real35 Posted October 14, 2017 Posted October 14, 2017 Hey guys! New here! There is this girl I see at the subway station in the morning on my way to work. We take the same bus. She usually stands next to me as we're waiting for the bus. She is gorgeous to put it bluntly and I am 99% sure she finds me attractive. I know she checks me out (hope I don't sound conceited) I really want to talk to her but I don't know if it's worth the risk. What if I get rejected or she has a boyfriend or something. Then what happens? Then is becomes weird between us in the morning standing there waiting for our bus. Is it worth the risk? Should I say something?
d0nnivain Posted October 14, 2017 Posted October 14, 2017 Start small . . . say good morning. Nothing else. Just good morning. If she is responsive to that or talks to you, keep talking. If she's just responsive, in 3-4 weeks make a comment about the weather. Yes, it's a cliché but it's a cliché for a reason. Build from there. 2
smackie9 Posted October 14, 2017 Posted October 14, 2017 That lack of confidence will get you nowhere fast. Who cares if you get rejected, it's just part of life so suck it up prince charming. 2
Highndry Posted October 14, 2017 Posted October 14, 2017 Instead of putting that enormous pressure on yourself to ask her out while worrying about ramifications, I agree that you just need to start chatting her up. It could be as simple as showing up a bit later and saying "wow, thought I might miss this one this morning!" with a smile. I met a beautiful gal in such a way on an airplane one time. I made small talk in line at the gate where she was standing behind me, then she followed me into the plane and sat next to me. It was a fun flight, and she gave me her number after landing. Just get to know her, and things will evolve from there. 2
KBob Posted October 14, 2017 Posted October 14, 2017 If she rejects you then nothing really changes, you won't tall at the bus stop, just like how it is now. Go for it! What do you have to lose? 1
Author real35 Posted October 14, 2017 Author Posted October 14, 2017 Thanks! Very good advice from everyone. 1
Gaeta Posted October 14, 2017 Posted October 14, 2017 Definitely start a conversation even if it's just about the weather. Let us know how that goes! 1
act00 Posted October 14, 2017 Posted October 14, 2017 Just talk. Good morning. Are we ready for Monday? Hey, TGIF! It's Friday the 13th! This is just friendly chit-chat, and this could be a nice travel buddy, a friend, or turn into more, but you won't know if you don't open that door with some easy conversation. If you talk, the boyfriend will come up, and at some point, if no boyfriend comes up, and your communication has you still head over heals, you'll ask her out. Maybe she'll ask you out. I talk with strangers all the time. It's not a come-on, it's just living in a world with other people. You have "ulterior motives," , but this shouldn't thwart you from just being friendly. It could go somewhere. Enjoy the ride. 3
Author real35 Posted October 15, 2017 Author Posted October 15, 2017 Definitely start a conversation even if it's just about the weather. Let us know how that goes! I will try my friend. 1
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