DaphneJ Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 I met this guy through my coworkers and we were talking and I decided to tell him how I felt, i felt like he was playing games and leading me on, so i communicated this, my intentions, and how I felt to him. his first text had said this " Hey I'm really sorry i am just focusing on myself right now I have had a rough last couple of months please dont take it personally. i responded with " I understand and thanks for being honest and communicating." we agreed on being friends. I took his response as a nice way of telling me he didnt want to date me but then he sent another text that completely retracted what he had said and left me even more confused and that text said " yea i just need time thanks for being understanding. I'm getting back on track I've got a good deal with this new job so hopefully it works out." so this message tells me that he does like and wants to date me he just wants me to wait until he gets his life back on track. is this accurate assumption, why would he send a text completely retracting his first statement, or is he really not interested in me romantically at all?
stillafool Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 I met this guy through my coworkers and we were talking and I decided to tell him how I felt, i felt like he was playing games and leading me on, so i communicated this, my intentions, and how I felt to him. his first text had said this " Hey I'm really sorry i am just focusing on myself right now I have had a rough last couple of months please dont take it personally. i responded with " I understand and thanks for being honest and communicating." we agreed on being friends. I took his response as a nice way of telling me he didnt want to date me but then he sent another text that completely retracted what he had said and left me even more confused and that text said " yea i just need time thanks for being understanding. [i'm getting back on track I've got a good deal with this new job so hopefully it works out." so this message tells me that he does like and wants to date me he just wants me to wait until he gets his life back on track. is this accurate assumption, why would he send a text completely retracting his first statement, or is he really not interested in me romantically at all? I'm sorry but I'm not getting that he wants to date you later. It sounds more like more follow up info about his life at the present. I think he is saying he needs time to get his life together but he didn't say after that he hopes you two can get together. He already had agreed that you two can just be friends. 1
basil67 Posted October 11, 2017 Posted October 11, 2017 He didn't redact his first statement, he simply elaborated on it. There's nothing here about hoping for a future with you. 3
d0nnivain Posted October 12, 2017 Posted October 12, 2017 The first statement says he doesn't want to date you at this time. The second statement tells you why. Don't wait around for him. He most likely isn't going to pop up in a few months & suddenly want to date you. If he does, the follow up contact will come in the form of a specific request for a date. Absent something that direct assume there is no future.
mortensorchid Posted October 12, 2017 Posted October 12, 2017 Agree with above poster. 1) Saying no, 2) Reason why. You must move on.
The Urbanyst Posted October 12, 2017 Posted October 12, 2017 He doesn't like you. He just feels bad for having to reject you and he doesn't want you to feel bad about yourself. There is no "waiting" or "lets be friends" with people who are into you. Especially with men.
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