was on the kitchen table and a few days ago she had notice that the $150 was gone He was the only other than two of them that could take the money. Even if she use the money for food and stuff for the kids it's okay.

But I am not sending any more money to her. Let the family take care of her needs not me. Ticket she needed to return here.

But the anger part isn't a good sign I was able to claim her down. I told her I will not put up with such behavior. But reading other post here I've learn there is no way to correct this issue. She told me she hasn't been close to any other man other than me in 10 years. Not even sleeping with them, but with me she has. We have a bit in common with relationships about the same total I was surprise. Remember I met this woman like the prior at work. I don't do the bar thing, out of the blue thing either. I want to try with this one see where it goes. Not to Hell, but have a good life.

I've seen a a few times prior to living for her mom. We are still new together going there to where she was from help her trust me. She told me she trusted me. If she didn't trust me I wouldn't have put in so much effort so far. Don't get me wrong she has gotten me food for my drive back here she was really making sure about me.

She wants to be with me, but I have to overlook the anger and the stress of losing a family member. She's very independent and so I am. Strong minded too. I like that I am that way too. I am working longer hours now almost triple the workload I come home dead on my feet. But I do look forward to her calls to me. I will not call her only if we get cut off on the calling it happens.

I just have to see what happen's next... What can do, but pray she comes back to me on the flight day. She said that's what she going to do. I have to trust and don't ask her other wise the swearing will pop out her dirty mouth!

October 15, 2017

Just leave her alone like she wants...she sounds like a hot mess anyway

October 15, 2017

Just leave her alone like she wants...she sounds like a hot mess anyway

I have come to realize that now. But I do care about her and she does for me as well. But her family needs her more than me now. I just have to wait and see what happen's next each day. I told her anything happen's I'll take off and be there for you. I want her to know that's the type of man I am. I do really like her and she does too. I know she likes me more and is holding back because she doesn't want to get hurt. I told her to say what you have to say. I am not rushing things. When she's ready to say it, I will also.. But for now the word like you is good enough. I have to take care of my needs and wants also. So she does too. But her family needs her now...

October 15, 2017

Yeah that;s the go, look after yourself and give it some time.

She's got her kids and the family stuff going on let all that sort out ,thats a lot ,not a wonder she's saying a few silly things or getting pissed right now.

Her kids are coming to right ?

Anyway see how she goes ,lotta pressure on her right now.

Good luck

October 15, 2017

Yeah that;s the go, look after yourself and give it some time.
She's got her kids and the family stuff going on let all that sort out ,thats a lot ,not a wonder she's saying a few silly things or getting pissed right now.
Her kids are coming to right ?
Anyway see how she goes ,lotta pressure on her right now.
Good luck

Her daughter has a job and two kids from two different men. No they're not coming with to live with me.

October 15, 2017

I am afraid there will be no phone call today either.. I don't like it now she use to say Gn or say my name. I got a bad feeling about all of this. If I don't hear from her this week. I calling up the airlines and canceling that ticket get my money back and start calling up some friends get her car off my property. I need to move on then. But again I am jumping ahead thinking of the worst. I told her to stay where she is and take care of the family. She told me she didn't want that she has a life back in Florida and there wasn't anything where she was. There are no more women at my work that I would consider again going out with. I just hope this works out with Lisa. She had text me last week a message I might over looked.

October 15, 2017

Honestly, I would cancel the tickets today and get your money back ASAP.

There's no excuse for her to talk to you like that. How you proceed beyond this is obviously your choice but I wouldn't even be entertaining the idea of seeing her (much less forking over cash to do so..) after such treatment.

October 15, 2017

Seems to me she's after your money. I'm not clear on the details, but it sounds like a ticket was produced that was stolen - sold or just an excuse not to come? I hope you called that ticket into the airlines so no one can use it, if it was in fact stolen or sold. When you produce another, she suddenly can't go...blames family and how family is so important, and really places blame on you for planning something she was seemingly on board with...cusses and says cruel things. Now you're the inconsiderate bad guy when you follow through on a plan and a promise.

In the meantime, she's happy for you to deal with other financial issues, like her car. She gave you her info to log into her account - I'm guessing if you could get into it, you would have paid for her tags on the notion she would pay you back, and she would be living with you soon...she won't pay you back and she won't be moving. You are storing her car...free.

She's talking out of both sides of her mouth - family is important and you know why she's there - and she doesn't want to stay, she has a life in Florida.

She'll bounce around this until she's bled you dry or you walk away...whichever comes first.

She announces there are two other men who will be happy to take her in...so you're planning on living with a woman who hasn't committed to you? She is very likely bilking these other men out of money as well, with whatever other crises she has.

Walk away from this. Cut your losses and walk away. I don't know how to handle the car on your property. Local law enforcement can probably assist and point you in the right direction.

October 15, 2017

Honestly, I would cancel the tickets today and get your money back ASAP.

There's no excuse for her to talk to you like that. How you proceed beyond this is obviously your choice but I wouldn't even be entertaining the idea of seeing her (much less forking over cash to do so..) after such treatment.

Oh your correct and I told her so. I haven't done anything for those words to come out of her mouth dirty like that. But again when you love someone who's going to die, you might say the wrong things. This is a bad situation because her family vs me I really don't want to be in this way. But once and cancel the ticket that's it between her and me. Should I give her a chance to have a better life with me than what she's been use too. There is a lot more to her story. She told me about it on Thursday. Where I had shared some of my life and relationships too. Her mom did something her or lack of it. But I see where she's going.

There are some women that swear and some that don't. Lets see what happen this week and then I'll decide when the cancel the ticket. Her flight leaves in the of 3 weeks. Money aside is spend I not to concern about it. We get a long in person, in bed can sleep together without issues. Take her out without issues. So there is a chance. Once you go down the other path you can't change things. I going to not bother to contact her at all. That was one of the things she didn't like from prior men she knew. It's okay I have other friends to keep me company no I am not cheating anything like that. I need to have life and share it!

I already know she's not much a phone or text person. But the way she sees men and sex is another story. I like to wait and see what happens next but no one can talk me down and get away with it. She'll forget what she said that's how she lives. Strong family values there, but lack of communication with someone you trying to get into a relationship with is where she's weak at. I do care about her, that 's what keep me in the picture. Can't only me that feels this way. Sure there was times I told her I was pulling out, she had stopped me and told me no. Tension over family member dying is another story even if she's hot mess as cookie said then we all need to back off her.

Don't jump to any conclusions because of the family member who's dying. Like she had texted we are all here the family. She should have said I can't talk now you have good night. Instead she use the wrong words and did a personal attack. Not thinking clearly. We all do that right when we're really upset or can't handle a lost of love one so close. I am not making excuses it's Sunday day of church I am sure that's where she is now with her family. Just go to pray for her and the one who's dying.. I really felt bad about this. I text her a little message after what she said. I told her no need for personal attacks I am not your enemy. You and your family are always in my prayers. That's good night, no answer.. Message was confirmed.

October 15, 2017

Since it was Lisa's Birthday this week I going to make the ticket as a present from me to her. I not concern about the money I know she wanted to be with me but the family came first. I know her a little more than all you here but just wait and see...

October 15, 2017

Way I see it, it's not so much that she swears but that she was rude to you when you were just trying to check in. And now you are buying her a ticket?! Have you two corresponded since then? I don't know...I understand you care for her but I think you are wasting your time with this one.

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I really lost it today, got so upset with her!

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