johnflyr Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 I just started to date a nice girl after my ex- dumped me. I still have lots of anger towards my ex inside me, which has not been ventilated completely. The new girl who I am dating now likes to drink and party. She likes lots of attention and constantly aks me if I think she is pretty. She touches me a lot and shares her sexual experience with me. It is kind of odd since I have only met mer for three weeks. My question is what kind of hints do girls give to a guy when they are ready to have sex? I don't want to push to have sex too soon and make her think that it is all I want in this relationship.
LittleMiss Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 If she's all over you and talking about sex with you I think she might be ready. All girls are different. You think it's too soon, but she may be thinking what's taking him so long to make a move?
JS17 Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 If you've been dating this girl for a few weeks it's ok to ask her what her views are on sex. You can ask her how long she normally waits. You can tell her that you really like her and you're ready whenever she is but you're willing to wait until she is ready....assuming that's all true.
Cecelius Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 If she is talking that way, then she want you to put a move on her. If you don't, she will wonder what's up with you. I wouldn;t bother talking to her about it -- just go ahead and do it.
flowergirl Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Hey, I hate to be the party pooper here, but you said this girl likes to drink and party, and keeps strongly hinting about sex, yet you also say she's "nice". Take it from a former kinda-bad girl, those two don't go together, and they don't sound good. In addition, you said you just got out of a relationship from which you haven't quite recovered. I think maybe you should slow down on the dating for a bit, give yourself a little time to recover. Good luck.
country gal Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Originally posted by flowergirl Hey, I hate to be the party pooper here, but you said this girl likes to drink and party, and keeps strongly hinting about sex, yet you also say she's "nice". Take it from a former kinda-bad girl, those two don't go together, and they don't sound good. In addition, you said you just got out of a relationship from which you haven't quite recovered. I think maybe you should slow down on the dating for a bit, give yourself a little time to recover. Good luck. i agree with flowergirl on this one .... she also sounds a little insecure from what you said and sex could be her way of "checking" to see if you really like her. i had a friend that acted very much like how you described. i would say, just take it slow.
Author johnflyr Posted August 17, 2005 Author Posted August 17, 2005 "i agree with flowergirl on this one .... she also sounds a little insecure from what you said and sex could be her way of "checking" to see if you really like her. " Flower girl is right. Today I tried to give her a French kiss and put my hand on her butt, she pushed me away and told me that she is not a slut. I apologized to her. She told me that I will need to wait for at least another month or so before she will give it up. She claimed that I have not treated her "well enough." Of course, she is the one who does the judgement. I guess she is a bad news. She gives me mix-signals all the time. Maybe she just wants me to continue giving her attention. It could be an endless time and emtional investment.
OverProtective Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 I Always go with the flow! For the first time with every girl i always make it a habit to take her for dinner and a event. whether that be a movie, Golfing whatever. Don't just invite her over and pound her brains out. Make her feel special and let it all come together. Oh and always use protection!
JS17 Posted August 17, 2005 Posted August 17, 2005 Originally posted by OverProtective I Always go with the flow! For the first time with every girl i always make it a habit to take her for dinner and a event. whether that be a movie, Golfing whatever. Don't just invite her over and pound her brains out. Make her feel special and let it all come together. Oh and always use protection! wow, nobody has ever done that for me before, that's really nice. do that!
Author johnflyr Posted August 17, 2005 Author Posted August 17, 2005 I have been trying my best to make her feel special. I wake her up in the morning and say how beautiful she is on a daily basis. I also buy her lunch and dinner everyday. I even cook several meals for her already. Further, I called 1800 Flower to deliever flowers to her when she was in class because she likes attention. She was very surprised. I looked at her class notes and found out her professor's name, then I searched the class directory to find out the location and room number of her class. It cost me $60. After all this, she still insists that she will give it to me until I meet her expectation. It's fine with me, I am a patient guy. But if she does not like me at all, she should say it.
kitkat826 Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 Originally posted by johnflyr Today I tried to give her a French kiss and put my hand on her butt, she pushed me away and told me that she is not a slut. I apologized to her. She told me that I will need to wait for at least another month or so before she will give it up. She claimed that I have not treated her "well enough." Of course, she is the one who does the judgement. I guess she is a bad news. She gives me mix-signals all the time. Maybe she just wants me to continue giving her attention. It could be an endless time and emtional investment. Originally posted by johnflyr I have been trying my best to make her feel special. I wake her up in the morning and say how beautiful she is on a daily basis. I also buy her lunch and dinner everyday. I even cook several meals for her already. Further, I called 1800 Flower to deliever flowers to her when she was in class because she likes attention. Oh my god, forget about her now. If you two have really been dating then you making an attempt to french kiss her should not be a problem. It sounds like she's playing with you, especially for everything you do/buy for her. I admit I've gone on a date or two when the chemistry wasn't excellent just for something to do and for the free night out, but this chick has definitely taken it to far. Please, RUN, do not walk away from her. I feel like slapping her and I don't even know her.
Author johnflyr Posted August 18, 2005 Author Posted August 18, 2005 It sounds like she's playing with you, especially for everything you do/buy for her. It definitely makes me more angry than ever after hearing everyone's opinion. I am hurt again now. Twice in the roll this month. When am I such a loser by meeting all these wrong girls?? I hate my life now!!! Why guys always remeber the happy times and ignore all the negativities before having sex with a girl? it's so hard to get over it now and i don't even know where to start. I feel like confronting her about our pitiful relatinship, but I don't think it helps.
JS17 Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 yeah johnflyr...she sucked, your relationship sucked BUT at least you found out now and you only wasted a month on her. AND you never said i love you to each other. SO it could have been worse. just take some time to get over it. these are the kinds of relationships that help you learn and grow. i know you'll get over this one fast.
Author johnflyr Posted August 19, 2005 Author Posted August 19, 2005 I did say I like her, and she told me that she had "some feelings" for me, but not a lot. I guees she is a big liar!!!!!!!!!! She is probably just bored and found some guy like me who just recovered from break up. i just can't believe that this is happening to me again.
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