karen wright Posted October 18, 2017 Posted October 18, 2017 there's this boy with whom i am sharing a class , we have a lot of friends in commun and we speak with each other daily. lately, i've been feeling that he has a crush on me , once , he even tried to ask me out but i thought he was joking because he did it in front of our friends . now, he keeps flirting with me without really asking me out ; what should i do to get him to ask me out without being obvious about it ?
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 18, 2017 Posted October 18, 2017 So...you want to play games? Why not just ask him to grab a coffee after class one day? Something casual and easy. If it goes well then he may feel more comfortable asking out for something more official where he can wine and dine you. You've opened the door for him this way. If there is any advice I was to impart it's to not be afraid to go after what you want. Men do enjoy a woman who isn't afraid to take some initiative. Good luck. 1
Author karen wright Posted October 18, 2017 Author Posted October 18, 2017 we've already been out for coffee several times with and without other friends :/
smackie9 Posted October 18, 2017 Posted October 18, 2017 He is flirting with you, but you are not really flirting back enough to give him incentive to taking it to the next level. 1
pest947 Posted October 18, 2017 Posted October 18, 2017 He is probably afraid to ask because in his mind you turned him down when he asked you the last time in front of friends(Even though you may have thought it was a joke). Ask him out yourself straight out or if you don't want to do that, find a way to casually work that moment he asked you out into your next conversation with him and see what happens.
coolheadal Posted October 18, 2017 Posted October 18, 2017 there's this boy with whom i am sharing a class , we have a lot of friends in commun and we speak with each other daily. lately, i've been feeling that he has a crush on me , once , he even tried to ask me out but i thought he was joking because he did it in front of our friends . now, he keeps flirting with me without really asking me out ; what should i do to get him to ask me out without being obvious about it ? You have to do this, because you made it obvious you weren't interested as you thought he was joking. So now he won't do that ever again. So you have to ask him out this time and mean it. Give me a kiss on the lips. On yes I have to say too you also stop playing these silly games if you want him then you tell him so!
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 18, 2017 Posted October 18, 2017 we've already been out for coffee several times with and without other friends :/ Then ask him out on a proper date! I have to agree that he's probably a bit gun shy since you turned him down once already. Either flirt to the point that there is no question in anyone's mind you want him or just ask the guy out.
d0nnivain Posted October 18, 2017 Posted October 18, 2017 He may not realize you want him to ask. If you don't have the courage to ask him out you need to be crystal clear that you'd be open to him asking you. Several years ago I was at a networking / singles function. I met a man who was actually in the market for my professional services. We talked about his business problem. When I handed him my business card I told him I'd be happy to help him but I'd be happier if he called me for personal reasons I winked & walked away. He called & asked me out the next day. On our 2nd date the guy confessed that if I hadn't said that he never would have asked me out I was dumbfounded because I thought I had been flirting my brains out. Sometime you just have to be obvious! 1
SmartDude Posted October 18, 2017 Posted October 18, 2017 You shot him down and now he is trying to play it off like its no big deal. You have to do something now or he might forget about you and find another woman. 1
guest569 Posted October 19, 2017 Posted October 19, 2017 Wait, he asked you out and you said no? And now you want him to ask again and risk being rejected again! Ask him out!! 1
hercules22 Posted October 19, 2017 Posted October 19, 2017 yeah noone likes being turned down twice it all up to you now
Author karen wright Posted October 19, 2017 Author Posted October 19, 2017 thank you all for your advices , i think i just have to ask him out then 3
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