ExposedBrick Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 (edited) I recently exchanged a few messages with a woman on an OLD. On Thursday, after exchanging 3 messages, I asked if she wanted to meet up in a few days(Tuesday) for a drink or coffee and gave her my phone number. She then texted me saying that sounded good(Friday). I then replied with a specific time and location. Nearly a full day later(Saturday), she apologizes for not confirming stating that she unexpectededly might have to travel for work this week. She said she would understand if I preferred to reschedule to the folowing weekend or cancel. I replied stating why don't we just meet the following weekend, and suggested Sunday afternoon. Again, no reply after sending the message in the morning Saturday, it's now Saturday evening. I kind of just want to call this chick out on being flaky. I'm just kind of annoyed at this point. For whatever reason, a switch seemed to flip and she seems no longer interested. How should I proceed to confirm this is bull**** or just move on to the next one? She seemed like a good prospect initially but OLD is weird that way. Edited October 15, 2017 by ExposedBrick
basil67 Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 Unless you have an innate need to stir up drama, I'd suggest you just block and move on.
Highndry Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 I would not contact her again. If she comes back with a day that works for her, then that's fine. When I am first dating, I like to ask them to tell me a day that works, then I plan something. If they flake, I usually don't even give them a second chance. I hate flakes.
Author ExposedBrick Posted October 15, 2017 Author Posted October 15, 2017 I would not contact her again. If she comes back with a day that works for her, then that's fine. When I am first dating, I like to ask them to tell me a day that works, then I plan something. If they flake, I usually don't even give them a second chance. I hate flakes. Yeah, I realize it's probably a waste of time to call someone out, but it would be nice just to confirm for myself hahaha
Mike B. Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 It always come back on you and it won't change her behavior. She won't lose sleep over a stranger calling her a flake. Just recognize this as a feature of dating and move on. 1
Author ExposedBrick Posted October 15, 2017 Author Posted October 15, 2017 It always come back on you and it won't change her behavior. She won't lose sleep over a stranger calling her a flake. Just recognize this as a feature of dating and move on. True. At least it wasn't a stand up or last minute cancel.
Mike B. Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 True. At least it wasn't a stand up or last minute cancel. Right. Now that's the right attitude. Uncle Mike has already done a lot of these things for you back in the day so that you won't have to do them now.
Miss Spider Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 I recently exchanged a few messages with a woman on an OLD. On Thursday, after exchanging 3 messages, I asked if she wanted to meet up in a few days(Tuesday) for a drink or coffee and gave her my phone number. She then texted me saying that sounded good(Friday). I then replied with a specific time and location. Nearly a full day later(Saturday), she apologizes for not confirming stating that she unexpectededly might have to travel for work this week. She said she would understand if I preferred to reschedule to the folowing weekend or cancel. I replied stating why don't we just meet the following weekend, and suggested Sunday afternoon. Again, no reply after sending the message in the morning Saturday, it's now Saturday evening. I kind of just want to call this chick out on being flaky. I'm just kind of annoyed at this point. For whatever reason, a switch seemed to flip and she seems no longer interested. How should I proceed to confirm this is bull**** or just move on to the next one? She seemed like a good prospect initially but OLD is weird that way. Shouldn't have to call anyone you've never met out on anything. Take a hint, delete her, and move on. You're not her father and honestly if I got a message from a man I was not interested in enough to commit to a date with "Calling me out" for it,I'd roll my eyes and block him. 3
Author ExposedBrick Posted October 15, 2017 Author Posted October 15, 2017 Shouldn't have to call anyone you've never met out on anything. Take a hint, delete her, and move on. You're not her father and honestly if I got a message from a man I was not interested in enough to commit to a date with "Calling me out" for it,I'd roll my eyes and block him. It's just a head scratcher. She was the one who initiated the interaction, lol! 1
Miss Spider Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 Online dating will sometimes seriously make you scratch a hole in your head if you let it. I say pay her no more mind 3
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 Don't be a jerk. You have no idea what is going on in her life. Leave the rest of the contacting up to her. If she doesn't, just move on. 1
Mike B. Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 It's just a head scratcher. She was the one who initiated the interaction, lol! You will be a lot better off when it comes OLD if you do not factor who initiated the interaction into any equation. Just burn it into your mind that the initiator of the interaction means nothing there. All that is important is that you are interacting now.
Gaeta Posted October 15, 2017 Posted October 15, 2017 Let it go. Lets say she got an emergency you'd look like a maniac and 100% would burn your bridges.
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