EM2324 Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 Backstory...so me and my friend, lets call her B, went to a store in April. She said her friend works here, lets say his name is A so we went to see him. This was my first time meeting him. Afterwards, I told B I thought he was cute. She contacted him. Turns out he thought I was cute too but he is taken. Speed up to August. I ask for an update from B since I am seeing her. She says he's now single but warns me he's extremely busy. She hasn't seen him since April. She tells him I think he is cute on FBchat which he replies "oh wow XD" then she says it may actually work out...he says "oh shush". That night, he adds me on Facebook and initiates conversation with me. We have been talking 1-2x a week on FBchat since then with me starting the convo every time(except the first one). Eventually, I ask what he thinks of me to which he replies he thinks I'm pretty cool so far and cute but haven't hung out yet. I kept mentioning hanging out. Finally he puts a breakfast date for the end of Sept, the first date. On the date, the chemistry was definitely there. Called me before the date a hour before saying "hey cute stuff". He held my hand, lifted me up, played footsie, made each other laugh, always pulled me close. He gave me a long hug at the end. I said "I had so much fun and hope to see you again" he said "me too". He kissed my forehead. He said "I would've kissed you but I'm sick"(he was really sick). I don't hear from him so I message him 5 days later saying I had a good time and if he would like to see me again. He says "sorry I've been studying hard for an exam" so I said I'll message him the following week then. He said "that might be better. Thanks. This week is gonna be action packed". I message him Monday the next week, he is busy literally every day sending me his full schedule. He says "I'll see what I can do when I get my schedule for next week". I ask my friend B if he never initiates convo with her, she says he never does but he's not shy and "you know how his schedule is". So it isn't just me. I know he worked this past Fri and Sat, didn't hear anything about schedule. I message him last night asking how his week was. For the first time ever, he gives me a one word response "busy" and signs off. I don't know what to say so I just leave it alone. Maybe he's tired from work? It's weird he shows complete interest when I saw him that one date a few weeks ago. He gives sentences, 3-4 messages at a time even though I start the convo except for yesterday with that one word. Sometimes, I feel like I'm annoying him. He does have a crazy schedule of work from morning to night plus full time school on top of it. He says how he wants his As. I've never had a relationship so I don't have much experience dealing with this. Any advice? Thoughts on this whole situation? What should I do? I was thinking of giving him one more chance this week and that's it.
Cobra_X Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 I don't hear from him so I message him 5 days later saying I had a good time and if he would like to see me again. He says "sorry I've been studying hard for an exam" so I said I'll message him the following week then. He isn't that interested. He might be down for some sex, but he does not see you as worthy of his time. Being "busy" is just and excuse. He was not busy every single moment of those 5 days.... I promise he could have texted you if he wanted. Stop chasing him and then see what he does. This is my advice.
kassy Posted October 16, 2017 Posted October 16, 2017 Even if he's crazy about you (which it doesn't sound like). Why would you want to date someone who can't make time for you at all. I've dated insanely busy men and you know what they can grab a quick dinner with you and go back to work 45 minutes later etc etc if they really want to. I would just move on. This guy is not relationship potential right now, at least not for you
Highndry Posted October 16, 2017 Posted October 16, 2017 You already put the ball in his court. Back off completely. He'll touch base with you if he's interested.
coolheadal Posted October 16, 2017 Posted October 16, 2017 Busy means he's not interested in you.... You had one off with him that's it! Move on and stop texting him.. Need to find a man who's really has the time and interest in you. He's telling you he's not interested in you and your not getting the picture. Of course he's not saying it directly that's the game he plays at you.
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