xpaperxcutx Posted October 13, 2017 Posted October 13, 2017 Hi, I met a guy, S, on a dating website for Asians, and we have been in communication since Feb? We have only seen each other twice, the first time was brief as we both had to head off to other appointments, and the second one, he traveled from another borough to my home and we went out for dinner. I hadn't considered that a date, but after meeting up then, we've been in communications mainly by text. We got around to talking about Halloween and he mentioned taking me to a haunted house. He said he will get back to me on it. No mention since, although I had brought it up today and he said he will get around to signing us both up tonight. He told me he has been busy with work deadlines, and he goes to dance class every night (he's trying to join a dance team), but I find it a little disheartening to continue texting. Every morning he will text me "Good Morning", then the conversation will die down around mid- afternoon. Then evening comes and I'll get the occasional one to two texts of how your day went... etc. It has become boring. He acted like he was interested, but aside from the haunted house, he hadn't mention anything else. Also he told me about 75% of his friends are females and he doesn't date girls he has known for a very long time. I'm very iffy about him and am not attached. I can ignore him and consider seeing other people. My question is, should I just cut him off?
Cobra_X Posted October 13, 2017 Posted October 13, 2017 My question is, should I just cut him off? I think you have already decided what to do. I will say that I fully support what you are planning. 1
LovelyRose Posted October 13, 2017 Posted October 13, 2017 Hi, I met a guy, S, on a dating website for Asians, and we have been in communication since Feb? We have only seen each other twice, the first time was brief as we both had to head off to other appointments, and the second one, he traveled from another borough to my home and we went out for dinner. I hadn't considered that a date, but after meeting up then, we've been in communications mainly by text. We got around to talking about Halloween and he mentioned taking me to a haunted house. He said he will get back to me on it. No mention since, although I had brought it up today and he said he will get around to signing us both up tonight. He told me he has been busy with work deadlines, and he goes to dance class every night (he's trying to join a dance team), but I find it a little disheartening to continue texting. Every morning he will text me "Good Morning", then the conversation will die down around mid- afternoon. Then evening comes and I'll get the occasional one to two texts of how your day went... etc. It has become boring. He acted like he was interested, but aside from the haunted house, he hadn't mention anything else. Also he told me about 75% of his friends are females and he doesn't date girls he has known for a very long time. I'm very iffy about him and am not attached. I can ignore him and consider seeing other people. My question is, should I just cut him off? YES! Plenty of fish in the sea that will give you a great time.
caveman621 Posted October 13, 2017 Posted October 13, 2017 He has made the time to actually see you TWICE in eight or nine MONTHS? CUT HIM OFF!!!!! 1
act00 Posted October 13, 2017 Posted October 13, 2017 Is this guy local? Two dates over an 8-9 month period is not enough, and I would think that you could get together at least once a week. Even with LD, I would expect visits with each other to increase as time goes on. I also think it's time to cut the rope. You may wish to continue "seeing him," but don't limit yourself and wait for him. Continue to see other people. The whole point of dating is having a companion. You're obviously not getting what you want out of this relationship. Move on.
d0nnivain Posted October 13, 2017 Posted October 13, 2017 If you like him at all, tell him that you wanted a date not a text buddy. He may opt out of your life. But either way, you know this is going nowhere.
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