Maria2005 Posted August 16, 2005 Posted August 16, 2005 Just a general question actually, how much of age difference matters? I just met a guy who's like 18, and i'm 24!! I feel so weird, although I feel like we don't have any problems communicating, but it's like I feel that I shouldn't be thinking anything else more than a friend with someone so young. Does anyone have experience in meeting someone younger? Thanks.
agnf666 Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 I think that age doesn't matter. I have been trying to get with a guy that is 25 and I'm 19. So, I don't think it;s an issue. If you like him go for it.
Angelina1433 Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 I think that it depends on how wide the gap is that separates you. When I was 23, I dated a man who was 30. I was "in love" with him, but he certainly was not with me. He liked me, but he was at a totally different place in his life. He wanted marriage, etc., (not from me, I learned) and I just wanted a "boyfriend". However, since then I have always dated men that are older than me, but only by a few years at best. I've never dated younger men (several years younger) - not because I haven't had the chance - but because the maturity level just wasn't there. In your case, if you really like this guy, and he's mature, I'd try. Your age gap isn't that wide. He is young though - right out of high school. Get to know him first since you just met him. Good luck.
Jtizzle Posted August 18, 2005 Posted August 18, 2005 its all in how you feel..age has no limits, just as you can be 82 and be the dumbest person alive..its all in maturity, goals,intellect, and how you feel about the person.. Im 19 and my last bf was 34 and we were in love..and i just met a man who is 29 and hes adorable and adores me..i asked him last night about our age difference, and he said he doesnt mind it because he's alla bout me for my maturity, and my thoughts, and geniune things about ME... whereas i met this guy who is like 39 and we have been associating for about 3months now, and he clearly states to me, "hey look your young and i dont really have a need for a young gf, i mean what can you offer me..all i want is a friends with benefits thing wit you." he said it plain and simple like that..he said that to me, because all he saw in me was "sex", whereas the other older men saw a potential gf in me..they took the time to get to know my mind, personality,etc and they like that stuff about me..whereas the 39yr old didnt take the time to get to explore my mind and see that yea im young, but im makin big things happen, and i have thoughts of my own,etc.. so when it comes down to it, dating a younger man, or dating a older man, or anything shouldnt make you feel bad..age aint nothin but a number..its the experience and lifes obstacles and what a person learns from them, that makes them the person they are today..i dont judge on age anymore, i go for how a person makes me feel, and if we have that "chemistry" together. so if your into dating younger, i say go for it...because there is not alot of good men out there in the world and you gotta stick with one when you find him..and vice versa for the ladies
Maria2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Posted August 19, 2005 Well, after seeing him for 3 nights in a roll, I think I am having a crush on him, *LOL*. Although I still don't know everything about him, in fact very little so far, but so far his mentality and maturity is almost the same as me and perhaps even more mature than me because I am such a big kid myself. I can talk about things very deep yet I can't stop acting like a kid most of the time. We had some really great time together and I think we're seeing each other now, I think he likes me, at least he said so and he kissed me two nights ago. I haven't seen him today and wont' be until Saturday, and I miss him already LOL. I guess you girls are right, age may not be too big of an issue for now anyway, but right now I have something else that is bothering me as well, but not with him and it's gonna be a tough week before I figure things out. I Just hope that we can go alright after I finish my business..... P.S., he's the sweetest and most adorable guy I've known so far, although I have just known him for a week!
shalae204 Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 when i was 22 i met a guy who was 31 we dated for a year and we still talk occasionally so i guess it's only as weird as you make it although i guess it's different for women dating younger men...it always seemed awkward to me anyway but then again i've always dated and/or hung out wirh people older than i am
Zaira Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Most of my boyfriends have been 5 years older. I think it's because women, especially in their teenage years are a LOT more mature than men. In the reverse situation, I think it can work, but it takes tolerance
Dasani Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 I'm 27 and my girlfriend of now over about a month and going... is 20.
Devildog Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 I would have to say life experience is more important than the number of winters a person has seen. I turn 31 within the next week, and recently someone tried to fix me up with woman (girl) who is 23. While that might be only a 7 or 8 year age gap, based on the fact that she is in college on her parents dime, and what I have experienced in my life, the life experience gap jumps up to multiple decades. While it might be fun for a weekend to have a young woman to corrupt into decadence, long term, it isn't of interest to me.
battleworn Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 I think it's because women, especially in their teenage years are a LOT more mature than men. That's what I told the police. <rimshot> Sorry, getting a little punchy at night. Time to sign off this addictive board.
Cecelius Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Yes, it matters. It is a valuable proxy for a person's maturity. Very young people are less suited to certain types of relationships. Sure, you can investigate to see if a particular person is wise beyond their years, but life is too short to do this with everyone.
JS17 Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 I would have to agree with DD that life experience matters more but I've struggled with the same question. I dated a guy 3 years younger who was way way way more mature than some of the guys I've dated that are my own age. It's certainly possible to find someone much younger / older than you that is at the same "place", you just have a better chance of finding it with someone closer to your age.
Cecelius Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 Originally posted by ~Zaira~ Most of my boyfriends have been 5 years older. I think it's because women, especially in their teenage years are a LOT more mature than men. Absolute cr@p. Women in their teens (I think they used to call them "girls") reach for the trappings of maturity at an earlier age, but in general as just as attention seeking, ego ridden, unbalanced and insecure people as boys are (if not more).
Flaura Posted August 23, 2005 Posted August 23, 2005 I've been dating a guy who's 8 years younger than me for the last 15 months. He is 30 and i am 38. We have the most amazing relationship anyone could wish for because we are so compatible in every way. Age is irrelevant. What matters is compatibility.
ClassiFemme Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 Originally posted by Maria2005 Just a general question actually, how much of age difference matters? I just met a guy who's like 18, and i'm 24!! I feel so weird, although I feel like we don't have any problems communicating, but it's like I feel that I shouldn't be thinking anything else more than a friend with someone so young. Does anyone have experience in meeting someone younger? Thanks. I am in the EXACT
ClassiFemme Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 Originally posted by Maria2005 Just a general question actually, how much of age difference matters? I just met a guy who's like 18, and i'm 24!! I feel so weird, although I feel like we don't have any problems communicating, but it's like I feel that I shouldn't be thinking anything else more than a friend with someone so young. Does anyone have experience in meeting someone younger? Thanks. I am in the EXACT same situation as you, except I am a 22 year old girl and the object of my affection is an 18 year old girl. I also met her a week ago and hung out with her for the past 3 days and even though the communication and everything is fine, it definitely is weird because of the age. I think if you really like him, just date him for a while and take things slow... you may find out more about him in the future when you get to know him a little better, and then you'll be able to make the right decision. Just go with the flow and enjoy him for as long as you can is my advice. Good luck!
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