OverProtective Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 OP....how do us sensitive girls find guys like you? Trial and error? Edit: I forgot to be serious haha, Anyways. If you read my first post you'd know that, my fathers and mothers relationship prior to my dads therapy was Rocky. I remember he would storm out of the house and she'd be sitting there crying her eyes out and i'd hug her and tell her i was there for her and wouldn't let anything bad happen to her and she would tell me Stories about how my dad used to be. I never want my children to see their mother like that, it tore my heart apart. The way i look at it, you get what you put into it. It goes for everything in life! Seriously buy a rose it's only a few bucks and it will make your woman so happy. And Fellas let me tell ya! You never had sex, until you had sex with a fully satisfied woman! Make her smile and she'll make you smile! haha I'm crazy
JanieQP Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 Originally posted by animo If she cries i let her cry and hold her while she cries, i don't try to understand what's wrong because i quite frankly CAN'T. Talking about her problems in a fashion of trying to offer solutions is usually the same as shooting yourself in the foot. Let her talk, let her know you hear her and be supportive... <snip> HM women need a good mechanic <snip> trying to fix stuff is suicide for the guy. Really interesting to read what you write here, animo. I'm hypersensitive a lot of the time but have excellent self-management skills and am extremely careful (probably too careful) not to take this out on anyone else. As I learn to find the balance and stand up for my interests diplomatically, I also feel less "oversensitive". In a relationship with a man, yes dammit, I want to be "overly emotional". I don't want solutions - I'm probably better at finding them than he is, anyway. From him, I want the one context in which I can wail about something completely irrational, because sometimes my feelings =are= irrational. I don't even want to talk about things, b/c that baits the guy into wanting to 'fix' things. Example: a client has been telling me he wants to hire me for a full-time job, a really good position with growth potential and a lot of new responsibility. For rational solutions, I know where to get advice on this. But what I most wanted as I was leaving the client site after the first time he told me this was to be able to go to a man, have a good cry and great comfort s-x. And maybe then cook a good meal together and drink wine and then more s-x. In work and sports, I deal with men rationally all the time, and nobody suspects I have an "overly emotional" side. A relationship is where I want to be able to let that out. But I have yet to meet a guy who can accept this as okay and non-threatening. (I think that my ex accepted and understood that at the end of the relationship, but it was over by then for other reasons.)
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