my_manda Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 I met a guy a few weeks ago who I had known from High School (ten years ago). During High School, he had gotten a girl pregnant our Senior year and married her. Flash forward to the present...I am five years out of college now, single, and he is now a single man again after eight years of marriage and two of divorce, as well. He has started a very successful business and he and the ex share two children together, but their parting was amicable and there are no issues there. When I ran into this guy we talked for several hours and ended up hanging out all night. Well, he got my number and the following day, he went to Brazil for a nine day business trip. The day he returned he called me and we got together for sushi and a movie. He ended up staying the night. Well, Tues/Wed. he had his children, but we went out again Thurs and Fri, and ended up meeting one another out on Saturday. That was two weeks ago. Last week, we were together Monday/Wednesday. Friday, he had to cancel dinner plans with me last minute (he had to pick his kids up earlier than planned and was very apologetic. I told him that his kids come first.). Anyway, I did not hear from him Saturday, and Sunday I called him for the first time (I have been allowing him to initiate calling, etc.). Well, Sunday when I called him, he and I chatted and he said he would call later. He called me back later that night and we talked for about twenty minutes before getting off the phone. I have never heard from him since. The thing that bothers me is that last week, at the end of the week, I had concert tickets with a friend and she had to cancel so I sent him an email asking if he wanted to go, and he declined saying he might have his kids that night, but was not sure. Has he totally lost interest and decided to call it done?
Neptune Posted August 22, 2005 Posted August 22, 2005 Maybe, no one can say. But, those opposite sex classmates are a sort of fantasy. He may have been wanting to check you out in bed. Having done that, he has gone back to his realistic frame of mind. so, there is no way to say yet.
Cecelius Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Further on to what the above poster said, in light of this experience and the one with the best male friend, perhaps the trend should be altered to focus physicality later in the relationship.
Author my_manda Posted August 23, 2005 Author Posted August 23, 2005 Since I posted my question about a week ago, I thought I would give you all an update for being kind enough to respond to me. Last Tuesday we went out and then again last Thursday. We had lunch together Friday afternoon before his flight left for San Diego for five days (work conference). He returns tomorrow, and so I think it will be interesting to see whether he calls, or what will happen. He will only be here a few days before he is off to London for a week for work, then he goes to Vietnam about a week or so after that. I think that it may be best for me to enoy spending time with him when he is here, but recognize that he is a really busy man and I may not be wise to keep all my eggs in one basket. As clarification....I put in my op that he spent the night which is true, but we did not have sex. I agree with the last poster, the physical part of things can come once I know a little more about this man and what makes him tick.
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