sina28 Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 I have recently reconnected with a guy I used to date casually for a while before moving away (now I moved back to the city). We met a couple of times the last 2 months but not one on one. He invited me to come see his new apartment but I ended up canceling because I had to leave abroad unplanned for work. He then invited me to come to his housewarming party but again I had to cancel last minute because I got sick with the flu. Now I wonder if I should just ask him if I could come over next week or so? Or is it weird to invite myself? I realize this might be a weird/obvious question to ask but I'm just very confused when it comes to this guy. He never really shows emotion and I'm not sure where we stand: whether he just wants to be friends or whether he wants to start something more romantic again... I just can not read him and am super unsure how to act. Overall I really like him and I'm not sure I should even meet up with him again as I am now actually looking for something more serious. But then again I don't have many friends in this city so I could really use a friend too.
smackie9 Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 Call him up and meet up for coffee to chat...go from there. Get reacquainted without expectation. 1
Steve51 Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 I once had an ex-girlfriend who wanted to be FWB except that she wanted me to get her pregnant due to my good genes. She wanted to get pregnant and then over back home to Kansas to live with her mother without me having any contact with her or the baby. I politely told her that she was crazy and not to call me anymore. This was a girlfriend who walked into our living room where I was watching a football game with some employees and friends and asked them to gang bang her. The fallout at work was immediate and I left her the next week. I also moved out of State. 1
TheBathWater Posted October 16, 2017 Posted October 16, 2017 (edited) Stop thinking so much about "the relationship" and "where things are going." There is a man you are interested in, and he is actively taking the lead to put you in front of him. Take him up on it, and see how he leads the time together. If you don't want to hook up, don't. If he tries to hookup with you, it would be okay to tell him at that point you're only looking for something more serious right now and are not into casual sex (if that's where you're at in life right now), but do not try to overtly or subtly maneuver him into a commitment, ask him about "his feelings" for you, etc... No relationship talk. Use the time to see how it feels to connect and go as far as you're comfortable going sexually, but no relationship talk, and no hooking up in hopes of getting him into a relationship if that becomes a strategy in the heat of the moment. Edited October 16, 2017 by TunaInTheBrine 1
coolheadal Posted October 16, 2017 Posted October 16, 2017 I have recently reconnected with a guy I used to date casually for a while before moving away (now I moved back to the city). We met a couple of times the last 2 months but not one on one. He invited me to come see his new apartment but I ended up canceling because I had to leave abroad unplanned for work. He then invited me to come to his housewarming party but again I had to cancel last minute because I got sick with the flu. Now I wonder if I should just ask him if I could come over next week or so? Or is it weird to invite myself? I realize this might be a weird/obvious question to ask but I'm just very confused when it comes to this guy. He never really shows emotion and I'm not sure where we stand: whether he just wants to be friends or whether he wants to start something more romantic again... I just can not read him and am super unsure how to act. Overall I really like him and I'm not sure I should even meet up with him again as I am now actually looking for something more serious. But then again I don't have many friends in this city so I could really use a friend too. Not everyone can show emotion, if you have issue with that you shouldn't be with a guy like that. I have it with a woman she was ADHD and it was very tough to deal with no expression on the face just distant. Space out look One of my psychology friends told me she could on control substance abuse. Meaning she was on street drugs. Anyway you get what you get or you take what you don't want. Without emotion you end up with someone look space out or zombie! 1
Highndry Posted October 16, 2017 Posted October 16, 2017 I once had an ex-girlfriend who wanted to be FWB except that she wanted me to get her pregnant due to my good genes. She wanted to get pregnant and then over back home to Kansas to live with her mother without me having any contact with her or the baby. I politely told her that she was crazy and not to call me anymore. This was a girlfriend who walked into our living room where I was watching a football game with some employees and friends and asked them to gang bang her. The fallout at work was immediate and I left her the next week. I also moved out of State. Wow. I've never heard of something so awful. Surely there had to be warning signs? I remember getting to know a gal years back, and in the initial stages when we were talking about sex she told me one of her desires was to have a threesome with two men at the same time, going into detail what she wanted them to do to her. I was turned off immediately and hit eject. I like monogamy. 1
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