mortensorchid Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 I was chatting with this guy on Facebook for the last few weeks. We'd met once or twice before at parties here and there, he and his wife have broken up. As in they got divorced officially just a few weeks ago and he made the announcement publicly on a Facebook post. I responded to the post that his divorce was final that he has a lot ahead of him, he can rebuild/do better. He responded to it by starting an IM conversation with me, which I was alright with. He asked to see me once or twice, it was usually a late night chat and I was not going to go out because I was very settled where I was. Plus with multi district substitute teaching I am approaching burnout almost everyday. He said he has his kids for the next 2 weeks but he wants to take me out. I decided to ask a few rude questions because I wanted to know, he said I may ask. I asked if he was still married to his wife, he said no they had signed the papers 2 weeks ago and it was done with (I got the impression they were not living in the same house anymore but was not sure if they were just living apart or still married). I said okay, yes I would see him in another 2 weeks. Problem? He posted on Facebook tonight that he was out on his first real date with a woman in 20 years tonight. And that woman is not me. Not jealous by any means but ... A bit disconcerting. Advice? Thoughts? Observations? Etc.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 He has no obligation to you, nor should he be entering into an exclusive dating relationship so soon anyway. He should be playing the field so soon after divorce. 2
Gaeta Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 The man is only 2 weeks divorced. He's free, he's not gonna settle with the first woman he meets. He will want to enjoy his freedom and have lots of sex with different women. If you are looking for a relationship you are putting your money on the wrong horse. 5
Slowlydrifting Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 He’s not ready for what you might be. By a long shot.
Erik30 Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 This is why you shouldn't be friends on Facebook with people you're dating, you might see something you won't like. He didn't do anything wrong, but he is kind of an idiot posting something like that knowing you might see it 3
Highndry Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 The man is only 2 weeks divorced. He's free, he's not gonna settle with the first woman he meets. He will want to enjoy his freedom and have lots of sex with different women. If you are looking for a relationship you are putting your money on the wrong horse. I mostly agree, however, I have some friends who are so codependent that they literally cannot be alone, and after a divorce latched onto the first woman they could, remarrying in short order.
coolheadal Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 I was chatting with this guy on Facebook for the last few weeks. We'd met once or twice before at parties here and there, he and his wife have broken up. As in they got divorced officially just a few weeks ago and he made the announcement publicly on a Facebook post. I responded to the post that his divorce was final that he has a lot ahead of him, he can rebuild/do better. He responded to it by starting an IM conversation with me, which I was alright with. He asked to see me once or twice, it was usually a late night chat and I was not going to go out because I was very settled where I was. Plus with multi district substitute teaching I am approaching burnout almost everyday. He said he has his kids for the next 2 weeks but he wants to take me out. I decided to ask a few rude questions because I wanted to know, he said I may ask. I asked if he was still married to his wife, he said no they had signed the papers 2 weeks ago and it was done with (I got the impression they were not living in the same house anymore but was not sure if they were just living apart or still married). I said okay, yes I would see him in another 2 weeks. Problem? He posted on Facebook tonight that he was out on his first real date with a woman in 20 years tonight. And that woman is not me. Not jealous by any means but ... A bit disconcerting. Advice? Thoughts? Observations? Etc. Do not go out with MR Divorce announcer on facebook. Come really who does he think he is. Your life with him would be open facebook posting. Well you see he's dating someone else other than you. Why do you even bother to date this guy. Like me I am free again not seeing anyone and I don't post my personal business or love life on facebook no way. I had did that 2 years ago and learn my lesson. This guy has baggage kids and ex wife going to be in the picture because they have kids no matter what was signed those are her kids. They'll check you out to see if you have any criminal background, credit history an etc. The divorce wife might do that to you? Just don't know today. I would avoid this guy. That's my thoughts on this because I don't want to see you keep on getting hurt with they so call guys I care. Please be careful.
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