Luca Posted October 20, 2017 Posted October 20, 2017 (edited) I'll try to be as short as possible. I've (m, 27) been in a relationship with a girl (f, 24) for 5 years. In that time we broke up once (2.5 years ago), for 5 months. She came back to me and i took her back. Fast forward 1,5 year and she breaks up with me again. She wanted 'space' in july, so i gave her 3 weeks. Ever since that moment i started feeling really, really down and sad (about the relationship/breakup but also about life in general). We worked a lot things out but she broke up with me anyway 5 weeks ago. I know for a matter of fact that after a breakup everything will suck for a period of time and that time heals everything (experienced some breakups before). I've been using NC (just like last time), do not stalk her on facebook, removed all reminders from my apartment. Basically everthing you should or you would want to do. Now the real issue. I really loved and cared a lot about the girl so the breakup hits me hard. I've been feeling really down and sad over last 4 months, and overthinking everything a lot. This includes overthinking my current job i dont really like and my past decisions in life considering study and profession. I don't know what makes me happy anymore. I'm experiencing low energy, negative rumination, can't get out of bed in the morning (I end up an hour late at work usually) and cry because i feel like **** about once every day/1.5. I don't really enjoy things i used to enjoy anymore and when I'm working in the office and can't concentrate at all. Daily physical symptons are headaches, loss of concentration, low energy, chest tightness, and sore neck and back muscles. Not anywhere near how i felt after our first breakup, which left me in a mess but I still got out of bed and felt like my life had a point (having no suicidal thoughts at all). At this point I just want to lose the physical symptons. Are these symptons of a (light) depression and do you advice therapy? tl;dr: been really down and sad for 4 full months, after relationship issues and leading to a breakup. I'm having physical symptons because of overthinking/stressing about everything. Is this (light) depression and would you advise me to take some therapy? Edited October 20, 2017 by Luca forgot age
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