supersot Posted October 12, 2017 Posted October 12, 2017 So I posted 7 weeks ago this thread about how my bf's older brother moved in with us and is just disrespectful and annoying. It's not any better- in fact worse. This was my post if you are interested... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/633299-my-boyfriend-s-brother-moved-us-i-m-miserable-long#post7402676 I am still in the same position. Now my bf’s brother is trying to guilt trip us saying if we “kick him out” our relationship will never be the same between all of us. He says now he doesn’t understand why he can’t just stay and live with us like a roommate if he pays rent. This was never part of the deal or an option. I haven’t had a roommate since I was 18, and I have zero interest in having one, especially him. The deal was 8 weeks maximum and it’s now been 12 weeks with no end in sight. He is now saying the weeks he was here with his broken foot shouldn’t count since he couldn’t move physically (even though he still was able to go out on tinder dates and bars during that time- lol) This is now causing a huge strain on my relationship with my boyfriend. I feel like the brother is totally taking advantage of us and everyone is just enabling him. My boyfriend is trying to handle it. He talks to him and they just end up arguing with no resolve. I told my bf it’s time to talk to their mom (who has just been avoiding asking any questions about the situation and just giving the brother money to live off of) I feel like if I don’t complain about it to my bf a lot though nothing will get done…and this stress just causes us to argue and all of us are miserable in this house. I have considered leaving until the situation gets better, but I don’t want to have to be the one who will leave the house, and this will obviously cause drama. I have no idea what to do. My boyfriend said he would talk to their mother yesterday, and hasn't. I will have to ask my bf AGAIN what is being done about the brother leaving.
trailwolf Posted October 12, 2017 Posted October 12, 2017 i think your best bet is what you said is to move out until they get it resolved , if your bf really cares about you he will do what needs to be done an kick his brother out to save the relationship , if he doesnt then this will show you where you stand with your bf . 1
coolheadal Posted October 12, 2017 Posted October 12, 2017 (edited) You can't say or do anything that's his older brother. What you can do is go get your own apartment or move back with you family if that's option. No one here on LS can advise you any better than what I said. Yes good to tells your issue, but you have to do what makes you happy. You clearly don't want anyone else with you two. I am just like you 100%, and support you 100% it's just living with him your bf and you no one else. Shouldn't have said okay to the older brother moving in. Who allowed that didn't think. Never, never bring them in. Tell both of them "hey I moving out! I can't handle this anymore sorry bf (name) and the older brother (name) you pretty much screwed my happy life with your younger brother my bf. See ya, maybe later bf at this rate neither of us will ever be happy again! I going to fine me a real man who wants to be with me 100% and not allow family to tell him what he should do. I'll let myself out the door thanks! Your lost not mine, goodbye! Edited October 12, 2017 by coolheadal
Gr8fuln2020 Posted October 12, 2017 Posted October 12, 2017 Tough. Do you have the option of moving in with someone else or finding your own place until you bf boots his brother? Really sad that the older bro is relying on his mother to help pay. He used to have a $100K+ job?! Your bf needs to decide who is more important, you or his leeching bro. Sorry, just ugly situation.
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