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Should balding men wear a hat on first date?


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I would say don't try to deceive people in OLD, whatever the concern is. Some women might not care that you're balding, some might. There's no sense wasting the time of those that might (and your's too). No matter who you are, people aren't going to forget that you deceived them and be overcome by your charm in person that they suddenly forget all about it. They're going to resent you for wasting their time and tell all their friends and future dates about the guy who reluctantly removed his fedora after 20 minutes. I know because I have this conversation with a lot of girls I've been out with. The most common theme being "He was shorter/fatter/balder than advertised, I don't like being lied to/I'm not attracted to those types of people, and I couldn't get out of there fast enough."

 

That being said, if you're wearing a hat in all your pictures, they're probably onto the fact that you might be bald anyways, the same way if a girl doesn't have any full body shots, men might assume she's hiding some weight.

 

If I were you, I'd just own it and focus on the group of women who don't care. Know your audience.

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own the baldness.

keep it short.

no comb-overs.

 

even my hat wearing all the time friends leave the hat home for dates.

unless it's winter.

I wear knit hat or skull cap to keep my noggin warm then take it off inside.

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^^^ ha, yep be yourself.

 

Me? I would pick balding over long hair. I am just not into long hair - and balding, I guess I have matured, it's not something I mind at all on a mature man.

 

Agreed and kind-of-but-not-totally on a tangent, chimpanzees view balding as a sign of sexual maturity and status (better providers)and the alpha is usually balding or high forehead/receded hairline. Maybe not the best equivocation because chimp males also prefer older chimp females, but they are own closest ancestors.

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Agreed and kind-of-but-not-totally on a tangent, chimpanzees view balding as a sign of sexual maturity and status (better providers)and the alpha is usually balding or high forehead/receded hairline. Maybe not the best equivocation because chimp males also prefer older chimp females, but they are own closest ancestors.

 

Yep, I see it as almost a sign of masculinity. After all it's caused by a mix of genes and male hormones. If those male hormones were raging - he wouldn't be suffering from baldness.

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oops. I meant *equivalent. But yes, RC, exactly!

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If you normally wear a hat and it's a casual date, then I don't see why not. But I think it's good she knows you're bald. Perhaps the same should be said for push-up bras... j/k ;)

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I'm sorry...DO NOT WEAR A HAT ON A DATE! Unless you're at a baseball game there is absolutely no excuse.

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I think wearing a hat is okay if you're meeting for a casual meal or outing. Depends on the context of a date.

 

I'm also in my 20s, and I do think age plays a part in how acceptable it is. I did it a few times when I met women for the first time from OLD and things went normally.

 

I did laugh about the push-up bra comment though, that's a pretty good comparison for the female side of this topic.

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OP,

No, no and no some more ! Who care if you're bald? Look at Telly Savalas and Yul Brynner - yeah. Only wear a hat if it's cold and then take it off when you get inside. Good luck !

 

 

Sheesh, girl...you are really dating yourself with those two....:p

 

(but so am I ....:))

 

TFY

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Sheesh, girl...you are really dating yourself with those two....:p

 

(but so am I ....:))

 

TFY

 

LOl I thought the same thing. Go for the Rock or Jason Statham (sp) look.

 

Telly Savalas ... wasn't he the Diner's Club spokesman? I'm finding less and less restaurants accept my Diner's Club card nowadays?

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Sheesh, girl...you are really dating yourself with those two....:p

 

(but so am I ....:))

 

TFY

 

Yeah, you're not kidding. They're old enough to be my parents' parents, and I'm no spring chicken!

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I'm sorry...DO NOT WEAR A HAT ON A DATE! Unless you're at a baseball game there is absolutely no excuse.

 

Pretty much this. The last time I wore a hat on a date was in high school, when wearing a hat was "cool" and considered a part of your attire.

 

I have started to go prematurely bald and do you know what my solution has been? I buzz my hair down to Marine corps length and rock that look with confidence. I like the way it looks and I get regular compliments for it. Bald or near bald can actually make you look even more attractive if you do it right.

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Just let is shine, can't say let it flow in the wind.. Too much over this subject. If your bald your bald.. I am not at all.. I have lot of hair but I keep it very groom look like I fit in with all the clean cuts out there.. With the fade-in look Bald some women like that clean shaved bald look others don't But don't wear a cap or hat.

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it is rude to wear a hat indoors, but if it is an outdoors date that's fine (although I think it is good manner to remove hat and sunglasses when you are doing introductions).

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