miriam Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 My ex and I dated for a year. We rarely fought and tried our best to communicate effectively. Well he broke up with me 7 weeks ago bc he was confused and freaked out bc he was not sure if I was the one. I never pressured him in any way about marriage. He had a talk with his dad and then got really freaked out. After we broke up I did NC for the first 3 weeks. I broke it bc we were both going to the wedding of a good friend of ours and I did not want it to be weird when we ran into eachother. Well things went pretty well for most of the reception. During the whole reception my ex kept coming up to me to talk ( I made sure to never initiate contact). He tried to get me to dance with him, tried to hold my hand, kissed me on the forehead. etc. etc. I tried to be very strong bc after all he DID break up with me. So i went about my way and at the very end of the night he came up to me and said that he was leaving. It was strange bc he started acting distant and kind of cold. It really confused me compared to his behavior for most of the night. I asked him if it was over for good and he said yes very coldly. I was shocked at his response and changed demeanor. I walked off to talk to some friends and basically cry. I thought he left the reception but as I looked up I was embarrassed to see that he saw me crying. Anyway I spent the rest of the night in tears............. I was in shock bc my ex just is not that type of guy to be mean like that.... When I arrived at work on Monday he imed me apologizing for acting like a jerk. He said that he saw me talking to a guy twords the end of the reception and got really jealous ( I was talking to a guy I knew from college that he did not know.... I did not think ANYTHING of it) and he said that when I asked him if it was over for good he thought I was asking bc I wanted to go hook up with that guy. He also said that he wanted to come up to me when when when I was crying, but that his brother and his friend pulled him away bc they were ready to leave. Needless to say his explanation spun me into even more confusion. So we continued to chat on im while we were both at work during the week. He has told me that he still loves me and that he is still crazy about me, but the timing in his life is not good. OK fast forward to this past weekend. My best friend had a birthday party for her son. The party was 3 hours away near the town my ex lives in. My ex knew that I was going and suggested we meet up for lunch or dinner. The whole week I told him that I did not want him changing his mind on me and that we didn't have to meet up. He insisted he wanted to see me and kept asking me what times would be good for me. We decided to meet up after the party and he told me to call him when it was over. I called him after the party and he did not answer. I called 2 more times and even sent a text message. nothing.......no response...again shock and anger! He called me Sunday morning and left a message saying "I know its your worst night mare to not be able to get in touch with me, but I have been very sick and asleep for the past 2 days" I did not call him back. He called me 3 more time through out the day and sent a text saying that he was sooooo sorry and that it was inconsiderate not to call. And yesterday he imed me apologizing again saying how sorry he was.. I told him that unless he was dead or int he hospital I don't see how hard it was to pick up the phone. That was the ONLY think I said to him. I am SOO conflicted. He is not a liar so I know he was sick and he sounded like he was on the phone, but I am So mad bc its like bad timing on his illness. He should have known better and called me right? This past incident has pushed me into NC mode. Am I doing the right thing by ignoring him? I don't doubt he was sick, but was if he was so terribly ill that he really couldn't call? Anway do you guys have any feed back? I hate to just cut him off like that if there was just cause for him not calling.
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