ras5568 Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 hey everybody. i have a real problem on my hands. me and my girlfriend had been dating for a little over a year and then i got sent to iraq to serve a year with the national guard. now before all of that i wasnt a perfect boyfriend i was the average 19 20 year old guy , but i have changed since then and grew up alot i give flowers for no reason and do all that stuff. anyways my girlfriend was bad depressed about me leaving and 6 months past by and her grandmother died. that about sent her over. she starts hanging around the wrong people and moves ,later on gets into drugs, and come to find out after i get home she cheated on me. now i tried my best to support her mentally and finacially when i was over there in my free time but i never knew about the drug use and cheating. anyways im back in the states march of 05 and after the lies upon lies she breaks down bit by bit telling me the truth. (which took all of 5 months) but we broke up when i got back i hated her ect. ect. about a month ago we kinda start talking again i mean we had been in love, talked about marriage, and it had been over a 2 year relationship. anways i go on this little trip with her and her family and she opens up to me and tells me how shes still in love with me and that she'd been clean and trying to do right since i got back. so we start back dating. however she still lives in the town that she moved to when i was gone which bothers me considering the guy she cheated on me lives up there, one of her ex's which she is friends with, and the trouble she occasionally runs into up there. but on the trip she seemed so happy and carefree. we get back she goes back to where she lives and she gradually has these mood changes. ive had 2 directions to go in. one get in college and 2 go full time army and move out of state. i choose the army. i tell her and she ask about us, i tell her she can come with me and shes happy about everything it would be a great change for the both of us. but now because of some type of influence from somewhere she dosnt know about moving. she tells me she's scared, that she dosnt even know who she is anymore and has to find out before she can be happy, ect, ect. this is a roller coaster cause 1 minute shes great, happy, calls me comes see me, talks about are future. and then all of a sudden its whoa i dont know about this i do love you but i just have to think. and she dosnt want me to come see her theres allways an exscuse and have yet to introduce me to her friends where she stays which is a whopping 40 minutes from me. she hasnt even been wanting to spend time with me knowing i only have mabe a month here and if she dosnt move with me i wont see her again. so whats the deal? i need some advice bad? am i a fool in love?
NTB Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 my advice is............. let her go............you tried your best. you've changed she's changed sometimes change is all it takes to see that 2 people are headed in different directions. you know what you want and your ready to go do what you need to do for yourself, she's on another planet trying to figure things out most likely not just you but with herself also. so i say again let her go, it was fun while it lasted but the last thing you need is someone playing games with your heart i've had this done and it sucks. enjoy what time you have left before you go off to the army and good luck
Author ras5568 Posted August 16, 2005 Author Posted August 16, 2005 thanks for the advice i really appreciate it.
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