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... ok, i understand if you already know a guy from school/work, or he is already a friend, and he is asking you to hang out with you to spend some one-on-one time together.

 

but what if you guys have met on a dating site, have already spent weeks talking, and hugged or kissed? what if you've already "hung out" more than once already?

 

because i hate this phrase. when a man is genuinely attracted to a woman and pursuing a relationship, will he simply ask her to hang out without mention of any plans, outings, dinner...?

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because i hate this phrase. when a man is genuinely attracted to a woman and pursuing a relationship, will he simply ask her to hang out without mention of any plans, outings, dinner...?

 

Pretty sure you know the answer.

 

Some of the best advice I've ever heard on dating as a woman is, "do not give men too much of your time." This is in reference to these nebulous hangouts and marathon chats that go nowhere. "Yes" to actual dates of course!

 

Hang out if you want to hang out, but not if you're hoping for more. I've found (and this is by no means universal, merely anecdotal) that women who are content with hanging out for an extended period of time make men uneasy. These guys want to be desired for a relationship even if they themselves have no interest in such. :laugh:

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Some people use the phrase in place of the superior would you like to go on a date which feels pressure filled. "Hang out" is more casual, hence less intimidating.

 

The younger the man, the more likely you are to encounter this phrase.

 

 

You can ask for clarification: Thanks for asking me to "hang out" but I need to know what you mean by that. Are we going on a date or is meeting me something casual & platonic?

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