When A Woman Invites Me Into Her House At End of Date

[joseb]

You can't think rationally after sex? That seems the opposite to me and most other men. We only think rationally after sex.

 

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Haha that's the way it is for me to.

 

It's too hard to be objective until that Rubicon has been crossed.

[LivingWaterPlease]

When I invite a man whom I'm not in a bf/gf R with in after a date it's not for kissing or sex, it's to visit (talk) with him in a very comfortable setting. I don't much like ending a date at my front door or in his car. I enjoy visiting with all of my friends in my comfortable living room.

 

This has never affected whether or not the guy asks me out again. I find there are a lot of guys who enjoy getting to know a lady when there's no expectation of sex.

 

I must be in the minority of women from what I'm reading here.

[Soccer1986]

Wow that's some messed up thinking.

 

This, coupled with your "lack of control" statements suggests you might need someone to talk to about these issues.

 

I'm not going to waste money on therapy just for this. Being tempted to give in to a pleasurable activity like sex or eating sweets when another human being encourages it is not that uncommon and it is normal. You aren't going to convince me that you don't have weak spots and vulnerabilities as a human being. As long as I have self control where nobody is encouraging me to give into pleasure then I have no reason to go seek professional help. Why? Because I'm not a danger to society. Your post made it sound like I'm in imminent danger of harming somebody.

[CptInsano]

There are definitely false rape charges in this world, but when a woman is actively inviting you over with the intention of having sex, I would consider that a very unlikely scenario. The worst that happened to me in that case was that I was sleep-deprived,, had a headache, sore lips and a feeling of numbness in my groin.

 

If she is inviting you over for other reasons then just have dinner or do something else. Yes, women have tricked me in that regard before, and surely had ulterior motives, but they were related to math tutoring, vehicle maintenance, or finding somebody willing to listen to their relationship problems.