Springsummer Posted October 21, 2017 Posted October 21, 2017 Many you are not interested could just keep msg you. A few out of lots do seems interesting and then you reply and then...they don't reply back. what the heck, so they msg first just like to test your interest? as soon as you show, then they are not interesting anymore? so they can perceptually stay in the site. mind-boggling ...what's wrong with these men? or it is the way it is? or just me?
Miss Spider Posted October 21, 2017 Posted October 21, 2017 It happens, but shouldn't be too often. Are you responding with a question back?
Author Springsummer Posted October 21, 2017 Author Posted October 21, 2017 It happens, but shouldn't be too often. Are you responding with a question back? um...I generally just like to talk about myself...guess I don't really care about them... 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted October 21, 2017 Posted October 21, 2017 um...I generally just like to talk about myself...guess I don't really care about them... Well, perhaps that's a problem. Most people like the other person to show some interest in them. Also, a lot of people on OLD message every single person on the site, so even if you message them back, it doesn't mean they will continue. They have a zillion other people to be messaging with....who are maybe asking them questions about themselves. Why do you only talk about yourself? Why are interested in dating if you don't "care about them?" 1
act00 Posted October 21, 2017 Posted October 21, 2017 (edited) Wellll....????...If you only like to talk about yourself and don't really care about him, what reaction and response do you expect? Are they supposed to fawn all over you anyway, despite the fact you clearly state you don't care about them and only want to talk about yourself? Good luck with that. These men are going to move on to women who are intrigued and interested in them. Some may want casual and some may want serious...it's a mutual endeavor of getting to know each other and if you are compatible, you click. If it's all about you, you, and YOU, they move on pretty fast. My interest level dies pretty fast when men show little interest in me and any ability to hold a two-sided conversation...no one is so great I can just bask in their greatness as they drone on and on...Jammies, NCIS, Gardenscapes, and a glass of wine, drift off to bed...way more exciting with less work and drudgery. If you don't really care about them, why bother being on a dating site? The whole point is to meet someone you can share your life with. You could just get a dog...dogs are devoted to you with no question...but they actually require a little bit of work and time, so a dog would be a bad idea too...you're screwed. Revamp your thinking. There are a TON of frogs out there, but you will have some good experiences and meet some good men, and eventually one will stick...and if you expect to have a long-term relationship, you have to be invested in his life, as he will be invested in yours. Edited October 21, 2017 by act00
basil67 Posted October 21, 2017 Posted October 21, 2017 um...I generally just like to talk about myself...guess I don't really care about them... Yup, that's your problem. Why would they bother with someone who doesn't care about them?
planb1973 Posted October 21, 2017 Posted October 21, 2017 OLD is a bit of a cat and mouse game, a fine balance between interest, flirting, attraction, and a bit of mystery. Why would someone want to show interest if you are not reciprocating it? And if you really don't care about them why does it bother you that they don't message you back? If someone I message does not reciprocate with questions about me I'm on to someone who will. You do actually have to work at the whole dating thing.
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